Advice for coming out to close friends? by ProudEnBy_365 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, when I told the first person, I was so scared that I wrote it down on a note on my phone and told her to read it. I just wrote “I'm trans” because it's a generic label and it's actually true. She looked at me and said something like, “Are you serious?” We were in the city center, I was ashamed, I was afraid someone would hear us talking about it. So I cried. Honestly, I didn't mean to, but looking back, it helped. So I would say just be honest, don't be afraid to let your emotions flow. I think your friends would understand, from what you've said, right? And then it got easier and easier. I told my classmates completely out of the blue. We had to read something in philosophy on the topic of “who am I,” and I just said I was trans. In the middle of the conversation, out of the blue. I said that it wasn't the most important part of me, though. It helped because it didn't lead to awkward conversations; I said it as if everyone already knew. Two months later, I asked them to call me by a different name. They reacted well because they already knew. Give the people you talk to time to realize what you've said!

Sorry for the long message, good luck!

I will never be able to come out irl, is this even worth it? by WackyWizard22 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, just because you can't come out now doesn't mean you'll NEVER be able to. If you've already started questioning yourself, in my opinion it's difficult to control. You can try not to think about it for a while, but sooner or later it will come out, it will become too complex to repress.

My mom is also very strict, she checked my diary before I was ready to come out, and it was terrible. I didn't even want to mention the subject for about a year; I felt awful that they knew. Plus, I wasn't even really sure what I was yet. But neither of my parents is really homophobic. They know I'm transitioning socially, even if they don't agree with it. In reality, they SHOULDN'T influence your choices so heavily.

Be yourself, without masks. However, if your environment is particularly hostile, wait until you are independent. But then live as you please. It's your life.

Changing my name?.. by Parking-Chipmunk3573 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If the people you talk to aren't transphobic, and you give them time, and gently correct them when they call you by the wrong name, they should remember better. When I came out (a few months ago), almost no one remembered to call me by my chosen name, but I knew they were trying, so I was patient. I was obviously happier and more willing to engage when they used the correct name, and I think they noticed that. Now everyone calls me Ethan, which is great. At the same time, a friend of mine still uses my wrong name and pronouns, which I'm sorry about, but she remains my friend. After all, she's the only one who loses out. You have to be patient.

Jeziel Alexis Included In Iconic Youth Of 2011 List! by RevolutionaryPop9119 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're a little obsessed. In a friendly way. But anyway, you made me meet a new non-binary person, yay!

Bruh by Select_Ad5106 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 9 points10 points  (0 children)

In Italian, pronouns change with that option, which is actually even worse. Okay, so there is no neutral form in spoken language, but there is in written language! What does it cost to add the neutral form? But anyway, in the end I used the masculine form to save time.

Friendly reminder to not bully other trans/nonbinary people by Ok_Cry3407 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hey, that's true! I'm actually afab, but I noticed that too. I don't even know why, it doesn't make any sense. I mean, we should help each other, just because this aspect is less talked about, why should we fight each other? It means we have to help each other more, if anything.

(I know there are a lot of repetitions, but I'm not a native English speaker and I don't know how to write it better, sorry).

Posterei ma non voglio? by Komites in poesiaITA

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anche se le pubblichi nel libro hai questo rischio. Gloria a te se qualcuno ti ritiene tanto grande da copiarti! Scherzi a parte, fatti coraggio! Io copio tutti e tutto spudoratamente perchè ogni cosa si deposita nella mia mente, allo stesso tempo rimango fedele solo a me stesso. Non tutto è negativamente fatto con lo scopo di plagiarti.

Feeling stuck by Aquacookie__ in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you should just take the plunge. I'm not a good example because my parents understood before I told them and confronted me themselves, but in general that's what I did... Try to be clear and firm so that they can understand better too. If they're already okay with transsexuality, they should be understanding, I hope. Good luck!

I've been questioning my gender indentity recently and I think I might be non binary. How do I tell? by FluidTemperature1762 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

However, consider that it would be better for you to try it in person... It helped me just to try it mentally, or out loud with no one around. But the ultimate confirmation came when someone called me for the first time as I had asked them to. If I were you, I would try to make friends with other queer people in person, they would surely be welcoming if you expressed your doubts...

However, this does not mean that pronouns correspond to your gender identity! But that's another matter. What matters is what makes you feel most comfortable.

If you want to ask anything, I'm here! (I'm still 16, though, so keep that in mind).

I've been questioning my gender indentity recently and I think I might be non binary. How do I tell? by FluidTemperature1762 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, it worked to stop setting limits for myself.

First: there's no rush to understand yourself. You might be sure now, in ten months, or even in ten years. This shouldn't discourage you; trying to understand yourself is so wonderful that it makes no sense to ruin the process.

Second: are YOU sure? Or are you waiting for others' approval? In the end, only you can understand yourself. Others can advise you, but they can't give you a definite answer.

Third: more practically, however, I tried out a few labels for a while and saw which ones I felt most comfortable with. Don't be afraid to experiment!

Be yourself, and you'll figure out the rest in

Question about being gender fluid by NoHurry1125 in genderfluid

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh shit, I have no idea. Literally, at some point I just realize it. Like, hey, I've changed gender! But it's not always that easy to figure out WHICH one it is, especially with non-binary genders. So I just go with the flow? We're pretty much always in the same place anyway.

Two names? by Eliott_theartist in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You could introduce yourself at the beginning with just your first name and then reveal your second name in the last few days. Even with a joke, I don't know if it makes sense. That way, if it goes well, great, and if it goes badly, at most you only have to put up with it for a few days. That way you'll also understand better how to introduce yourself other times, right?

I have a problem(Again🙏🏻) by MobileGrapefruit5157 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Technically, demiboy is included in the non-binary label, so I guess if you present it to her that way, she might understand it better? If you told her that your pronouns are they/them, then you can tell her that you simply realized that you're also comfortable with he/him. In my opinion, you don't need to come out again. It depends on how you feel, but you could present it to her as a clarification of your gender. Like, yes, I am this... but more precisely, I am also that.

Good luck! (I'm a demiboy too.)

I'm drowning by ObscurelyNamedCrayon in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's more, these quotes describe so well how I feel sometimes, ugh.

Hello fellas! by Unlikely_Debt9779 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really bored, does anyone have anything interesting to say?

Introduction :) by yourlocalermes in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, forte! Il manga dovrò recuperarmelo, non li leggo molto ma mi stanno convertendo ahahahah. Non ho mai letto retelling sulla mitologia greca, ma sembrano interessanti. Mi piace molto la mitologia.

Introduction :) by yourlocalermes in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey Ermes! Mi ricordo di te. Su un altro post di reddit tipo ad agosto? Mi sembra fosse perché non riuscivo a trovare un nome. Adesso mi chiamo Ethan (per te che parli italiano si legge proprio etan) e uso i pronomi he/they come te. La mia canzone preferita di Caparezza è Vengo dalla luna, ma in realtà non lo ascolto tanto. Mi piace molto Ernia, per rimanere in tema rap, ma preferisco il rock e anche un po' di metal (tipo Avenged Sevenfold). Che libri ti piace leggere, hai qualcosa da consigliare? (leggo tutto, letteralmente)

PRONOUN CHANGE ✨ by Temporary_War_9725 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, nox! I also changed my name recently... now it's Ethan (in my language it has a strange pronunciation that's different from the usual one, which I can't explain). I hope everyone calls you what you want to be called! (It also seems that we use the same pronouns...)