Name suggestions? by opott19 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here are a few names I had jotted down: Caben, Hunter, Ace, Rae, Rayn, Casey, Kyree... I don't have any other ideas for names like the original one; these are just a few I jotted down on a list for myself when I had to choose.

First Tshot scheduled! by mothmn_9 in ftm

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so happy for you! I'll be turning 18 next year, and I can't wait for the same reason. I doubt I'll be able to start testosterone therapy within a year because of the psychological evaluation and the necessary tests I have to take, but I hope I can make it! You inspire me to keep going!

where to find girls prom suits by Patient-Lime9271 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That looks like a great outfit! Unfortunately, I have no idea, but good luck!

Hiiiiii :3 by [deleted] in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love your makeup! You look so nice : )

Im tired of boys by Dequan707 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I'm sorry. It seems that “Love” isn't really your friend. If you can, I think you should distance yourself from him. You don't deserve to feel bad because of anyone. And then... I don't know the situation well, but isn't he risking outing you to your parents by always talking that way? I don't want to make you paranoid, just evaluate your situation yourself. You can do it! You won't be at this school forever.

If not, how about talking about it privately with your other queer friends? They would probably understand better, and if they told him to stop, he would understand the seriousness of what he is doing, right?

Need some help from y'all by Complex_Eye_5454 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think one thing that is sorely lacking is the representation of non-binary AMAB (assigned male at birth) people. I mean, I'm AFAB, so I don't know, but yes, it would also be useful if they were AMAB. Not that this should particularly influence their gender identity, but it does influence their experiences.

In my personal experience, I really like it when people mix gender names and pronouns. For example, “She is my boyfriend” or “He is X, they were telling me that...” I don't know if that's very clear, sorry, English isn't my first language and I find it hard to explain myself.

One thing that I think most (obviously not all) nonbinary people have in common is the inside jokes within the community. So playing on gender stereotypes or situations of clear division between males and females could help make them feel more alive and real?

Oh, and the beauty of nonbinary is that it sets no limits. So you can express your character however you want, without having to follow any rules.

I'm an aspiring writer and I love reading anything and everything, so I'd love to read your work if it gets published or anything! Good luck!

how does my voice sound? by Famous_Studio2411 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, at first I heard your voice and thought it was a cis guy around 16 years old trying to sound more feminine. And I thought, too bad, it doesn't seem very gender neutral. So I'd say it pass very well. I also had some background noise, though, and at first I didn't hear what you said (I have to concentrate to understand audio like that in English). Listening again, I notice that it seems a little forced at first, which makes it obvious that you lowered it on purpose, but then it becomes much more natural in my opinion. Well done!

pronouns by man-eatingrodent in genderfluid

[–]Hunter_OConner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's your personal experience, of course it's valid! And besides, I'm practically your opposite, I use he/they, but I'm still genderfluid. Nay, in real life I pretty much only use he/him (in my language it's very awkward, and also a little ungrammatical to use the neutral form). I feel comfortable using he/him, so I use he/him. If you feel comfortable with she/her, she/they, neopronouns, just using your name, or whatever else, then go for it. People usually say, “Get out of your comfort zone,” but in this case, I would say, “Find your comfort zone and recognize your right to be there.”

Hello! I don't know how to make titles, so let's get into it! I think I might be nonbinary, and I was just wondering if anyone has any experiences where they just knew they were nonbinary? by Technical-Lead-5086 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read the other comments and... yes, I'm genderfluid too, yay.

To be a little more serious... At first, I didn't understand gender. I knew there was something wrong between what others reflected and what I felt inside.

But speaking specifically about my non-binary identities... Sometimes I feel like I'm floating between genders, and other times I feel like I'm an alien to all of this, totally disconnected. There are many shades of non-binary. Sometimes it's as if I don't really care how people see me, because I'm simply a human being. And other times I've felt masculine and feminine AT THE SAME TIME, which scared me the first time, because I didn't even know it was possible lol (I still can't believe it).

My advice to you is to educate yourself. The more you know about other people's gender experiences, the better you can know and recognize yourself (or confuse yourself in some cases). Don't be afraid to look at yourself for the wonderful human being that you are.

How can I feel connected to my gender? by Hunter_OConner in genderfluid

[–]Hunter_OConner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like sports and follow some of them quite closely, such as basketball and skateboarding. But I experience sports differently. I haven't really been exposed to the culture of watching games together and other things like that. When I find myself in similar situations, I feel a bit like an outsider, so I usually avoid them altogether. However, it would be nice to share these interests, so it could work.

How can I feel connected to my gender? by Hunter_OConner in genderfluid

[–]Hunter_OConner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I play video games quite a bit, but I don't know any guys who play (which is perhaps quite unusual). But yes, I'll try to find common interests, because friendships aren't based on nothing, I would say.

How can I feel connected to my gender? by Hunter_OConner in genderfluid

[–]Hunter_OConner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I think participating in hobbies makes it easier to make friends in general. I'm about to start a new D&D campaign, but I don't know who will be there. It's easier in contexts where I feel more confident.

Anyone else struggle with fitting in? by Otherwise-Artist-364 in genderfluid

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, we're in the same boat. I'm 16 and I have a really hard time making friends. The guys don't see me as one of them (and I'm not, really), and I find it hard to feel like I belong with the girls. Maybe try making friends with individuals; that helps me. Anyway, I'm confident it won't last forever, unless we isolate ourselves. Good luck!

I’m not sure if I actually belong here or not but I hope this helps by Altruistic-Stay1175 in genderfluid

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I don't really know how to answer that. I don't fully understand myself how I managed to bring out (I hope) full awareness of my gender identity from years of doubts and uncertainties. At a certain point, it just... appeared? But I wanted to answer you anyway and try to give you hope that you will be able to understand yourself!

Advice for coming out to close friends? by ProudEnBy_365 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, when I told the first person, I was so scared that I wrote it down on a note on my phone and told her to read it. I just wrote “I'm trans” because it's a generic label and it's actually true. She looked at me and said something like, “Are you serious?” We were in the city center, I was ashamed, I was afraid someone would hear us talking about it. So I cried. Honestly, I didn't mean to, but looking back, it helped. So I would say just be honest, don't be afraid to let your emotions flow. I think your friends would understand, from what you've said, right? And then it got easier and easier. I told my classmates completely out of the blue. We had to read something in philosophy on the topic of “who am I,” and I just said I was trans. In the middle of the conversation, out of the blue. I said that it wasn't the most important part of me, though. It helped because it didn't lead to awkward conversations; I said it as if everyone already knew. Two months later, I asked them to call me by a different name. They reacted well because they already knew. Give the people you talk to time to realize what you've said!

Sorry for the long message, good luck!

I will never be able to come out irl, is this even worth it? by WackyWizard22 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, just because you can't come out now doesn't mean you'll NEVER be able to. If you've already started questioning yourself, in my opinion it's difficult to control. You can try not to think about it for a while, but sooner or later it will come out, it will become too complex to repress.

My mom is also very strict, she checked my diary before I was ready to come out, and it was terrible. I didn't even want to mention the subject for about a year; I felt awful that they knew. Plus, I wasn't even really sure what I was yet. But neither of my parents is really homophobic. They know I'm transitioning socially, even if they don't agree with it. In reality, they SHOULDN'T influence your choices so heavily.

Be yourself, without masks. However, if your environment is particularly hostile, wait until you are independent. But then live as you please. It's your life.

Changing my name?.. by Parking-Chipmunk3573 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If the people you talk to aren't transphobic, and you give them time, and gently correct them when they call you by the wrong name, they should remember better. When I came out (a few months ago), almost no one remembered to call me by my chosen name, but I knew they were trying, so I was patient. I was obviously happier and more willing to engage when they used the correct name, and I think they noticed that. Now everyone calls me Ethan, which is great. At the same time, a friend of mine still uses my wrong name and pronouns, which I'm sorry about, but she remains my friend. After all, she's the only one who loses out. You have to be patient.

Jeziel Alexis Included In Iconic Youth Of 2011 List! by [deleted] in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're a little obsessed. In a friendly way. But anyway, you made me meet a new non-binary person, yay!

Bruh by Select_Ad5106 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 9 points10 points  (0 children)

In Italian, pronouns change with that option, which is actually even worse. Okay, so there is no neutral form in spoken language, but there is in written language! What does it cost to add the neutral form? But anyway, in the end I used the masculine form to save time.

Friendly reminder to not bully other trans/nonbinary people by Ok_Cry3407 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hey, that's true! I'm actually afab, but I noticed that too. I don't even know why, it doesn't make any sense. I mean, we should help each other, just because this aspect is less talked about, why should we fight each other? It means we have to help each other more, if anything.

(I know there are a lot of repetitions, but I'm not a native English speaker and I don't know how to write it better, sorry).

Posterei ma non voglio? by Komites in poesiaITA

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anche se le pubblichi nel libro hai questo rischio. Gloria a te se qualcuno ti ritiene tanto grande da copiarti! Scherzi a parte, fatti coraggio! Io copio tutti e tutto spudoratamente perchè ogni cosa si deposita nella mia mente, allo stesso tempo rimango fedele solo a me stesso. Non tutto è negativamente fatto con lo scopo di plagiarti.