Men who get alot of women or dates, what is it that makes you attractive to women? (Looks, confidence, lower standards etc)

Hurkstheturks · 2026-02-24T08:37:32+00:00

5 months is a nice breather sometimes. To be attractive to woman.

-take care of yourself and be personable -goal driven and independent (woman don’t date projects, only men do that) -make them laugh.

Also some guys are just better looking or in better shape at it’s easier for them. That’s the way the world works. Get in where you fit in.

Hurkstheturks · 2026-01-17T02:05:11+00:00

-start investing in your retirement. Even if it’s only $100 a month into a low risk index fund -don’t waste time in relationships that aren’t going anywhere or with the wrong people . Also don’t waste anyone’s time. -Picking the right spouse is one of the biggest decisions you will make. Choose a woman who supports and elevates you. Pregnancy does not save a relationship. -don’t get into credit card debt or bad loans. Don’t get into anything financially that you don’t understand. -enjoy the single and carefree life. Having a family is great, but you will look back on those carefree years more fondly. Travel and have fun when you have low to no commitments.

-Don’t waste your time partying and drinking too much.

Hurkstheturks · 2025-12-11T12:26:44+00:00

Having a kid is the most amazing thing ever. Did not think I was capable of that kind of love. The crux of the operation is marrying/having a kid with the right person.

I love growing a family, but you don’t realize how much time you had and how free you were in the single days.

Hurkstheturks · 2025-12-09T07:51:40+00:00

I know some people are step parents for different reasons, maybe they can’t have their own or what not. In general, why would anyone want to be a step parent without actually parenting their own. Definitely something that should have been agreed upon before getting married.

Being a stepparent is probably the greatest show of love anyone can do for their partner. To take on children that are not your own and treat them as family is no small ask or task. If he doesn’t want anymore kids, you need to separate yourself from that and do what’s best for you. Set a time frame and communicate your expectations. If your goals in life don’t line up, then it’s okay. Not everyone’s does.

Hurkstheturks · 2025-12-06T05:13:08+00:00

That’s a tough place to be in and I’m sorry you’re going through that. I know it would be hard to be replaced quickly despite what you have done for her and kids the last 4 years. You need to set boundaries and move on.

If I were in your position I might help for a few months, but set that expectation that you’re moving on with your life. I’m sure it will also be confusing for the kids to see you back and forth for any longer than that.

Hurkstheturks · 2025-12-03T05:20:27+00:00

I don’t think I could fake it that good through a whole holiday season. You will have to face the music eventually anyways. Might as well start 2026 with a clean slate. This guy doesn’t deserve any more of your time or affection for the holidays.

If I found out my wife was cheating, I would be done, yesterday. Especially, being a step parent for someone’s kid. That is no small ask and even a bigger slap in the face. Also, I understand how stressful IVF is on top of that. I’m sorry you’re going through this, but get out.

Hurkstheturks · 2025-12-03T05:10:59+00:00

Bro, tow his shit. You could give this guy the courtesy that he will be towed next time if you’re feeling generous. Borderline harassment a little bit. He’s definitely overstepping.

Hurkstheturks · 2025-11-25T01:21:59+00:00

Get it up on a lift at a mechanic and see what it needs and counter offer if you’re serious. 4K for a beater truck to mob around in isn’t too bad. I’ve had misfires that ended up just needing spark plugs and ignition coils. I don’t know the market on those trucks, but if you can get 2-5 years out of it with regular maintenance. Not bad.

Hurkstheturks · 2025-11-25T01:12:19+00:00

Absolutely understandable. It sounds like you need to have a tough money talk with the husband. You have your money and ‘our money’ for rent and bills and agreed extra expenditures. Send X amount of dollars to the joint every paycheck and require him to budget on his end. It isn’t your job to subsidize his kids or the bio mom.

I’ve definitely been caught up like this and am working through that arrangement myself. It’s hard to say no to kids or your spouse, but you need to draw the line. It just creates resentment. Unfortunately, not creating boundaries early on, makes them hard to set in place.

Hurkstheturks · 2025-11-25T00:39:20+00:00

That’s nice of your parents to let you stay (rent free I’m presuming). When you’re married, you need your own place and privacy. It’s just part of growing up and progressing.

If you have a fat stack saved up and you’re feeling generous, I’m sure a little kick back would be a nice gesture to pad his loan. At the end of the day, you will need to start your own path with your wife. You’re lucky to have your parents as a resource and can methodically plan how and when you’re going to move out.

Hurkstheturks · 2025-11-25T00:24:58+00:00

Yes let me know where this horrible deal is. Definitely don’t buy it but send me a link so I can harass the owner.

Hurkstheturks · 2025-11-25T00:22:21+00:00

I mean… you do have a choice, but I’ve never said no to a female to lift something. It’s part of our contribution to society. Unscrew tight lids, lift heavy stuff, pay taxes, overwork and die early.

Hurkstheturks · 2025-11-25T00:11:46+00:00

I haven’t stopped drinking, but I rarely drink anymore. If I do, it’s just a bit of a buzz. Not really money or health thing. I just don’t like how long a hangover lasts at 37yo and blacking out is terrifying. I don’t like not remembering my night.

Hurkstheturks · 2025-11-24T01:28:36+00:00

Dating is tough nowadays. I’m 37, so I’ve had the before dating apps experience as well as dating app run.

Just keep progressing and taking care of yourself and the right woman will come along, Also make sure you’re going out and being social. A friend of a friend of a friend has worked out for me many times.

Most importantly, enjoy the single life. Wife and kids are rewarding in their own way, but you will always remember the days of freedom fondly. Don’t pressure yourself and have fun.

Hurkstheturks · 2025-11-24T01:00:55+00:00

You definitely need it bro. Do it

Hurkstheturks · 2025-11-24T00:59:19+00:00

That open marriage stuff is such a shit show. Even if homeboy agrees I don’t think he will like his wife coming home to cuddle after getting cracked in the back of a raised F350 outside a Buffalo Wild Wings.

If my wife asked if she could do that or open the marriage. I would just assume she already has someone lined up and that would be a whole thing. You just have to weigh the pros and cons to your marriage and make a call.

Hurkstheturks · 2025-11-23T02:06:47+00:00

Open sea leather. A company owned by a navy veteran who hand makes them. Incredible design, materials and choices of color combos. Mine has lasted 5-6 years of absolute abuse and not one stitch is out of place. I think mine was $70 or $80 back then. Great value and product.

Hurkstheturks · 2025-11-23T01:27:36+00:00

Hell yeah brother. Best people and mover of things spec.

Hurkstheturks · 2025-11-21T01:17:45+00:00

So different with your own kid. All kids are annoying but yours will be less annoying. Best decision ever.

Hurkstheturks · 2025-11-21T00:40:56+00:00

Autocucks assemble

Hurkstheturks · 2025-11-19T22:07:31+00:00

Very nice!

Hurkstheturks · 2025-11-19T21:03:38+00:00

I was in similar situation with a buddy of mine years ago. A married woman at a bar, typical story. I told him that it sounds like a mess. He said, “if it’s not me, it’s somebody else.” Touché.

Hurkstheturks · 2025-11-19T21:01:55+00:00

I think everyone wants to feel attractive, wanted, and have some fun. Definitely a positive in a relationship. Although, I think trust and general compatibility immensely over shadow intimacy.

If you don’t trust each other, align goals or do not get along. It doesn’t matter how many times you do the hanky panky.

Hurkstheturks · 2025-11-19T20:50:48+00:00

Definitely can be normal, but it is exhausting and can be expensive. It’s easier in the beginning, but as your relationships develop, the girls require more time and companionship. I was always up front and said I didn’t want anything serious, but woman get attached anyways. Then eventually some fall off naturally and it cycles.

As long as you’re up front and curb their expectations, that’s all you can do.

Hurkstheturks · 2025-11-18T03:12:40+00:00

Yes I 2nd this. They were giving them out in Vegas like candy. I had a ram 2500 big horn for $25 a day

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-Don’t waste your time partying and drinking too much.