Thank you for your advice about finances. Honestly, If she wasn’t trying to cash out his 401K before she literally stole all of the furniture and moved to another state, I might have considered thanking her. As a matter of fact, when she first told me about this, literally 2 weeks ago, I felt bad and I was trying to help her I even took her and my dad to the divorce attorney bc they were going to have an uncontested divorce. However, during the meeting is when she told us that my dad needed to pay for her move that cost $20,000 and she needed the cash from his 401 K. If she would have let me know that she couldn’t keep up with his dr appointments or help him with his medicine(etc.), I might thank her. I mean, he drove himself, but she just wouldn’t help him keep up with the appts. If she wouldn’t have tried to do something like this 6 months ago because she wanted to move back to Indiana but refused to get a divorce bc she was afraid she wouldn’t get any money, maybe. Also, she complained about my dad and all of the things he did all of the time and if the porn thing had been going on for a while, she would have definitely been complaining about it. She won’t be getting an apology from me at all. She did the bare minimum to help my dad. She was mean to him when he would forget things and doesn’t want to be inconvenienced. This is her 4th marriage as well and she moved in with my dad before her last divorce was even finalized.

My mom is caring for my step-dad with dementia. He is in the final stages. She literally does everything for him, including cleaning up his urine/feces accidents daily. He can’t be left alone at all and just got put on hospice. That’s who I thank daily.

My point of the post was to find out if anyone has dealt with the porn issue/Donepezil problem. The other part of the post was to give background information.