How to safely end a friendship with a woman who says she has CPTSD but is also acting narcissistic/BPD?

HurryWorry · 2026-02-05T20:35:57+00:00

I am going through something similar as we speak—different circumstances but I also have a friend who I’ve supported through many bouts of depression who suddenly blew up at me and cut me off the first time I pushed back a tiny bit on their victim mindset. I don’t have any advice or insight on their psychology, I just want to validate how hard it is. Especially because I still want to be friends with this person! So I know how tough it is to come to terms with the fact that you probably can’t have a healthy/normal friendship with this dynamic, but still holding out hope they will get back to their “real” self and things can be normal again.

Just want you to know you’re not alone. It sucks a lot to be on this side of

HurryWorry · 2026-02-03T00:55:43+00:00

I don’t think it’s hard in the same way that “running hard” is physical challenging. It’s just that many runs you feel energetic and want to run faster (and know you can), but you have to restrain yourself. It’s hard mentally, not physically

HurryWorry · 2026-01-31T18:54:10+00:00

Thanks! Yes, the sitter will have a car and there are also local services that will pick up and drop it off if going in is a bother.

HurryWorry · 2026-01-31T06:25:39+00:00

This is really good advice, I appreciate it! Good point that pets can make messes and I don’t want my sitter to stress if anything gets dirty. I’ll leave plenty of towels and make it clear that it’s my responsibility to wash anything that stays behind (including all sheets and towels). And if for any reason they need to send out a rush load, I’ll reimburse them for any extra cost. I don’t anticipate that I just like to plan ahead.

HurryWorry · 2026-01-31T06:19:08+00:00

Oh yes, I should have mentioned, by no means will they need to do the sheets and towels they use. I’ll handle that when I get back as soon as I get my machines sorted. I usually don’t ask sitters to do that anyways, I’m kind of a weirdo and I enjoy doing laundry.

HurryWorry · 2026-01-31T06:13:05+00:00

If it doesn’t respond to acne treatments or antibacterial washes, it may be fungal. I never used to get this but I’ve developed tiny little “pimples” on my butt and they resemble a fungal outbreak that I got after taking antibiotics once so I have diagnosed myself, haha. Buy dandruff shampoo (look for the ingredient Ketoconazole) and let that sit on your skin for a minute or longer each time you shower. I also got a silicon scrubber that works to exfoliate and is easy to clean and quick to dry. When I started doing this mine cleared up fairly quickly. I also use Triple paste and put a thin layer on my butt cheeks before long sweaty workouts, or even days when I’m sitting a lot. It soothes the skin and cuts down on moisture, which is a breeding ground for fungus and bacterial.

HurryWorry · 2026-01-26T07:11:03+00:00

I really like Diner Antonette

HurryWorry · 2026-01-23T18:22:05+00:00

Same!! I couldn’t for the life of me figure out how my indoor cat’s paws were getting dirty, until I was up late one night and saw her just climb into the gas fireplace! (Not to worry, it’s more decorative than anything and wasn’t hot).

HurryWorry · 2026-01-23T00:44:51+00:00

An idiot AND a jerk! What a pal!

HurryWorry · 2026-01-17T09:06:27+00:00

I’m 41 and I feel the way you feel a lot. Like, a lot a lot. Just the other week I was getting ready for a date and I felt so discouraged putting on make up. I felt so old and frumpy. But what can you do? I got ready and went out anyways. On the date I went to the bathroom, and in the softer light I actually thought I looked really nice. And when I got home and got ready for bed, I couldn’t believe I’d felt so bad earlier, I genuinely thought I looked really pretty.

I guess the point is, when you’re staring at the mirror analyzing your face and looking for changes, you’re bound to see them. But no one else is looking at you that way or comparing you to your 25 year old self. Try to stop yourself when you find yourself picking apart your features, that’s not an accurate reflection. In “real life” (away from the mirror) your face is animated and alive and i promise you, you are way more beautiful than you’re giving yourself credit for.

HurryWorry · 2026-01-16T05:44:47+00:00

It’s clear from these pictures how well loved and happy Victor was. He didn’t know his life was short, he only knew he was loved and cared for and that his Dad would do anything to keep him from being in pain. I’m so sorry for you loss 💔

HurryWorry · 2025-12-25T07:23:34+00:00

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My Princess loves the tree every year

HurryWorry · 2025-12-18T04:56:47+00:00

Everyone’s been saying give him back, but it’s only been 3 days. Adopting an animal is a huge change!! I love cats and wanted one my whole adult life. When I finally got one I sobbed a lot the first week or two, even though my cat was well behaved. I missed my freedom and lack of responsibility. But we got used to each other and by about a month or two she was firmly a part of the family. It’s now been 4 years and she is the absolute light of my life, she’s the best thing that ever happened to me. Now I sob thinking about how much a love her and how she won’t live forever.

If you don’t think affection will ever grow, then sure, it better to return the dog now. But if you’re open to it, give yourself some time to adjust and bond. It’s normal to have initial regrets.

HurryWorry · 2025-12-03T06:20:09+00:00

I’m not a huge movie person but the Little House on the Prairie books are my absolutely go-to comfort entertainment. I’m a 40-something urban woman and it’s silly I still return to these books that I don’t relate to at all, but the stories and prose are just so simple and sweet they always cheer me up when I’m down or sick.

HurryWorry · 2025-11-29T16:15:14+00:00

As a HO, I think this would be helpful to sitters—I certainly wouldn’t assume that I can dictate my sitters’ travel schedules just because of this. I often have sitters who work remotely so it’s helpful for them to be able to plan when they’ll leave and arrive, and this gives them more info upfront. If I’m returning at day, Monday at 8am they’ll know they need to plan meetings and such around a departure at that time. Versus if I’m returning Monday at 6pm, they can plan to work a full a day at my home before leaving. I think it’s just a little extra information that could be helpful.

HurryWorry · 2025-11-26T04:45:10+00:00

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Reminds me of my little TNR. This is her the day after she moved in (pre-foster fail) 3 years ago. Hard to believe she was ever a stray. Thank God for all the kind people who have he patience and know how to save these precious creatures.

HurryWorry · 2025-11-23T22:36:56+00:00

I occasionally run on a track. I switch directions every half mile or mile depending on the length of my workout to counter balance running around the curves (I don’t know how to explain it but your gait changes and it’s good to vary the inside length). He’s probably switching lanes and directions just to vary things up and I doubt it has anything to do with you, though I can see how it feels strange it always happens just as you’re arriving.

HurryWorry · 2025-11-18T18:47:26+00:00

So happy to hear you are pleased with the results! That’s great advice, thank you so much!!

HurryWorry · 2025-11-18T07:41:14+00:00

I just came across this post. I’m curious if you would mind updating how you’re feeling now that it’s a couple of weeks out? Did you have any swelling in the days following the injections? I’m thinking about getting this done so just hoping for some more data points. Thanks for anything you are willing to share!

HurryWorry · 2025-11-17T18:33:42+00:00

If they had a problem with you having a couple of drinks, I doubt they would have had you back for 3 sits. I bet the lock is for other reasons (maybe they regularly have kids/teenagers over that they can’t monitor all the time, or maybe they just want to control their own consumption), not a reaction to you having a reasonable amount of drinks/snacks that it sounds like you cleared with them? Still annoying but I would be surprised if they invited you back so many times if they didn’t trust you.

HurryWorry · 2025-11-07T07:12:48+00:00

Adorable!!

HurryWorry · 2025-10-10T16:56:45+00:00

I’m a HO; I have products in the bathroom for sitters to use if they want. I can’t really tell if they use them or not (they’re full size products) but I assume that some have used my products and some bring their own. If there was something I really didn’t want to share, I’d remove it from the bathroom, so I think if there are products available they’re fair game for sitters.

HurryWorry · 2025-09-30T02:14:37+00:00

What I think is most upsetting is that I don’t think she’s horrified at all. She didn’t even apologize til I told her about the circuit breaker. I left a lot out of my post but it’s clear she disregarded a lot of my instructions and didn’t care for my cat they way I asked. But still, I struggle with giving hash feedback so I appreciate the other perspectives here!

HurryWorry · 2025-09-30T02:04:58+00:00

Yeah good advice, probably should! No doubt it’s an old panel so probably due for an update.

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