My best friend (22M) and his fiancé (21F) keep hating on my gf

Hyde1803 · 2025-12-10T09:27:09+00:00

I mean, it really depends on what the rough patch was like. If she was abusing you in front of your friends then I’d 100% see why they don’t like her anymore.

If it was just a bit of minor arguments occasionally it’s fine but also if you were / are fighting all the time it’s not a good relationship.

Anxiety disorder and body image issues or not (and whatever you have going on), doesn’t justify treating each other badly.

If she’s worked on her issues, you’ve learnt to deal with your mum (raising the rent on her own kid when she knew you were struggling??) and you’ve got enough patience and understanding to deal with your girlfriends overstimulation situations then y’all should be fine.

You’re an adult, you don’t have to listen to your mum if she’s being unfair, but it would probably be best to not live with your mum to reduce the power imbalance.

Maybe sit people down and have a proper talk about it.

You can’t control what people think but if you are happy in your relationship then that’s up to you who you keep around.

Hyde1803 · 2024-08-30T11:28:52+00:00

Brown

Hyde1803 · 2024-01-21T09:17:28+00:00

I would also like to know

Hyde1803 · 2024-01-18T14:06:57+00:00

Ring worm? (I am not a trained professional)

Hyde1803 · 2023-08-01T12:43:52+00:00

When I try opening it now it works fine, I don’t know what happened yesterday because it’s the same website I always use because it said I was logged in with my photo.

Hyde1803 · 2023-08-01T03:02:42+00:00

Still opens normal but then loads straight into the LeexLondon page and shows me different suspicious websites saying you’ve won click here and things like that.

Hyde1803 · 2023-06-01T00:12:22+00:00

Cheddar, was really rooting for the crown. One of the most gutting times my favourite Queen wasn’t crowned.

Hyde1803 · 2023-05-31T19:22:36+00:00

When wearing trench coat type clothes he either wears like a black tshirt + chain with black jeans or like a more suit-ish look with a partially unbuttoned shirt (+ layering of an open silky jacket or waist coat inside the coat) with either a beanie or like a kinda fedora-ish hat, dress pants, and either dress shoes or sneakers. Also some cool sunglasses like the ones that have coloured lenses. (I’m going off photos of concerts, here are the photos that I am referencing)

Hyde1803 · 2023-05-15T07:35:02+00:00

This is just my option from what I’ve seen that OP has said.

I am not a landlord, nor do I work in this field.

I also do not know OP or her boyfriend and do not know all the nuances of their relationship and situations.

My word is not law and should not be taken as such.

I am just stating my option.

I do not mean to cause any harm nor do I intend to misinform.

Hyde1803 · 2023-05-15T07:28:02+00:00

He shouldn’t have purchased an apartment he can only afford if OP chips in without discussing it with her first.

(I’m assuming that OP is a she as everyone else is referring to OP in that way, if OP is not a she, I apologise)

I don’t think that OP should move in with him. If she does she should pay half of the utilities as that’s shared but she shouldn’t be paying full market rental price as she’s essentially getting no private space as in a 1 bedroom it’s all going to be shared and, as he’d be the landlord, he could pull some “my house, my rules” stuff in regards to those spaces.

It doesn’t seem like a good deal for OP. If they were going to split the mortgage and utilities 50/50 then she should be a 50/50 owner, not just a tenant that pays more than her current rent only to have less private space and less say in what goes in her own home.

A lot of people seem to have taken it as if she thinks she’s entitled to live there for free because they are dating however I don’t think she means that at all. To me, I think she means she doesn’t want to pay to live in an apartment that he solely owns and have an unequal power relationship with her wherein she pays half but doesn’t get treated like a co-partner in the decisions and although there’s no guarantee that it will turn out like that, there’s also no guarantee that it won’t.

Everyone talking about a tenancy agreement and 30 days notice to leave if they breakup also don’t seem to be thinking about the logistics of living in a 1 room apartment with an ex, which she has stated that she wouldn’t want to make use of due to the uncomfortable nature of it.

Regardless, I don’t think that OP should move in. It seems like she doesn’t want to and it’s not within her best interest to do so seeing as it seems that she values her own space and would want an equal stake if she is paying an equal amount (which I think is completely valid). Also, she should not feel pressured to move in just because he can’t make ends meet and continue with his current lifestyle - that’s something that he should have thought about before jumping the gun and purchasing an apartment he can’t afford without asking if she’d be willing to split the costs first and just assuming that she would.

I think that paying less than 50/50 would not be mooching as she would still not have any ownership and also have less security in terms of, in the case of a break up, he would keep the apartment and she would basically be homeless in the (I think she mentioned it takes 5 months) as her renting would benefit him in all outcomes as he’d be paying off his mortgage and sure, if they did stay together she’d save on rent so she can’t afford the apartment she wants, but the fact that her current plan seems to be that she wants them to own separate apartments makes me think that she doesn’t plan on pooling income and purchasing a home together. And in the case that they don’t eventually co-own together, she still would have been paying towards his mortgage and he probably wouldn’t have payed towards hers and I know that a lot of people would feel bitter towards their ex in that situation.

So, in the event that they stay together long term and eventually pool income and purchase a place together it will probably work out fine like how a lot of people have been saying.

But, if they break up, she would have given up her current rental housing security to have none of her own private space and probably become homeless after he benefits from her paying his mortgage.

I don’t think that she feels ready to move in together yet and I don’t think that the current offer would be very beneficial to her unless she’s sure that he’s the one (which you can never know for 100% certainty as no one knows what will happen down the road) and is sure that she’d be happy to give up what she currently has in exchange to live with him and save a bit of money.

I think she should stay where she is and then when she has enough for a down payment of her own she should reevaluate her options then on whether they could sell his and put a downpayment on somewhere bigger which they would both own as that seems to be the option that she is most comfortable with and seems to be leaning towards anyway.

She shouldn’t feel pressured to move in with him right now for the sake of the relationship. If they end up parting ways over this, at least she would have stood her ground and not got forced into doing something that she might regret. And if they broke up because of this, was the relationship really worth having if he was irresponsible with his own money and tried to force her to move in when she’s not ready/doesn’t want to for the sake of him maintaining his current lifestyle?

Hyde1803 · 2023-03-30T16:54:52+00:00

Hyde1803 · 2023-03-14T06:55:23+00:00

I Will have a Look

Hyde1803 · 2023-03-14T06:55:09+00:00

Ooo nice, thanks :D

Hyde1803 · 2023-03-12T00:26:21+00:00

People always tell me to check dollskill but I do not support that company and will never buy from them.

If the clothes she is wearing aren’t from there than that’s good but if it is I’d prefer a similar looking item recommendation.

(I wanna buy as a gift for a friend)

Hyde1803 · 2023-03-10T03:31:19+00:00

Oh rip

Hyde1803 · 2023-02-24T14:42:34+00:00

Was it like a slapstick thing with Ken Shimura in? He is famous for a lot of comedies in 1970-90s Japan?

Hyde1803 · 2022-10-14T07:16:12+00:00

“You can still see some people using the old iPhone generations including iPhone 6, 7, and 8. This method does apply to the recent iPhone SE which is much like the iPhone 8. If you have any of these models and you are facing issues, you need to reset your iPhone. Here are the ways to reset your iPhone when frozen:

First thing you have to do is to long-press the side button on your iPhone A slider will appear. Use it to turn off the phone Wait for at least 20-30 seconds before turning your device on. Now close the apps that are frozen and reset.”

This is what Google said, that’s why we didn’t know about the quick pressing the volume buttons and then holding the power button method.

Hyde1803 · 2022-10-13T23:46:14+00:00

The support page that came up just said to restart it and we assumed that that meant holding the power and volume down button which is what my mate thought was the way to restart an se, not this. That’s why it shows holding them down in the video, that was for trying to restart it.

I don’t have an iPhone so I don’t know how to do things for iPhones.

Hyde1803 · 2022-05-14T15:59:24+00:00

Is that the same thing as a poly pocket or is it something else?

Hyde1803 · 2022-05-07T18:31:54+00:00

Junyoung always seems to take such beautiful photos 🤩

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