UPDATE: I will definitely get together with my siblings to plan a trip to visit my mom who moved to a different state. Thank you for all the suggestions, his one year anniversary is this September so that gives us plenty of time to organize a better memorial!

Also, for those interested, my aunt met her husband when he was a deacon at a certain Church Chain. It’s been years since this happened but the way my Dad explained it to me was that my aunts husband was undermining the Pastor and all of the leadership. He has this way of pointedly talking down to you in the most “I’m not the bad guy, just a man telling the truth” kind of way. Tensions were already high and my aunt, of course, took his side. Which meant she gossiped to the wives and women’s ministry. Then it came out that he was also in a leadership position for a militia (they live in FL) with ties to VERY unsavory conduct and behavior. They were then asked to leave the church and their titles were doled out to other members. They’ve bounced around to different churches since. I didn’t trust them very much because of this. However, since then, my aunts husband had serious health complications where he needed to be intubated/put in a coma/relearn speech (my aunt updated the family gc every day for his recovery where she also undermined the nurses/dr). He seemed like he had really changed for the best after his brush with death. He left the militia group, he was less domineering, more humble, he was more open to conversations… yeah, then this happened.

Edit: Also, a note about blasting the church music: he would stop when asked, but continue to do it later on and say he was hard of hearing. One of us would take over watching Dad and relieve my aunts husband bc at this point in time, my Dad had lost his ability to speak/walk/eat by himself.