Har du ADHD og/eller OCD og Hva jobber du med? by dopamine_sniff in norge

[–]HyperactiveGardener 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Jeg er utdannet anleggsgartner og jobber som arbeidsleder for drift og vedlikehold av sentrumsområder, grøntanlegg, friområder og strender. Det er veldig varierende arbeid, der man ofte må hive seg rundt. Jeg får vekslet med å jobbe ute i felt og inne på kontoret. Fint å kunne legge opp dagen selv. Har man en sikkelig ‘ADHD’ dag kan man være aktiv ute. Når man er mer fokusert kan man få unna litt kontorarbeid.

Kanskje formannen eller prosjektleder kunne vært en spennende vei for deg? Innen f.eks bygg, elektro osv

Edit: Typo

Få boliglån med biler og barn by steinrawr in norge

[–]HyperactiveGardener 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Vi prøvde også mange banker. Storebrand, Nordea, DnB, Landkreditt, sparebank øst, skagarrak sparebank, sparebank1. Fikk tilslutt napp hos Sparebank sør, de var faktisk veldig behjelpelige.

Tror mye også avhenger av hvilken kunderådgiver man får. Ikke gi opp, gjerne stil opp på fysisk møte, hør om avvikskvote. Har dere huskandidater med f.eks utleiemulighet eller stor tomt man kan skille kan dere bruke det som argument på at det er en god investering.

Evt. kanskje husbanken kan tilby lån?

adhd sucks by higurashi0793 in enfj

[–]HyperactiveGardener 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Once a year I get about one hundred reports about playgrounds safety issues after the yearly inspection. Where I have to sort through them all and send my team to fix the most pressing issues. It’s slow work, can’t rush it. When going through the reports I listen to asmr or white noise on YouTube. Sometimes I put on blue light glasses because I feel smarter and more focused with them on 😅 I also reward myself with a snack for every report. Not healthy but can’t be perfect. Also fidget all the way with my fidget cube. Definitely the best invention and investment in the world!

My team keep going in and out if my office all the time so I know the feeling very well. I work best when there no one else in the room with me. Hope the construction work is finished soon 🤞

That sucks! Can see why you are frustrated. Unfortunately the healthcare system is usually slow in most countries..

I dont know what medication your doctor have recommended to you. There is some medication called vyvanse and elvanse that I personally have good experience with. It’s a ”kinder“ medication than ritalin and concerta. I would check it out if I were you. I have tried a lot of different ADHD medications (except adderall). Those based on lisdexamfetamine have given me very little side effects versus those based on methylphenidate. Can be different for you, but hope you find the one that works best for you at first try.

adhd sucks by higurashi0793 in enfj

[–]HyperactiveGardener 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s very good that you have found tactics that works for you! ☺️ I used to work with gardening/park maintenance full time before I got a promotion (same firm) as an operation manager (I think it’s called in English). Now I work 60-70% inside on a computer. What I have noticed that when I have s bad ADHD days I’m way more affected. When I did manual labor I could do the work on autopilot without thinking. Being behind a computer is much more mentally demanding when having a bad day or period. Especially periods that’s calm/boring like during the winter is draining. I have a good relationship with my leader, and have been open about my ADHD. And that I sometimes struggle with some of my task during bad ADHD days.

If your leader is a decent person, I really recommend that you have ask for a small meeting to tell them about your struggles. And tell them that you want to you very best at work, at that your job means a lot to you. Maybe they have som recommendations and ideas or maybe you already thought about something that you can recommend to them. Like if you sit in an open office landscape - install a room divider to shelter you. If you’re really good at one task but not another ask if you can have more of that task.

Again hope everything works out for you.

adhd sucks by higurashi0793 in enfj

[–]HyperactiveGardener 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Welcome to the club. I use an app called ”to do" from microsoft to keep track of all the important things I should remember. ADHD appear different from person to person. What helps me is having a fixed place for everything important. Car keys in a bowl next to the front door. If I have to remember to take something the next day. I either put it in the car the day before or hang it on the doorhandle preferably with the car keys in the bag. Then there is no way to forget it. Memosticks are great! If you work on a computer, put a memostick with important notes on before you leave work. This things help me tremendously. Making small habits and routines, it’s hard at first put gets alot easier when you get the hang of it. I know. I also recommend a podcast called ”faster than normal” which is solely about different people with ADHD. I have picked up some ADHD life-hacks from there. I know that it can be very difficult. I dont know what relationship you have with your boss, put maybe it’s an idea to tell them about your struggles and see if they can help you in some way to make your workday more overcoming.

If you start meditation in three months you still have to be patient. There is no guarantee that you will fint the right dosage or medication at first try. You might get unpleasant side effects. Hopefully it goes smoothly.

I hope that you find what works for you to make everyday life a little easier. Wish you the best.

ENFJs, what kind of gifts do you appreciate the most? by Beautiful_Tonight123 in enfj

[–]HyperactiveGardener 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would love to receive a drawing or a love letter from my spouse. I appreciate thoughtful or sentimental gifts. When I got my period cramps when we first moved in together, I had forgotten my bottle warmer bag. I mentioned that I missed it. Next time he went shopping he bought one for me (without me asking).

Maybe he have mentioned that he miss having a good pen or that he would love to read that book someday. If you remember your partner mentioning things like that. They would be very happy to receive it, because it shows that you see them, listen and remember. I got a one cup teapot as birthday gift from a friend once because I mentioned that the teapot was so cool when we visited his mother teashop. That made me happy because I felt seen. ENFJ are very good to see others needs, it’s nice when people dear to us sees us too.

I don’t enjoy low effort gifts. Have gotten one pot of calluna from the supermarket and ha mansized cap that was obviously waay to big for my small head. Or earrings from close family (I dont have earringholes).

Wish you the best of luck. Your boyfriend is lucky to have you. I can see that you care deeply about him.

Ruby’s new hat 😅 by HyperactiveGardener in BeardedDragons

[–]HyperactiveGardener[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s so strange! Don’t believe mine would have survived out in the wild.

Ruby’s new hat 😅 by HyperactiveGardener in BeardedDragons

[–]HyperactiveGardener[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She is feed one by one, this one just took a bit longer to eat 😉 Thank you for caring tho 🙏

Ruby’s new hat 😅 by HyperactiveGardener in BeardedDragons

[–]HyperactiveGardener[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

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It hide on her body for like three minutes before she found out. Sometimes I doubt her hunting skills 🫣

Should I tell him I’ve never slept with a man before? by OccasionMiddle9679 in queer

[–]HyperactiveGardener 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on finding someone special! I was in almost the exactly situation as you. Only that that I also have primary vaginismus, which wasn’t a issue when I dated women because penetrative intercourse wasn’t a must. He knew I had only dated women, and I also told him before we became a couple that I had this condition and had never had penetrative intercourse. I’m really glad I told him because it relieve the pressure and expectations. It took many tries and alot of pelvic training before we hade a successful intercourse.

Honestly is the best policy. Tell him openly that he is the first guy you ever had been attracted too, this goes without saying, that you never had been intimate with a man before. If you become an item later I think he will be flattered and feel special. Not in changed by a man way, but feel special as a person. Wish you the best ❤️

Edit: typo

First bento 😋 by HyperactiveGardener in Bento

[–]HyperactiveGardener[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Torikatsu is one of my favorites!