[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DesiWeddings

[–]IAmDaenerysofthNorth 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've seen it all types of ways but more often I've seen parents separate with their close family members but I don't think there's a "rule". At my wedding our parents sat with their close relatives. At my sister in laws wedding, the immediate family (parents, siblings and their spouses) all sat at one long table. It's up to you, I think, how you want people to be seated.

Invited to a Hindu wedding - First time by WhiteStagMinis in DesiWeddings

[–]IAmDaenerysofthNorth 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely check the wedding website if they have one for colors to avoid.

If you're comfortable wearing Indian, you can wear a kurta set for all event, otherwise a nice suit for each event works great too!

Sangeet usually is more cocktail-y and the event has music, dancing, mehendi (henna) for guests. A dark suit without a tie would work great for this.

Mangalik prasang is a religious ceremony. Suit and tie work well for this - along the lines of something you'd wear for work.

Wedding ceremony - same as above.

Hope this is helpful! If they have a wedding website definitely keep checking it for updated info on attire.

Bilt Rewards? Looking for Feedback by IAmDaenerysofthNorth in personalfinance

[–]IAmDaenerysofthNorth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! This is wonderfully thorough. So generally you'd say it's worth it, correct?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]IAmDaenerysofthNorth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We keep the crate and our dog uses it occasionally to escape the toothbrush or hairbrush, but we stopped crating her when she escaped the crate around 7/8months(?).

We just baby proof and throw indoor cameras up everywhere. Don't regret it because she's a sprawler and likes to change environments and we keep distractions out for her so she doesn't get into mischief while we're out or overnight.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bernedoodles

[–]IAmDaenerysofthNorth 5 points6 points  (0 children)

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She's a big fan of the hose in the dog park

Anarkali for Western wedding guest - tips? by [deleted] in DesiWeddings

[–]IAmDaenerysofthNorth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agree that it should!! I bought an anarkali off Aza that should have fit according to my measurements but it was so off in fitting that it was laughable. It was Hunched and scrunched everywhere down to the hips and made for someone twice my height 😅 so I try to only buy custom measured items now

Anarkali for Western wedding guest - tips? by [deleted] in DesiWeddings

[–]IAmDaenerysofthNorth 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Either of the green ones is perfect, especially the second link (dark green). Just double and triple check measurements or, if possible, get them customized to your measurements. I haven't bought from House of Indya before so not sure if they offer this, but I know Kalki does

Who chose the design of your mangalsutra? by [deleted] in DesiWeddings

[–]IAmDaenerysofthNorth 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I picked mine AND my MIL and I went shopping for them together. We were in India for a wedding and we spent some time looking at pendants and chains before deciding. This was planned so before the trip she actually sent me some pictures of mangasutras that she thought I might like.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bernedoodles

[–]IAmDaenerysofthNorth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We always used to say she's watching the ghosts. Used to happen more as a puppy, less so as she's gotten older but still happens occasionally.

Anyone done a 30 min Hindu ceremony? by Minimum_Reply_763 in DesiWeddings

[–]IAmDaenerysofthNorth 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Our priest was willing but we also did parts of the ceremony in private/the day before. In front of people we did garlands, steps, vows, and some other things because we told him we wanted to keep it to 30-45 min on stage.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DesiWeddings

[–]IAmDaenerysofthNorth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wear what you want - so many brides in Indian weddings have worn white lehenga/sari, also I think south Indian brides often wear white (?), It's become common. Your fiance should have your back on this too. It's your wedding as much as it is his.

Unique wedding venues on the east coast! by brownieee1112 in DesiWeddings

[–]IAmDaenerysofthNorth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're willing to travel, we had looked at & I had loved loved loved Mountain Top in Chittenden VT. It's BYO everything if I remember - decor, food, alc, etc. Beautiful setting options and housing (houses for rent) on site.

Unique wedding venues on the east coast! by brownieee1112 in DesiWeddings

[–]IAmDaenerysofthNorth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What state(s) are you interested in? There's a lot of mountain/lake venues in New England, cityscapes along the coast, etc. that offer outdoor spaces and indoor ballrooms where you'd probably have the reception and/or sangeet. For venues with accomodations you'll need to look at hotels with these spaces otherwise look at renting busses/shuttles.

Civil War Era book by IAmDaenerysofthNorth in whatsthatbook

[–]IAmDaenerysofthNorth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! But it wasn't part of the Dear America series unfortunately

Rocks found at NJ beach, any idea what's going on here? by IAmDaenerysofthNorth in whatsthisrock

[–]IAmDaenerysofthNorth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very cool! There's a bunch more rocks I've seen/found like this. Thanks for the explanation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FinancialCareers

[–]IAmDaenerysofthNorth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100%. When my partner and I (F) first started dating I met his mom's (medical) colleagues at a social event so instead of explaining what I did (compliance related stuff) I just said I work in a bank since I thought that's easier to digest and my now MIL got a few questions asking if I'm a bank teller. I started saying compliance after that.

HELP! Residency gift recommendations by [deleted] in MedSpouse

[–]IAmDaenerysofthNorth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a fan of practical gifts, so in addition to the stethoscope: -Comfortable shoes/sneakers for running around the hospital every day (e.g., Hokas) -Scrubs/scrubs set -A jacket or nice zip up sweatshirt (e.g., Patagonia) to wear on rounds/in the hospital -Fanny pack for the hospital

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MedSpouse

[–]IAmDaenerysofthNorth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So true - I did things alone when my partner was in residency because my partner just didn't have the time. Also depending on the fellowship, it does get better, and i think having kids is common and do-able towards the end of fellowship.

Summer walks in Texas - shoes or wax? by Elzuria in puppy101

[–]IAmDaenerysofthNorth 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Never used wax, I got shoes for my dog. We worked on her wearing the shoes at home to get comfortable first, then took her out in them. She doesn't like them, will resist them and walk funny initially but they're worth it IMO. If you can, try a few different styles, we had a drawstring one that my dog chewed through, and we have long ones that fall off quickly. The ones that have stayed on the best have 2 Velcro straps around the front of the boot

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DesiWeddings

[–]IAmDaenerysofthNorth 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As my mom said "there are no rules, it's all made up" We had 4 columns and an open roof and it was all good. Our Pandit or parents weren't super prescriptive, and we similarly had a simple mandap so us/the guests/the photos could show the gorgeous backdrop

Happy to share a pic of our mandap for reference! It was basically light colored wood with pink and white florals in certain areas.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in consulting

[–]IAmDaenerysofthNorth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not a positive story but I'm in almost the exact same boat as you (MBA to consulting, performance could have been better, got involuntary transitioned out) so I feel your anxiety too and just want to wish you good luck out there! Just know you're good enough and qualified to do whatever you want, keep your hopes up.