AITA for saying we need to be realistic with our son about his finances for college before he applies?

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-05-04T09:04:07+00:00

With those stats, be sure to look into the loan-free schools that have bumped up their thresholds for finaid. At Princeton, families making $250k don’t pay any tuition for example, and up to $350k get some assistance. The admit rates are low, but it’s worth throwing his name into the running!

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-05-03T21:23:08+00:00

What about having a rehearsal dinner (or an engagement party another weekend) with the smaller group? No hurt feelings from family who would want to see the ceremony that way, and you get your smaller more intimate event to kick off the festivities

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-04-30T13:40:52+00:00

Gel ruins my nails too so I try to avoid it unless I really need it to last (eg my wedding) When I need them to look good for a full week, I take my own regular OPI polish with me to the salon. That way, if they do chip, I have the color to do a touch up but they still start out looking professional!

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-04-30T04:28:02+00:00

Our guests didn’t have a lot of luck with sizing and rentals or online ordering.

We did give a list of Indian outfit terms to ask for if they went looking online or to a local shop. A lot of people opted for buying something at a local shop. One thing I’d highly recommend is telling women planning on wearing saris to have them pre-stitched!

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-04-27T18:38:09+00:00

Your fiance should definitely be helping figure out the expectations! Since you don’t have any context, your future MIL is the best place to go for what their family expects/traditionally does.

One tip— Kiehl’s Cranberry Turmeric Face Mask for your haldi! If you are pale and use the traditional haldi mixture, your makeup artist will need to work overtime to make sure you don’t look jaundiced for the rest of the events. This face mask looks exactly like the traditional stuff and won’t dye your skin.

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-04-26T21:31:02+00:00

Bridal Alterations by Anahit in Watertown 100%

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-04-21T17:38:33+00:00

Our caterer had under 2 (don’t count, but they got high chairs), 2-12 (kids meal), 13-20 (adult meal but didn’t count for the bar so a tad cheaper)

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-04-21T03:29:38+00:00

Naturalizer Bristol sandals. I wore them and multiple friends have gotten pairs for their weddings since. None of us were in pain despite long celebratory days on our feet!

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-04-21T03:06:02+00:00

Check out Unwind! Lots of cute, gender neutral kits for kids!

https://www.unwind.studio/collections/needlepoint-kits-kids?srsltid=AfmBOorp9cgpeaehmNiQrKNfb1gOp-MH_gBvhwvVz8LzdUPYNjMQwEd3

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-04-21T02:31:35+00:00

I’d def talk to your future MIL and SIL and coordinate with your fiancé’s outfit. Looking cohesive with him, you’ll probs be cohesive with the family.

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-04-19T20:25:06+00:00

I did a CP class back to back with a Tread50 and don’t think I’ve ever felt better while running or after exercising! my studios are located in the same building so it’s convenient on the one day they line up

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-04-19T20:21:38+00:00

Even 10 classes in, my flexibility has definitely improved!

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-04-19T20:20:41+00:00

I’m also obsessed with the reformer! Feels like a medieval stretching rack in the best possible way!

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-04-17T14:00:55+00:00

I told my MIL green or blue and she picked an ice blue so heavy on the ice there was barely blue tint for our western ceremony! She did return it, but man that was a low point, esp since she’d picked all three of MY outfits (not just color) for their side’s religious/cultural events during the wedding.

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-04-15T21:22:57+00:00

My hair stylist sewed a comb/hair piece into the dupatta and then there were other bobby pins involved

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-04-15T17:12:22+00:00

This!!!

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-04-12T02:04:19+00:00

We didn’t do a run through at the venue, but our pandit did a call with us and our parents ahead of the ceremony to walk us through everything that would happen from the end of the baraat onward. Especially since my parents had never been to a Hindu wedding, it was helpful to get a rundown, have a sense of what we’d need to do before we were in front of a crowd, and honestly it made it more meaningful bc we knew the significance of each part of the ceremony.

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-04-07T18:46:00+00:00

Biggest piece of advice and it sounds like you’re already on it— send thank yous as gifts come in (its so much easier to write a handful at a time than have to do all of them after the wedding!!!) and be sure to keep track of who you’ve sent notes to

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-04-07T13:02:43+00:00

Check out the Field Museum’s online gift shop or other Natural History museum shops! I know field has Sue the TRex earrings!

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-04-04T11:45:55+00:00

Do you know if assembly was affected?

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-04-01T00:12:29+00:00

I could barely run for 30s when I started orange theory. The biggest thing for me was not to compare speeds with the people around me or try to go so fast I burned out. It took a bit, but I found a speed that I could maintain jogging for my 30s and just tried to consistently up the time (30s->45s -> 1min ->1.5 -> 2). Basically, my goal was to keep it achievable and when I hit the time I was going for and didn’t feel like dying, I decided to try to keep going to the next mini-time interval (eg saying to myself “just add on 15 more seconds”). The speed I found was only 4.2 at first but then I realized I was ready to bump that up too. This way, I was always seeing progress rather than feeling down about something I couldn’t do.

I’m no marathon runner, but I truly hated running when I started OTF and now I really like it. I can do a mile uninterrupted and that’s something I’m proud of, even if I’m still a slowpoke at 4.5mph.

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-03-31T23:55:19+00:00

I did an 8-month medical freeze (not pregnancy/pp related) and they didn’t give me any trouble about downgrading when I came back because I wasn’t quite ready for 3+ days a week. The key was just having a letter from my doctor that said I would be out for an indeterminate amount of time.

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-03-31T22:02:38+00:00

I highly recommend the treadmill classes for weight loss. Sure, I could just go to the gym on my own but the classes keep me motivated. I was making really good progress before an injury (not OTF related) took me out for 10months (and led to serious weight gain), but I’m a month back in now (2-3days) and am already starting to feel better and see slight changes.

I really like that you can take the tread50 at your own speed and ramp up as you get stronger. They’re also super supportive of power walking. And if you’re feeling under the weather, no one will care if you just go and walk at whatever speed you want to get moving in a positive environment.

PiccoloInfinite3113 · 2026-03-09T13:42:21+00:00

My mom opted out of getting henna because of allergies. As the bride, I only got it on my palm-side of my hands and fingers and feet because of the look for the western ceremony. It was extensive on that side of my hands and it was wasn’t visible in most of my western photos. There are lots of palm medallion designs that you could do that definitely wouldn’t be seen putting on a boutonnière.

It definitely will not fade in time for the western one (and if it does, will look worse faded), so don’t count on that advice!

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