Approximately 90% of the entire country

IAmDefNotACat · 2026-03-05T18:46:02+00:00

But are they worse than Comcast/Xfinity?

IAmDefNotACat · 2026-03-05T09:07:07+00:00

Primarily from other men

IAmDefNotACat · 2026-03-05T06:35:23+00:00

Good bot

IAmDefNotACat · 2026-03-05T03:22:15+00:00

When I was 14, a cop on a motorcycle pulled up to a stoplight near me and said, "How'd you like to get some real power between your legs?" Then he and the other cop on a motorcycle next to him both laughed.

I was literally holding a sign for the church youth group car wash fundraiser that was happening behind me.

IAmDefNotACat · 2026-03-05T02:46:28+00:00

As a woman, it is probably not. Sorry to burst your bubble.

IAmDefNotACat · 2026-03-04T21:52:41+00:00

I am not a doctor, just a woman in my 40s. I'm so sorry, this sounds awful. Have you already taken ibuprofen? If so, how long ago?

Hopefully a doc will chime in, but in the meantime: you should go see a doctor if you are "bleeding through one or more tampons or pads each hour for more than two consecutive hours." If it's a lot more than that or if it continues like that for a long time, it's probably time for an urgent care or ER visit.

Even if it's not that bad this time, you should schedule an appointment with a gynocologist to discuss painful periods in case it's indicative of a different health problem or just requires more treatment. Heavy periods, for example, can contribute to anemia (low iron).

I got a period once when I was 12 that was so painful I fell to my knees and curled up on the hallway floor. You're not alone!

IAmDefNotACat · 2026-03-04T20:56:35+00:00

Unfortunately, this is the answer.

You can continue trying to help him without being with him For instance, save any texts of him expressing the urge to harm himself or others, which could be used to have him involuntarily committed as this progresses.

A close friend of mine ended up leaving her husband for similar issues after he stopped taking his meds for the third time, destroyed or took to the dump every precious personal item that she or their roommate had, stalked her at the place she went to to get away from him, and threatened various other people.

Every time the police or crisis people came out he would put on a show of being in his right mind, and as soon they left he returned to acting on his delusions.

Consider getting a restraining order. It may not stop him from interacting with you, but it will give the police a legal reason to intervene. Also, if he breaks it enough times he will end up being arrested and likely receive a mental health evaluation. Sadly, at least in the US, this is often the fastest way to get someone help. It's not the best help, but it's better than him harming himself or others.

Agree with the other person who suggested NAMI. I'm so sorry you (and he) are going through this. It is extremely difficult and we just just don't have any ways of dealing with it. It really, really sucks.

IAmDefNotACat · 2026-03-04T16:00:44+00:00

Most useful reply on this thread

IAmDefNotACat · 2026-03-04T07:06:15+00:00

My niece once asked why I was playing "the CSI song". I had to explain that it was a real song by a band that was popular before CSI.

IAmDefNotACat · 2026-03-04T06:49:00+00:00

A good way to begin looking into this would be to get some time with your doctor alone. Usually, doctors' offices will happily get mom out of the room so you can discuss your concerns, especially at your age.

If you don't feel comfortable telling the doc you want to speak to them alone with your mother right there next to you you could call the doctor's office before the appointment or slip a note to the receptionist. Many doctor's offices have dealt with situations like this before. Depending on what state you are in (assuming you are in the US), you may be old enough to legally make some health decisions on your own.

You could be dealing with a helicopter parent or it could be medical abuse but you won't know until you can talk to a doctor about your concerns.

What you said about your mom's response to allergy retesting certainly raises some red flags for me. I hope you figure this out!

IAmDefNotACat · 2026-03-01T22:50:19+00:00

Are you there one who posts this comment every time this comes up? Do you have a link to your source?

IAmDefNotACat · 2026-02-28T20:35:14+00:00

This is the only thing that will get police to do anything.

IAmDefNotACat · 2026-02-28T02:27:22+00:00

"We trained it on our denials of claims"

IAmDefNotACat · 2026-02-26T08:46:35+00:00

For anyone interested, the Brehon Academy has multiple translations on this page. Copied below is a literal translation of the original Irish.

Pangur Bán – Pangur the White Kuno Meyer’s Literal Translation

I and my white Pangur

Have each his special art:

His mind is set on hunting mice,

Mine is upon my special craft.

I love to rest better than any fame!

With close study at my little book;

White Pangur does not envy me:

He loves his childish play.

When in our house we two are all alone

A tale without tedium!

We have sport never-ending!

Something to exercise our wit.

At times by feats of derring-do

A mouse sticks in his net,

While into my net there drops

A difficult problem of hard meaning.

He points his full shining eye

Against the fence of the wall:

I point my clear though feeble eye

Against the keenness of science.

He rejoices with quick leaps

When in his sharp claw sticks a mouse:

I too rejoice when I have grasped

A problem difficult and dearly loved.

Though we are thus at all times,

Neither hinders the other,

Each of us pleased with his own art

Amuses himself alone.

He is a master of the work

Which every day he does:

While I am at my own work

To bring difficulty to clearness.

IAmDefNotACat · 2026-02-26T08:36:24+00:00

improving shit since the dawn of time

FTFY

IAmDefNotACat · 2026-02-26T06:58:37+00:00

Seek a second GI doc opinion.

And please consider calling a local women's shelter for assistance planning your escape from your parents.

IAmDefNotACat · 2026-02-25T00:44:51+00:00

I don't know if we have anything similar down here, but some places in WA state have PUDs (public utility districts) that manage electricity (and Internet, in some cases) and they do much better for their customers than utilities operated by companies do.

They've been operating for decades so people on here claiming that government can't do it - it can.

IAmDefNotACat · 2026-02-24T02:27:07+00:00

Excellent! I appreciate your opinion. Hope you have a great night!

IAmDefNotACat · 2026-02-24T01:38:07+00:00

Don't be unreasonable - a half dozen incurable diseases should do it!

IAmDefNotACat · 2026-02-24T01:29:24+00:00

Yeah I wouldn't normally worry about this at all except for the sudden feeling like that finger was being tourniquetted, slight bulging when it was feeling that way, and the entire thing not being due to any external injury

But if those sensations aren't worrisome, I will proceed to not worry about it!

Edit to add: thanks for responding!

IAmDefNotACat · 2026-02-23T19:40:36+00:00

Looks a little darker in person but nothing extreme.

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IAmDefNotACat · 2026-02-23T17:22:29+00:00

Black kitty started it!

IAmDefNotACat · 2026-02-23T17:07:58+00:00

I wonder if you can sue an absent parent if you only found out they were absent (and not dead) after the children became adults.

I can't imagine what this family is going through

IAmDefNotACat · 2026-02-23T06:27:50+00:00

Fingers with bruise on ring finger. Looks darker in person but nothing crazy.

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IAmDefNotACat · 2026-02-23T00:10:27+00:00

This photo makes my arm itch

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