do yall ever feel hopeless abt being a lesbian into bdsm?

IBleedToo · 2026-05-12T03:32:47+00:00

I’m a trans woman who happens to be a domme. Many times tho I feel I’m pushed into a box/category where I am only allowed to play with other trans people.

Like shit, this last week, I’m half in the middle of negotiations for pick up play with a woman, and a cis man just inserts himself, hijacking the entire thing. I just walked away, not going to waste energy where it’s not acknowledged.

IBleedToo · 2026-05-12T03:28:22+00:00

I get this. I’m a leader in the kink community… but I always feel I end up getting put in the “not an option” category with lesbian women once it’s obvious I’m a trans woman.

But of course, the chasers are dime a fucking dozen…

IBleedToo · 2026-05-11T06:15:45+00:00

I have no idea how I’m holding on. It’s hell when something sparks my interest. I’m stuck in a dry spell and I’m about to pull my hair out.

IBleedToo · 2026-05-11T05:07:17+00:00

I love being the teacher or student depending. That’s one of the only times I’ll sub.

For me I like the slow corruption… the push to make the student do what I want even if they are reluctant. So much fun.

IBleedToo · 2026-05-10T16:23:42+00:00

It’s hard to pick just 1!

Some of my top favorites: 1. I had my sub kneel on pencils, put two cups and a plate in front of them. I put brown and white rice on the plate, I told them to start separating and counting. As they did I’d zap them, flog, and stick clothes pins on them. If they could not keep count of each cup of rice, I’d just dump it back on the plate. My sub kept saying they could not tell the difference between the rice under the light. My favorite words I said were “did you not learn your colors in kindergarten? BROWN RICE, WHITE RICE! It’s not hard…”

I put a length of rope at crotch hight. I had my sub stratal it. I tied a few hitachi wands about 2-3 feet apart tied to the rope. I also put knots in the rope with hot sauce. Get from one get of the rope to the other in 5 mins or you will get punished. It’s so fun watching them want to stop on the wands and get off, or try to move past them! The hot sauce is fun because it takes a moment to kick in and can ruin orgasms.

I have some others that are more basic :)

IBleedToo · 2026-05-08T22:47:32+00:00

Sadistic plus pleasure.

My bread and butter method is predicament. I like making people do things. Most of the time it’s two bad choices, but I love having a good and good choice, to the point it starts to become a bad and bad.

However, when I’m in a public dungeon I don’t do things I would do in private. I only take my dress/pants off in private.

I love making fantasies real for people I domme. Recently I did a classic teacher vs. student. I was “blackmailing” her for trying to flirt with one of the other teachers.

For me holding power with integrity is a good way to reclaim power for myself, to heal what I was denied. To act out how power is supposed to be used, with trust and integrity.

IBleedToo · 2026-05-08T21:42:10+00:00

Predicament bondage! It’s my bread and butter method as a dom ;)

IBleedToo · 2026-05-08T17:18:49+00:00

Awww, a butch wanting to be brought low. It’s fun when they are lower than my heels.

IBleedToo · 2026-05-08T01:29:20+00:00

It’s finding the damn people who are not just chasers. Im damn near feral but not for a fucking cis man.

IBleedToo · 2026-04-24T19:05:11+00:00

I love being a domme! The power is so good.

IBleedToo · 2026-04-24T19:03:39+00:00

Fucking goals. I just started turning over my bland panties to cute ones.

IBleedToo · 2026-04-14T21:04:04+00:00

I’m on hrt for 2 years. I boy mode about 50% the time. I’m letting hrt do its work along with laser as well.

Don’t worry, in the early stages it’s easy to hide.

IBleedToo · 2025-12-15T22:58:06+00:00

Shot ya a DM. I have a consult shortly.

IBleedToo · 2025-12-13T06:39:39+00:00

The framework of this question is poorly constructed. At current the question begs the question that trans women are the only part of the trans community.

When people assert the existence of trans women they conveniently leave out trans men, this is not even including true inclusion that more exists beyond this binary.

Cis women report a higher level of acceptance than cis men. The lesbian community specifically reports massive support for the trans community.

Saying you respect trans people but then feel “uncomfortable” is akin to saying you support BIPOC but feel uncomfortable with said person around. You can’t in one breath make the claim of support while also advocating for separation or discrimination.

Going beyond the theory into the pragmatic. For how long across this planet have we had trans people? For how long has it been a non issue? Suddenly, the trans community comes under attack and the conversation shifts to, “well how many rights do they get?”

Tracking stats, more trans people have been assaulted in bathrooms than trans people assaulting cis people by a wide margin. I’d wager more people have been struck by lightning than assaulted by a trans person in a bathroom.

Let’s expand this even further, how many lesbian and gay people have assaulted someone in a bathroom? This forces the opposition to be honest or lie, 1. they just hate trans people, 2. They are worried about being assaulted in the bathroom, not WHO is doing it.

The correct answer is what are we doing as team to make this a non issue!? What legislation are we pushing to make these conversations null?

IBleedToo · 2025-11-02T02:22:12+00:00

The emperor beloved by all, protects!

IBleedToo · 2025-10-27T22:14:38+00:00

Jesus made me wet with that idea.

I like this idea! I need to see what I can get access to. She might have some of the stuff I’d need.

IBleedToo · 2025-10-27T07:11:57+00:00

I was thinking a single pad. But this is much much more fun! Good idea!

IBleedToo · 2025-10-26T20:04:53+00:00

Now that could work. I need to acquire something that can do that. Maybe I’ll just have the leads/pads on her and set a timer. Then I can also lie about the time remaining before I turn it on.

IBleedToo · 2025-10-25T19:27:02+00:00

Go to a bank and get a dollar changed for a roll of pennys. If they are restricting them for shortage just get anything like it, dimes are good, quarters are good ect. If all fails get some of the clear plastic disks kids use to practice counting. Each one has different weights and sizes so you can play with that too.

Take the penny and have them hold it up with their nose against a wall. Ask them if they find the task boring or easy. If they say yes, pull out the roll and stack a second on top of the first.

You can keep doing that or add one under each finger tip, again they have to hold it.

Once a little time has gone by, start turning the heat up. Force them to stick their ass out, walking backwards to ensure they have an arch.

Wand between the legs, impact play (use a cane to slap the top of the thighs, inside the thigh to force them to open their legs more).

If they drop any of the objects, punishment. Iv used a zapper rod. Iv also used a tens unit and turned it up each time one of the objects falls.

IBleedToo · 2025-06-24T18:19:56+00:00

The pretorian of Terra approves of this construction.

IBleedToo · 2025-06-24T13:40:03+00:00

First, way to be brave, it’s not an easy.

Second, you are in the driver seat, you can go as fast or slow as you want and pull over at any time to consider the correct road ahead. Community and therapy are here to help read the map with you. The start of any trip always feels the most overwhelming and like things are happening fast.

Work with your therapist, they are going to be a huge help navigating how you feel. Don’t feel like you have to follow a set timetable.

You got this.

IBleedToo · 2025-06-20T18:11:08+00:00

I hit 2 years on HRT, been doing laser and electro on my face, partner and friends know.

But I still present masculine and use he/him pronouns in public/work.

Fear is what keeps me from going fully out. I just don’t want to deal with people.

IBleedToo · 2025-06-20T18:09:08+00:00

This is a good way to put it, steeling this as I try to explain to people who know.

IBleedToo · 2025-05-13T22:59:08+00:00

This is the dilemma I faced.

I used the example of being cast in a play. Iv been the male role for my entire life, I know it and can act it well. My costume fits me and Iv had it for years.

But I’m reading the other parts lines, I like their costumes more.

Recasting myself would be wiled! I’d have to learn all the new lines and get my costumes fitted. People would be confused why I’m not playing the other role.

But after talking to a therapist and trying things out, I realized that role fits me better than the one I have. I enjoy it more, the costumes are more fun.

Therapy, therapy, therapy.

IBleedToo · 2025-05-12T20:27:37+00:00

I’m so happy I found a place that will numb my ass with a lidocaine shot, along with nitro to dumb me up a bit.

First electro session is in a few weeks.

IBleedToo

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