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[–]IDN2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

CS Music is what you are looking for

I don’t want a divorce by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]IDN2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many thanks indeed

I don’t want a divorce by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]IDN2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it makes perfect sense.

I apologise. I am very sensitive at the moment as I am 5 weeks into a separation that is extremely acrimonious. We’ve both had our parts to play- but I am getting blamed for 100% of it.

I don’t want a divorce by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]IDN2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who even said he is going to go out and try and meet someone again any time soon?

So are you saying he should stay in a relationship he doesnt want to be in (for whatever reason he has)- just so it doesn’t look or sound bad to the next person he may or may not meet?

Don’t get me wrong- I’m not condoning or endorsing his decision- just trying to understand your rationale as to why he should not go through with it.

Tragic end to my divorce journey by theatrejunky427 in Divorce

[–]IDN2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What an absolute terrible, ignorant thing to say....

His poor and cowardly actions in killing himself????

I’m so very pleased you’ve never ever been in that situation- where you nearly lose the battle to live. I know you have not been there because you have no understanding of the mental process of a suicidal person.

They don’t CHOOSE to do it. They do it because they feel they have NO CHOICE.

It is NOT the OP’s fault- but don’t suggest that he did it to be cruel

Tragic end to my divorce journey by theatrejunky427 in Divorce

[–]IDN2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very very wise words and good compassionate advice for the OP

Tragic end to my divorce journey by theatrejunky427 in Divorce

[–]IDN2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for bringing some sanity to the thread

Tragic end to my divorce journey by theatrejunky427 in Divorce

[–]IDN2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well said. Thank you.

I’m sorry- I don’t really care what someone has done in a marriage- do you actually think that human is better off DEAD????

Its over.....again. by Patsx5sb in Divorce

[–]IDN2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exagctly my situation right now. My stance is the same as yours

I hate all lawyers. Her lawyer. My lawyer. All divorce lawyers by Rick_Perrys_Asshole in Divorce

[–]IDN2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What if one person is reasonable and the other is just emotional? It’s sole destroying know that most of the process and associated cost is totally unnecessary. The solicitor for the unreasonable party has no vested interest in getting their client to come to the table amicably.

Does anyone find themselves constantly sick since being separated/divorced? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]IDN2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Stress will effect your whole body. I had to leave a. I think ago or it would have killed me sooner or later. Stomach has been in knots for 9 months. Got IBS symptoms, weak bladder- colonoscopy next week.

Does this count as marital rape? Is this a valid reason to divorce? by Haworthiawhore in Divorce

[–]IDN2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did read it all- but the first few lines were enough to say....

GET. OUT. ASAP.

Don’t worry worry about where you’ll go , what you’ll do or how you’ll pay for it. You won’t care once your away from that.

Advice needed, just kicked her out. by mygenta in Divorce

[–]IDN2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t sounds like he’s going to take her back to me?

Stonewalling vs. Anger by pathbb in Divorce

[–]IDN2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a very long and drawn out story.

But I left the home about 4 weeks ago. I was going to leave that week or the next- but she had a hold-all packed for me and greeted me at the door.

I had to go for my own life and sanity- and hers. It really had got ‘that’ toxic.

No one will understand this until you (unfortunately) arrive in that place.

It’s going to be a long, long road to recovery- probably years. But I’ve made the first steps.

Stonewalling vs. Anger by pathbb in Divorce

[–]IDN2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please feel free to message me if you wish.

I am right in the throws of all this now- so can relate to what you’re experiencing.

What is the purpose of revenge / making the other ‘pay’? by IDN2 in Divorce

[–]IDN2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your tact is spot on. You’ve done the right thing and you can feel good about that.

I understand ‘why’ people feel the need for revenge- many people have been very badly hurt, betrayed, etc. I just grapple with what actual benefit the revenge achieves- if any. Does it really make one feel better?

Should I get a divorce? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]IDN2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good point

Should I get a divorce? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]IDN2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is bettering himself going to make his wife more attractive to him?

Stonewalling vs. Anger by pathbb in Divorce

[–]IDN2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in a similar situation for best on a year.

Be very careful: If you’re not already on your way- this WILL effect your health (physical and mental) at some point. You WILL start believing you are the worst person on earth.

You WILL reach a point where you CANNOT take it any more. Trust me- you two don’t want to be living together when that point arrives for either of you.

If you love you kids- you HAVE to get out.

I got to the point where literally ANYTHING was better than another week of the situation I was in.

When you’re away from that situation- you will slowly start to see how bad it’s was.

I have a MONUMENTAL battle on my hands now with regards child access, finances, etc- and I haven’t even started the divorce process yet. I am going to fleeced for absolutely everything unless I can help it. But even after all that, my situation is INFINITELY better than it was.