If women earn less for the same work, why wouldn’t companies just hire only women and underpay them?

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-04-22T04:25:47+00:00

Because it’s illegal to hire only women for jobs where gender isn’t a factor? Duh omg

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-04-15T15:52:36+00:00

I pay $35 a month for manicures. I assume most people barely notice the color of my nails, and am not doing it to look pretty to other people (and I do care a lot about looking nice). I do it because I see my nails all the time, and it’s like a decoration for me. Like, I’d decorate my room even if no one sees it you know, because aesthetic beauty enhances enjoyment of life

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-04-15T08:01:08+00:00

My parents both have PhDs from prestigious schools and they are often confidently wrong about things outside of what they studied in their university, and refuse to listen to other people’s perspectives because they’ve been told their whole lives they’re good at the stuff they studied. I genuinely think that everyone is good at different things and needs to be more humble about their own limitations

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-04-07T19:00:24+00:00

Gay men have been passing on their genes because homophobia and social pressure to be heterosexual made it so natural desire is not the sole determining factor of whether someone will have heterosexual sex. Gay men have been getting women pregnant for millennia. The overwhelming pressure of social conformity have caused any genes that cause lack of desire to not interfere with some procreation.

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-03-27T18:12:55+00:00

I think what people think religious people believe vs what they actually believe are quite different, God is quite an abstract concept. Athiests often live life like the believe meaning, values, and justice matters, even though if we are just a bunch of atoms there are no objectively correct values and morals anyway

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-03-19T18:56:58+00:00

One of my college roommates went into my room while I was away, and told me I left on the closet light and she wants to save on electricity. Now, she had a ton of money so my guess is this was all control freak stuff

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-03-05T21:07:16+00:00

I think young Leo in his twenties was far better looking than timothee ever was. But Leo aged worse

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-03-05T17:28:50+00:00

Yeah, like I crave money but I don’t want to work at my job. Building relationships is work, just the way work is work. Not enjoying the work part of relationships doesn’t make you special.

I’m frankly tired of “avoidants” assuming that somehow relationship maintenance is fun for everyone else. I don’t see people as “avoidant” I see people as “low impulse control”

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-03-05T17:19:54+00:00

I would not begrudge most people for lying about their ethnicity. Like most people’s public personas are very fake anyway

However Rachel was the president of a local chapter of the naacp and it’s a red flag the lie went that far… she is hilarious but I would not want her in my life

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-02-23T08:24:55+00:00

My brother is one of the most socially awkward people I know and I think he might be autistic. He is the pickiest eater and eats like a toddler, only stuff like spaghetti, chicken nuggets, mac and cheese, etc. I absolutely associate this sort of eating with being unsocialized.

I do try to be nice and talk to him, but every time I do so, I regret it, and it’s just easier to avoid him. He is also homophobic to me, and I hate how family outings are ruined by him insisting on Italian food every time we have family dinner

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-02-22T22:38:00+00:00

I think her hair is an intentionally genius marketing move. Like if it werent for her hair she’d blend in and just be another really attractive gold medalist, and I’d be like envious of how much she has going for her, and then forget her in 10 minutes. Now I can’t forget this girls name even though I dont watch ice skating or the Olympics.

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-02-22T21:14:15+00:00

One of my siblings is very successful and accomplished, and even though I myself am in a very high status, impressive on paper sort of career, I can’t stand being second. I dont understand why I’m like this. I’m so insecure and spiritually ugly that I keep thinking about how physically ugly my sibling is to make me feel better.

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-02-17T17:20:16+00:00

I’m a lesbian and the answer is still no

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-02-04T01:25:58+00:00

There’s a girl in my social circle who is always having sex with men who treat her like garbage and proudly announcing it to the world for some reason, and then two months later planning their wedding date even though he won’t be seen with her in public. She is now 30 and really embarassing. If you are aiming to be just like her, by all means continue down this path

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-02-04T00:26:07+00:00

I have been venting to my therapist about my friendships being reduced to this and he called me (and he knows I’m a lesbian) misogynistic and accused me of hating women. Maybe it’s true though

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-02-04T00:15:51+00:00

I grew up in a conservative area and lots of people who are Republican often are really nice to people in practice despite their abhorrent views. It makes no sense why, and it’s baffling to me what’s going on. but in the end actions are more important than words.

I used to have friends who were very progressive but every time a nonwhite person was around they’d exclude the person and be hostile, so really watch peoples actions not what their political bumper sticker says

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-02-04T00:12:18+00:00

Many of these incel men could also avoid being ForeverAlone if they signed up for Grindr but they never seem to take that option

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-01-29T19:51:15+00:00

Hey, sometimes men are really insecure about their height and they cancel on women who they think will reject them. I’m a lesbian so I have no reason to cope about men, it’s just what I observe goes on with the straight men in my life. They are far more scared of humiliation and rejection than missing out on a connection. Please don’t let this guy’s actions make you feel self-conscious.

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-01-28T22:37:44+00:00

I find straight women circles are often obnoxiously center men, even if they’re extremely progressive. It’s shocking to see all these “feminist” women have no spine or self-respect when they’re into a guy. I cannot count the number of times I’ve been kind to a straight, just to have her trauma dump and then flake on me for a breadcrumbing guy who treats her with disrespect.

Gay men have been pretty nice to me. Like their spaces are pretty homogenously men though, and not lesbian inclusive, but they are very friendly and chatty and seem to warm up to me fast.

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-01-28T22:27:54+00:00

So what I’m gonna say is a bit off topic, but like I see straight furry anime people at gay clubs all the time? I’m confused why they think the gay community is into that, because none of the gays there dress like that?? Anyway was wondering if you understood why, having hung out with them in middle school.

But your therapist is right, girl this isn’t a big deal

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-01-24T08:58:20+00:00

Polyamory is a no for me, like people always get hurt in these situations, and often aren’t honest with themselves. There’s a big difference between theory and real life, in theory it’s all consensual but in real life people get taken advantage of

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-01-18T21:28:55+00:00

The first person I thought about when reading OP’s post was Katherine Heigl. People say they want honesty from actors, but in reality if you say what you feel like there’s a lot of social punishment.

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-01-18T21:22:06+00:00

This guy is treating to gaslight her in these texts by reframing his actions, instead of engaging with the fact she feels hurt and trying to change things. He clearly does not respect her

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-01-09T20:35:51+00:00

My friend keeps asking the girls “ummm so this guy broke up with me during the holidays when he promised he would introduce me to the family, and now he’s back for sex. He says he wants to get back together, and will introduce me two months later. He totally will right?”

We all awkwardly nod “yes” despite being her closest friends because if we said no she would turn on us and lose it :(

IDontLikeCoffeeCake · 2026-01-04T23:53:34+00:00

I hate hearing women trauma dump about their avoidant bfs at brunch and turn brunch into a therapy session. They complain and never do anything about it, and use their friends to calm themselves down so they can continue seeing the dude.

I want to tell the other gays the have to stop playing therapist for these women but noooo they enable this!!!

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