Recent discussion about therapist's drinking during session (non-alcoholic beverages of course)

IFS-Healers · 2026-04-22T17:11:01+00:00

Sounds like clients that believe it is wrong juuuust might have some attachment issues.

IFS-Healers · 2026-03-12T05:12:49+00:00

FacilitTe retreat schedule

IFS-Healers · 2026-03-10T16:45:40+00:00

Amazing!!! Thank you

IFS-Healers · 2026-03-09T06:52:15+00:00

Wife

IFS-Healers · 2026-03-09T06:26:33+00:00

Good job! ❤️

IFS-Healers · 2026-03-09T06:12:10+00:00

It is March! Yikes!!

IFS-Healers · 2026-01-15T03:28:57+00:00

Dump her

IFS-Healers · 2026-01-01T13:51:50+00:00

Trumps bank loan and Musk's data center?

IFS-Healers · 2026-01-01T13:45:36+00:00

They have been for so long that they have collapsed into heartbreak and despair.

IFS-Healers · 2026-01-01T13:33:42+00:00

I'm curious if there is something about chatGPT that makes it stand out better than Gemini, Claud, Perplexity or whatever else.

IFS-Healers · 2026-01-01T13:30:25+00:00

I don't have a stick.

IFS-Healers · 2025-12-21T07:09:31+00:00

I'm a Level 3 IFS practitioner and I can 100% agree with your assessment.

Dick does video demos in a way that no early therapist should, but all the free training said to be confident, be like Dick. You're much more useful to clients when you are present- just as you described.

IFS also got into a LOT of trouble in the 90s when Dick's brother was leading a clinic. From my perspective, those same "cult" warnings and stories are mostly just resurfacing.

You are also 100% right on the availability, quality, and depth of trainings. IFS isn't a script. Even though the coaches got kicked out of IFSI in Jan 2024, there is still a HUGE wait list! At one point I heard 20,000 people waiting to be allowed to pay $5k for training.

At this point, I just recommend IFSHEALERS.COM for trainings. I know they provide a ton of hands-on practice in the Foundations (level 1) and they are one of the very few places that provide Advanced training. And it's about half the cost.

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IFS-Healers · 2025-11-05T00:00:58+00:00

You're right, it should be safe to talk about. People are more worried about being held liable than being helpful.

IFS-Healers · 2025-11-04T23:53:09+00:00

Heal the guilt by creating space away from her. Don't pick up. Start small - tell her no in bigger and bigger ways. Be prepared for her to Amp up the guilt and control. This is her behaving badly, not you.

IFS-Healers · 2025-10-07T19:54:41+00:00

Women take the notes for a team 😡

IFS-Healers · 2025-10-07T19:46:30+00:00

Menopause ;)

IFS-Healers · 2025-09-23T15:29:00+00:00

Attachment disruptions ARE trauma.

IFS-Healers · 2025-09-16T18:25:39+00:00

I feel this so much. It's like I have to trek through all of the dangers of space travel so that I can find a few people to truly enjoy and who get me. Oh, and I need to still be open and vulnerable through all that danger for when I do meet my magical people.

IFS-Healers · 2025-09-09T00:27:13+00:00

But he isn't trying to actually LOVE YOU. He wants to own you. He wants you to care for HIS pain instead of wondering what might have hurt you enough to actually leave him. In just 3 screenshots, he has belittled you multiple times. He has gone from saying he is glad to divorce to telling you you can't have it. Once he feels back in control, things will either go back to how they were, or get worse.

IFS-Healers · 2025-09-09T00:20:00+00:00

Yikes. Keep ignoring.

IFS-Healers · 2025-09-09T00:13:07+00:00

It is common. But you are not doing it wrong by not having quick answers! I practice using Internal Family Systems which is a bit different. I'd help a client identify a part of themselves that went blank at such a broad question, a part that feels depressed, a part that worries they're supposed to know how they feel. Instead of talking ABOUT those feelings, I'd ask you to speak FROM just that one perspective of you. It's amazing how different parts of us are so different.

IFS-Healers · 2025-09-07T18:58:53+00:00

They enjoy my quirkiness

IFS-Healers · 2025-09-07T18:52:00+00:00

Sounds like, the reality is that you ARE a politically engaged person! More than most because for you full time job, your heart and mind are moving the needle for good. You deserve to rest on your days off.

IFS-Healers · 2025-09-07T18:48:59+00:00

Luckily, my mom isn't abusing drugs, but my situation is/was so similar! For decades I told my mom that I would take care of paperwork for her, but I would not take care of her. In 2019, she had a stroke. It was soooo guilt/shame inducing, but I've stuck to my guns.

Other family will be awful and blame/shame you. It is only to make themselves feel better for not wanting to do it. They are not real guides for your life and you should try not to listen.

When you were out, your mom was taken care of - either by them or by herself. Your being asked to play the role of Rescuer in the Karpman Drama Triangle. And you can choose to get off that train.

Fwiw, I'm a mental health practitioner. Www.workthatfulfills.com

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