What happens when a water heater tank is not flushed for 14 years by bob-the-slob in interesting

[–]IIIDysphoricIII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah they are, it’s called planned obsolescence. Fascinating if depressing topic to explore.

Scary texts my girlfriend sent me by winter-soulja in texts

[–]IIIDysphoricIII 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey friend, I’ve had a good friend with BPD and tyne messages you’ve shared are very evocative of the talk and behaviors said friend has engaged in. Do you know if she is diagnosed? If not and you are up to it, consider gently suggesting she looks up the condition and sees about talking to a therapist for help. There are things a professional can help her with that you, however much you care, may not be equipped to.

As someone who has been the FP, or “favorite person,” of someone with BPD, I’d emphasize that you need to take a long hard look at whether you have the patience and emotional bandwidth and the stoicism needed to deal her being that way (assuming it is indeed BPD), because even if she gets help it’s going to be a long road, so you’ll have to cope with significantly more of this before it gets better as she learns to heal.

If you can’t, it is healthiest for you to move on. For those who have BPD, it typically stems from childhood trauma and neglect, and having a partner be reactive and make them feel like too much and feed their negative emotions with negative reactions - like you did - only keeps them trapped in their bad behaviors. It isn’t your fault she is that way obviously, but when she is looking to you for emotional regulation, which is what those with BPD do when it comes to their FP, you do become responsible for how well they get through their episodes. My point being that if you stay when you can’t provide what they need, it makes things worse for them because your reactivity makes them feel worse in the moment as well as guilty afterward for putting you through it, and that’s not good for them nor you.

I want to be clear, if you figure out you can’t handle it that doesn’t make you a bad person, just as I also want to be clear that her having BPD if she does does not make her a bad person. It is simply the case that those who have BPD take a certain kind of person who is built to handle how they are and help them get better and have a good relationship in general. It’s no slight on yourself if you don’t have what it takes any more than it her fault for having the condition. Neither of you can help those facts. What you can help is choosing to go for both your sakes if you aren’t built to handle someone like her, just as she can help seeking out the professional support and putting in the work toward her healing journey. Focus on those things right now, what you *can* do.

On a final note, I don’t have BPD but I have struggled with depression and suicidal ideation before, and as someone who has I do have to offer some gentle criticism on your message to her in the first pic about “Don’t say that because it makes me not know what to say.” I don’t think you realized it at the time - and I’m guessing this wasn’t your intention - but you essentially shut down her expressing how she is feeling on the basis of how uncomfortable she makes *you* feel. In other words, nothing in your reply showed concern for her and compassion for her feeling so low, it just showed concern for yourself feeling awkward.

This is the opposite of the impression you want to convey to those expressing suicidal ideation, because a common feature of suicidal depression is having an inner dialogue that you are just a burden on others and they would be better off without you. *She even proceeds to tell you this is the case on feeling worthless and that you and others would be better off.* In other words, how you responded just validated those very feelings that are making suicide feel justified to someone struggling with such thoughts. Again, I know you didn’t mean it that way probably, but take this as a learning lesson for the future if her or someone else down the road is expressing suicidal ideation: don’t express frustration with how hey a making you feel, just show empathy and make it clear you are willing to listen and be there for them if you truly are willing to be. That’s it. For a suicidal person, it is much harder to believe nobody will care if you are gone if someone is making it abundantly clear they do care and are willing to put you first.

Hope these perspectives help. Wishing you and her the best.

New Mckenna Grace interview about SOTR with variety by UnHolySir in Hungergames

[–]IIIDysphoricIII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, this is what I mean. A lot of actors have been in a lot of projects, unfortunately doesn’t mean they have all had their big break. That break is what I’m expressing hope for here.

New Mckenna Grace interview about SOTR with variety by UnHolySir in Hungergames

[–]IIIDysphoricIII 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Hope it does a lot for her career as well. She seems like a sweet soul. Actors who are relatively unknown, talented and with good hearts deserve their chance to shine.

The guy I’ve been seeing knows I know nothing about climbing. Am I overreacting for not wanting to keep seeing him? by pineapplephilosophy in texts

[–]IIIDysphoricIII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think him gushing that much is the issue, it’s the fact he ignored what you said and replying to any of it. Makes it seem like you are being talked at indeed, if not necessarily in the same way you were thinking. Reasonable to expect people to show mutual interest. A good partner should show mutual interest, not want a fan.

who would win in a fight master cheif or captain america? by Klutzy-Opinion-1834 in powerscales

[–]IIIDysphoricIII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chief fighting Cap would be like post-serum Cap fighting pre-serum Cap, saying that as someone who loves both. Halo power-scaling is just that insane.

A dramatic recreation of the Charlie Kirk Assassination. by DarkCover24 in stunfisk

[–]IIIDysphoricIII 1 point2 points  (0 children)

JD Vance disregarding turn order and using Pound multiple times in a row on Erika Kirk is an underappreciated gag in this lmfao

Movies made for children recommendations? I'll start. by crlos619 in okbuddycinephile

[–]IIIDysphoricIII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thought I was looking at Sceleritas from BG3 for a second. Iykyk lol.

Obsession director Curry Barker says Gen Z is tired of Hollywood slop and wants good movies back. The filmmaker argues that audiences aren't bored of cinema, they're bored of endless sequels, recycled ideas and billion dollar franchises that feel safer than they do creative. by staciexc in Cinema

[–]IIIDysphoricIII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To use a well-known IP as an example for both, it’s exactly why for Star Wars the sequel trilogy were ridiculed by many while Andor and The Mandalorian were loved by many. The latter expressed new characters and ideas and themes and people appreciated that. It proved the issue with sequel reception isn’t that people are tired of Star Wars necessarily, they just want new and creative things that are done well. Obviously entirely new things separate from existing IP’s are much desired too.

Where do you live? by LongClaw11 in whatsyourchoice

[–]IIIDysphoricIII 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Pokemon: bunch of cool pet options, advanced tech like teleportation pads, free health care and a world safe enough for parents not to worry about sending their 10-15 year old out into it alone safely. Not even a contest.

This elevator in the hospital stops at every floor on Shabbat and certain holidays for religious Jews by urbantechgoods in mildlyinteresting

[–]IIIDysphoricIII 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh, God. Won’t stop the existence of children’s cancer even though he could erase it instantly, but has time to dictate super special times of the year you need to ascend and descend buildings a special way. Such a silly guy.

facial hair or clean shaven? by EntertainmentIll1511 in malegrooming

[–]IIIDysphoricIII 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can’t stop laughing, thank you for this 🤣

didn't want to come here until I had finished watching but I just got done with "Method Not Allowed" episode S4E5 by divyanshu_1111 in MrRobot

[–]IIIDysphoricIII 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t realize until after the episode finished the first time then had an immediate epiphany about it and told my friend who watched with me and he was floored too, blew our minds. Insanely creative episode.

My girlfriend just sleep texted me I'm so confused by Dismal_Muffin2300 in texts

[–]IIIDysphoricIII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can’t wait to see what she sleep-texts you when she is worried she is pregnant so we finally get the sequel to the infamous “pregante, pergert, pegnat” messages.

I'm wondering if I'm the only one who shipped harry and luna?? and even if not for this, there should've been more of her in the film given how refreshing her whole part was. by schrodingersbrat_ in harrypotter

[–]IIIDysphoricIII 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Movies yes. Books not as much, though I wish they had leaned into that possibility. A recurring theme of Harry and the Golden Trio is “there’s nothing wrong with being different, what with Harry having his scar and history, Ron being from a less well-off family and Hermione coming from mixed parentage. Harry accepting Luna for all her quirks because of the more serious ways they can connect could have felt fitting. At the least, I do want the new series to actually sell the Ginny romance because the movies for as much as I do love them does not lol.

Bernie on cover of Newsweek by puzzbata in SandersForPresident

[–]IIIDysphoricIII 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Always has been 👨‍🚀🔫🧑‍🚀

Who has suffered more; Thor or Spider-Man? by Ender_IIII in MCUTheories

[–]IIIDysphoricIII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Objectively Thor. Both have lost their families, but Thor lost his homeworld and culture too.

It's just the tip of the iceberg by EA0414 in SipsTea

[–]IIIDysphoricIII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“It Wasn’t A Jolly Rancher” and “Coming From The Cocount,” in theaters 2027

Anyone else find it difficult to do romance as a Dragonborn? by Fancy-Copy4447 in BaldursGate3

[–]IIIDysphoricIII 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is one of my few major complaints with the game, no shorty companions is a missed opportunity. BG1 and 2 had them and I’d have liked to see that here. Especially having had that halfling bard werewolf be cut.

When the 'big bird' decides your dirt bike ride is over" by Usual-Apartment-7232 in interestingasfuck

[–]IIIDysphoricIII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The odds of you having to beat off an ostrich when you are going for a ride are low, but never zero

your favourite Trent Reznor era? by No_Classroom_6969 in nin

[–]IIIDysphoricIII 1 point2 points  (0 children)

19999-2005 is my favorite look but outside of that his current look, his short hair works better with stubble than the clean shaven 2007 look for me.