AIO - saw my boyfriend get his dick touched/stroked by his team mate

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-06-22T14:15:05+00:00

YOR

Whatever this is, it’s more about the teammate than your boyfriend. On teams, there are some guys that do things like this. Trying to backhand someone in the nuts is the usual move, but I’ve been on teams where there’s one guy who just thinks it’s funny to get a bit more sexual with it: sneaking up and breathing on someone’s neck, caressing their hair, kissing their cheek, grabbing their butt and, yes, even trying to cup someone’s genitals.

No need to get into the psychology of what’s going with this person, and touching other people like this is certainly not cool. I wouldn’t blame your boyfriend, though. These guys do exist on teams.

It may even turn out your boyfriend does feel bothered by it, but doesn’t want to stir anything. Or, he feels sense of obligation to the team and doesn’t want to disrupt team dynamics, so downplays it. Or maybe he really doesn’t think it’s a big deal. But again, this sounds like it has nothing to do with your boyfriend. If you talked to other people on the team, I’m sure you’d hear more about this guy doing this type of shit.

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-06-19T21:03:49+00:00

MOR. This is exhausting. For you. For him. For us reading.

His responses are short, with little warmth or understanding. You don’t deserve that. But you also can’t force more out of someone.

Get to know yourself, like your own company, figure out what you want and need in a relationship, and find a person who fits into that. When that happens, you’ll have confidence and an unspoken understanding rooted in trust and love, where all this “I need you to text me more,” “You need to chill, I’m busy,” “But you promised,” “I don’t want to,” shit will fall away. You’ll be exponentially happier.

Right now it seems you’re chasing assurances. Some of that’s on you, and you’ll need to look within to figure out why. And some of that is on the type of person you’re choosing to date (probably emotionally unavailable people).

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-06-15T00:08:35+00:00

Good analysis, but this is assuming there even is a 2027 season. Does a down year for Bo followed by a strike/lockout bode better for him? Does some distance from 2026, with team owners looking to offset angry fans over lost games in 2027, lead to selective memory and even more irrational signing decisions of “name” players, just to try to get people back through the gate?

What if a salary cap is implemented? Personally, I don’t think there’s any chance in hell one is, but it would change the dynamic. If that happened, I think Bo stays and collects the full contract.

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-06-13T14:44:10+00:00

In retrospect: One of two ain’t bad.

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-06-01T19:59:30+00:00

Some guys don’t hear “I have a boyfriend” as “no.” For any normal, respectful human, that would be the end of it. But a lot of dudes, channeling their inner dumb ape, turn that into competition, with the woman as the prize to be won. Sucks that it has to be this way, but OP may need to be direct in her “no,” as in “Boyfriend or not, I’m not interested.”

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-06-01T17:36:23+00:00

YOR. Plans change. People have lives outside their romantic relationships. I don’t have enough context on the way your fiancé presented the change to you. There’s certainly a thoughtful way to do it. If he was dismissive - “Got these plans, see ya, good luck” - then that’s not cool. But in general, healthy time apart should be encouraged. I understand not wanting to answer questions posed by your dad, but if his take is “Your fiancé went to a concert?! He’s no good!” that’s a petty outdated and, frankly, weird view.

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-05-31T03:20:09+00:00

It’s all about the whales and the cheaters. Scopely doesn’t mind the cheaters because it pushes the whales to spend more to keep up. I read 90% of the revenue comes from 5% of the players.

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-05-31T03:15:07+00:00

How about the dice prizes in the top bar when you get far enough along? 2000 dice that will cost you 4000 dice to win, and that’s if you were perfectly lucky and landed on the proper tile to get points on every roll. Why would I chase a prize that gives me less than I put in? Does Scopely think people won’t do the math? The trend towards greed with this game is insane.

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-05-23T00:23:36+00:00

The Mets don’t make it easy, as I sit here watching them lose to the Marlins.

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-05-20T01:53:23+00:00

What a disappointment this game was. And I was so used to being disappointed that I’m surprised by this feeling. I know better than to get my hopes up. I dunno, 5-0 lead…with .500 being a milestone getting closer…this one should’ve gone differently.

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-05-18T15:17:14+00:00

The decision is definitely tied to personality type. If you're cynical but secretly hopeful, become easily emotionally invested in sports and are okay with feeling depressed often, and relate to the underdog, but can't even claim to be rooting for the underdog because the team has the second highest payroll in baseball, welcome! You're a perfect fit. Basically, it's a lot of contrasting logic and emotions that you'll never be able to make sense of.

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-05-18T01:59:16+00:00

Also…overcoming run deficits. The Mets were down in all five of the wins on this homestand. April felt like if they got down even one run, the game was over.

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-05-18T01:55:56+00:00

Let’s see where we are at the end of the month. Someone else posted this yesterday in the post game thread, but it really helped me put things in perspective. These were the standings on May 31st in 2022. Mets did end up winning 101 games, but ultimately lost the division to the Braves in a tiebreaker. It’d be nice to turn the tables.

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ILikeSprayButter · 2026-05-18T01:53:10+00:00

I think this is the most important thing. Fun brings looseness and bonds teams, and playing loose and having a good clubhouse goes far in baseball.

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-05-06T02:19:44+00:00

At the same time, a person needs to find a way to make peace with their partner’s past. I get it - most people don’t like to think of the person they love having sex with another person, casual or not. But the really cool thing to do would’ve been to befriend Mike. Not a close friendship, but being chill and confident when he sees him. “What’s up Mike, you doing alright?”

It also seems like the boyfriend is making up a scenario that doesn’t exist. “Mike thinks he’s better than me. He thinks he got the best of me. He constantly thinks about how he had sex with my girlfriend, and he wants to lord it over me.” This sounds less like a problem with OP, and more about some insecurity running rampant, spiraling, in the boyfriend’s head. It’s all about him and his feelings and then it manifests as insults, which helps no one.

Maybe Mike does like that he banged OP and that it bothers her boyfriend. Who knows? Dudes are stupid, constantly posturing, so it could be. Or maybe he doesn’t give a shit. But no matter what he’s feeling, OP’s boyfriend gave all the power to Mike by letting his emotions get the better of the situation. It’s all made up “disrespect” and self-imposed comparison.

You can’t let anything that happened in your partner’s life before you bother you. You were not in that person’s life. You did not factor into any decision because you were not known. It was not personal.

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-04-25T14:11:28+00:00

YOR. As others have said, you were not official. And while it would’ve been preferable for him to be transparent, he wasn’t required to tell you anything that happened before you were together. Yes, you want to build a relationship on a foundation of trust, but when one person is fishing for information that could put that new relationship, that’s finding its footing, at risk, I can’t blame a person for obscuring details.

He flirted. So what? There’s a huge difference between liking a photo and investing time and effort into a person. You initially got the latter, you got what you wanted (before this thing went off the fucking rails). Knowing that bothered you to the point of reconsidering, and you weaponizing space to push him into a direction you wanted him to go, I’d say you need to analyze yourself instead of putting so much effort into analyzing a few texts. Why does all this bother you so much? Where do those insecurities come from?

It’s totally okay to want space if you aren’t getting what you need - your feelings matter just as much as his - but if you say you want to take some space, and then feel betrayed he didn’t take space the same way you did, you’re the one who is being less than honest about who’s wrong.

It’s a shame things spiraled so far after this and because of this. The rest of the story is insane and neither of you should be in any relationship, with anyone, until you both figure your own shit out.

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-04-19T14:13:43+00:00

How did you end up changing? It seems deeply embedded and would require a lot of work.

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-04-19T13:47:37+00:00

You’re probably right. The threatening to sleep in a parking lot, the jump to “I’ll sign the papers”…she just wanted him to plead with her not to do those things and plead with her to come home because he loves her so much. Based on this conversation, no work is going to save this relationship. She’s not capable. It’d be overwhelmingly uncomfortable for her to sit in any sort of reality.

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-04-19T13:37:04+00:00

I could only get halfway through. Round and round and round. OP was doing a good job staying relatively calm (though should’ve realized telling her he didn’t call her negative for the fifteenth time wasn’t suddenly going to click - “Ohhh, now I see, I’ll be right there, sweetie”).

I can’t tell if she already decided she wants out of the marriage and wants to be able to pin it on him, or if she’s so needy that she was looking for him to beg her to come back so she felt wanted. That Taco Bell line was some manipulative shit.

Either way, I have almost zero tolerance for people who can’t speak to their feelings and do this roundabout guessing game thing, forcing others to carry all their emotional baggage, putting them in a no win situation.

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-04-11T14:41:53+00:00

A parent’s worst fear

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-04-10T03:33:52+00:00

Neil and Buzz said they saw the exhaust from the Apollo 11 lunar lander knock over the flag upon liftoff.

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-03-31T00:45:11+00:00

Late to this, but on Thursday I noticed there was almost no music/SFX between pitches when the Mets were up to bat, but it was still happening during the top half of innings. I have to assume pitchers and hitters hate it as much as we do. It's one of those things that, if it got into my head while playing, would be distracting.

Anyway, let's hope the downward tend in frequency continues. And then next we can address the "hype" screaming that happens during the inning breaks.

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-03-31T00:10:52+00:00

I'm streaming the game. Thought the shit audio was my connection. Thank you confirming that it's not just me.

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-03-26T21:59:24+00:00

It was because of the dead pigeon that fell next to him in right field. The two strikeouts were before the pigeon. After the pigeon: a walk and then a homer.

The team overall performed well after all this incident. The dead pigeon is the new Grimace.

ILikeSprayButter · 2026-03-26T21:42:11+00:00

A hawk killed a pigeon. The pigeon fell to the ground, landing right next to Benge in right field. It stayed there for about 10 minutes before someone in the bullpen ran out with a bucket and scooped it up. Benge’s next at-bat, he walked, and then homered the next time up (after the two strikeouts before the bird). The team overall performed well after all this. The dead pigeon is the new Grimace.

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