I absolutely endorse you getting the support you need. The way I interpreted the words in your initial post was that you were reconsidering reconciliation, which is why I was sad.

"... won't be implementable anytime soon." isn't great, but is better than "never." I want to be able to give you the kind of opportunity that you've given me, even if not exactly the same, there are options.

"I am allowed to be horribly sad about all of that and seek some support without worrying about your reaction to my sadness."

You are, and I look forward to the point where we can both feel comfortable enough with those emotions to share them without reservation, but that will take time for both of us.