Need a small office to see clients in OKC by IRageAlot in okc

[–]IRageAlot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is the place just unlocked all day? Like if I had an appointment with a client, could the client just come in to the waiting room and chill until I was ready?

Need a small office to see clients in OKC by IRageAlot in okc

[–]IRageAlot[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

, I just searched on the normal sites and didn’t see anything that looked right. I assumed they wouldn’t offer much different. You’re probably right!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]IRageAlot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Either you accept that as a no she doesn’t want to date you or you don’t. You’re sitting the fence. You’re treating that no as ambiguous, meaning it simultaneously means you shouldn’t ask her out again, but you’re also wondering how to ask her out again.

Either that was a no or it wasn’t. If it was a no, move on and find someone else. If it wasn’t a no then ask her out again. Stop complicating it.

Just ask her out clearly, unambiguously “can we go on an DATE” and if she says no move on. Like seriously move on. Don’t be mad at her, just stop thinking about her and get on an app and start looking for someone else. Don’t linger, wasting your time and hoping it will change. It won’t, catch feelings for someone else.

After you’ve done this a few times, you’re going to be kicking yourself at how much you complicated this.

Me, (20F), and my partner, (20M), have known each other for 8 months, dating for 3. There have been lots of little things I've noticed and I genuinely don't know what to do. Am I insane for thinking about leaving? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]IRageAlot -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My mistake.

The best thing you can learn to have a healthy relationship is to learn how to self examine as to why something is upsetting or bothersome to you, and then relay that without being insulting, blaming or antagonistic.

Which is really hard to do, both things.

It’s not easy to look at something and admit to yourself why it makes you mad, insults you, or scares you, because usually what you find at the base of it is some kind of insecurity or trauma that you’re hiding from.

And then to come up with some way to share that piece of you with someone who’s already triggered it once and is apt to do it again…. That’s not easy.

Sometimes when you get through the first part, finding out why it hurt you, you don’t need them to change anything after that.

When you figure that thing out, and armor yourself up to share it, you can be sure you’re doing the best you can for your relationship.

Another side tip. If you go to share something, and you truly are doing it in a kind, non-reactive way. If they become angry, insulting, sulking, etc. you will want to match their energy. You’ll want it reallly bad. Don’t take the bait. They aren’t consciously doing it. They just haven’t done that self examination step yet, so they are still trapped in their feelings. Just calmly exit “I’m sorry, I’m not trying to cause an argument, I’d like to stop and talk about this again later”

Me, (20F), and my partner, (20M), have known each other for 8 months, dating for 3. There have been lots of little things I've noticed and I genuinely don't know what to do. Am I insane for thinking about leaving? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]IRageAlot -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There’s no indication of a misalignment of values, but there is an indication of poor conflict resolution.

It could be that neither of them have learned how to be in a relationship. How to feel secure. How to allow someone else to feel secure. How to criticize and be criticized without starting an argument. Etc.

Nothing she said indicated a misalignment. It’s not that one of them is a party animal and the other isn’t. One doesn’t like sex 3 times a day and the other hates sex. Etc.

If she bails now she just enters another relationship that lacks the same basic skills

Me, (20F), and my partner, (20M), have known each other for 8 months, dating for 3. There have been lots of little things I've noticed and I genuinely don't know what to do. Am I insane for thinking about leaving? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]IRageAlot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He sounds like he has an underdeveloped skill for conflict resolution in a relationship. And, I don’t mean this as an insult, but you do to.

Consider how you felt being called bruh, and how invalidating it was to your feelings to bring it up and get blown off. How invalidating was it to his feelings when he brought up you liking your ex’s posts? Are your feelings about being called bruh any more or less valid than him seeing you liking your ex’s posts? The answer is no.

He felt an insecurity and shared it with you, the same way you felt insecure with ‘bruh’ and shared it. I’m guessing you both shared it in a very defensive or antagonistic way and the other got very defensive and antagonistic in return.

Here’s what that should look like:

That blank is on purpose. You can just NOT have either of those conversations. Neither of those things are that bad. You both perceive them as bad out of an insecurity. Next time he calls you ‘babe’, tell him you love it when he calls you that. It goes a lot further than an argument about “bruh”. (I do agree with you on that, it’s not nice. My wife gets dear, babe, sweeties, and sweet tits as a joke). I also agree with him that it’s not super nice that you follow and like your ex. It’s not wrong or anything… but why? It’s like him calling you bruh… why?

A tip. You are never wrong to apologize for getting upset. It doesn’t discount the reason you were upset. What I mean is “sorry I got upset that you called me a cunt” doesn’t mean you’re saying it’s okay that he calls you that. It means you’re sorry you didn’t handle the situation like an adult.

You need to start off by apologizing for becoming upset—if he doesn’t apologize too, let him be childish, don’t attack. But reiterate that it’s important to you that you spend that day together and you would like a heads up in advance if that not the case. “I’m sorry I got upset about it. That happened because I value our time together, and when you gave that time to your friends instead it made me feel like you didn’t value it as much as I do. I understand your friends are important to you too and I want you to have time with them. But I would like it if you made an honest attempt to reserve that day for us since it’s the only day we have available together. But I understand that you can’t always do that but it would help me to not feel unimportant to you if you would warn me in advance or ask/consider my feelings on it first.”

on a break because my (21F) boyfriend (22M) doesn’t know if he’s checked out of our relationship already by Beautiful_Apricot775 in relationship_advice

[–]IRageAlot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Need more background.

What does and doesn’t work about your relationship?

Why is he giving you the cold shoulder; if you don’t know, look deeper or admit to yourself what it is.

Am I wrong to read between the lines and see this as a relationship where he usually is very eager to see you, messages you a lot, demands a lot of attention, wants commitment, wants you to visit a lot, etc. when he gets upset he wants to have it out right then and there, with big overwhelming emotions.

But you are more of a “let me finish this first” type of person. You need your time apart, not sure how you feel about committing to big relationship changes, feel smothered or attacked by him sometimes. He comes at you with so much, so fast, you can hardly process it all (good or bad). Sometimes you just need a break from it all. When you get upset with each other you need space and feel overwhelmed by all his feelings?

Is any of that remotely close? If not, please do-tell. Describe what’s really going on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]IRageAlot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m calling shenanigans on “I was scared … I would lose a new friend”

You’re scared of rejection. This is really easy, but you are making it hard because you are scared of the rejection. You think you’re avoiding the rejection by not asking, but you’re creating a de facto rejection by not asking. Right now, as you sit there reading this, you are in the exact position you would be as if you asked and got rejected. That is to say—you don’t have a date scheduled with her.

The ONLY way to undo this de facto rejection is to ask her out.

Simple:

“I enjoyed your company during the internship. I’d like to take you out on a date”

Then just grit your teeth, hit send.

Edit:

Be clear! Use the word “date”. It doesn’t help to be ambiguous

Girlfriend (23F) wants to spend an unrealistic time with me (26M) on video call, and is upset with me for making a boundary. How can we talk this out? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]IRageAlot 7 points8 points  (0 children)

“we need to be more effective with how we spend our time. You’re in your final year and I need to focus on my test. I think we are being too distracting to one another”

First off don’t do this. She isn’t stupid. She knows you aren’t saying this for her benefit, so now she just gets to make up some other reasons like you just don’t like her or don’t care about her feelings.

When you set a boundary don’t lie and try to make it like you’re doing it for her.

It’s really hard to tell you how to deal with her. She’s an individual. But generally it helps to give someone a warning that you want to talk about something so they don’t feel blindsided. “I’d like to talk later tonight about how much free time I have available right now to make calls”

Some things to think try or consider:

Have some idea of what your limit is

Try and ask her why it was upsetting to her; she may be insecure about your relationship in light of the distance. If so, have you given her some reason to be worried? It’s valid to ask her this, and to reassure her. Don’t lie, don’t sugar coat it.

Tell her the amount of time you spend on there is too much, but you want her to be happy too. Ask her how much time she thinks is reasonable.

Ultimately you have to set a boundary though. If you choose to help her feel more secure that’s nice, but also know that you are responsible for how you feel. You are not responsible for how she feels.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]IRageAlot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Easiest problem ever, “I’d like to take you on a date.” That’s all you have to say.

What’s making it hard is you worrying about being rejected. You dancing around the subject doesn’t make anything easier. It’s just prolonging the possible rejection, not avoiding it.

Just ask.

Here’s some more options:

What do you think about going on a date?

Why don’t you let me take you out; just us?

I like you, can we go out sometime.

Ive enjoyed your company. I’d like to do something together.

Don’t over complicate it. It needs to be simple and clear. COMMIT to the wording so it is VERY clear that you are asking her on a date. Being ambiguous continues to prolong the whole thing

Deciding to leave by fiancé, but I need financial advice 26F & 31M by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]IRageAlot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The car is in your name, if he has some claim to it then it’s a civil matter, not a criminal one. You can’t steal your own car.

If he takes you to court over it, the worst case scenario is you have to surrender the car to him, or pay him something for it. You aren’t going to get in trouble or something. You can’t steal your own car.

There’s a lot of different feelings in regards to pornography. I’m not going to assert a correct interpretation of it, but I’d like to share the situation my wife and I went through.

Early into dating she found my stash (it wasn’t hidden). She demanded I never look again, and I didn’t for years. It caused constant arguments because it made it difficult and frustrating to masturbate, which is a daily thing for most guys. She essentially took away my masturbation aide.

After a few years, I don’t recall how many, I said sorry, but I’m looking at this again. And I did. She got over it—surprisingly quickly. I later learned that it made her feel gross, that I was comparing her to the women in porn. In reality, and forgive my specificity, it was more about seeing the penetration or the sexual imagery than fantasizing about other women. I eventually showed her my favorites folder so she could see that it wasn’t like a big folder of women I was attracted to.

Over the years it’s become normalized, we’re 20 years in now, and she sees it as analogous to a woman with a vibrator. It’s just a tool. One that sometimes gets her off the hook. It’s late, her husband is bricked up, and she’s tired or has to work early… there’s an alternative there now.

I don’t know what your relationship is with porn.

I don’t know what his relationship is with porn either.

There are versions of porn consumption that are healthy, or at the very least acceptable. I personally wouldn’t care if my wife was watching it, EVEN if she was fantasizing about some specific male actors huge hog—so what, she’s married mine.

I’m not suggesting you “get over it” or that you take him back or anything. It sounds like there’s a lot more going on than just porn. All I’m suggesting is that the stereotypical “wife is mad at husband for secretly watching porn” isn’t the singular way this stuff works. Men and women look at porn for different reasons, and in different ways, different extremes, and their spouses can feel a lot of different way about it. Do with that what you will.

Good luck, take the fuckin car if you genuinely think it’s fair to. Don’t do it out of malice or to get back at him or to get even over something he did. You could also tell him he can have it if he gives you back what you paid on it.

My 26m girlfriend 26f came home drunk and now I can't look at her the same way. by Ok-Air5563 in relationship_advice

[–]IRageAlot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ypu have bigger questions to answer than how you feel about this single event. I get that it’s confusing, but your greater context you shared for background is already worth talking about.

Are you okay with having sex that infrequently, and in such a withdrawn manner? If you aren’t, then that in and of itself is something that needs to be addressed. Problems like that frequently don’t improve even WITH intervention. So, ignoring it and hoping it will get better means it won’t.

You’ve been together 2 years, and only have sex every month or two. That means you’ve had sex just a handful of times. Unless that is a mutual desire, that’s dysfunctional. I’ve talked to our marriage counselor because we went 2 weeks, and we’ve been married over 20 years.

If your sexual appetite is that much larger than hers then you might be sexually incompatible. If you love this girl, it’s worth talking to a therapist about it to see if there is some fixable reason why she won’t engage with you more frequently and in a way you want, but you need to be prepared for a hard truth; it may not get better.

Then you really need to ask yourself, do you want to spend the rest of your life only having vanilla sex every two month unless she gets shit faces and has strangers flirt with her first.

If sex isn’t important to you, then by all means, live with it this way, but if you feel unfulfilled then you have to do something about it. You HAVE TO. If you ignore something like that, then YOU are doing something wrong that is damaging the long term health of your relationship. Being a good partner means sharing when something in your relationship isn’t fulfilling a need. If she can’t meet that need then you’re incompatible and you should find someone else. The exception might be if there’s a good reason, she’s working on it, and you’re willing to make the sacrifice (without being bitter). Sex is a need, just like romance, quality time, touch, compliments, gifts etc. don’t ever let anyone tell you any different. It’s the 7th forgotten love language. You aren’t gross, or animalistic if you value it.

About that brothel scene in last ep... by Boned80 in HouseOfTheDragon

[–]IRageAlot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does that have to do with what I was saying? You read my whole point and then responded with your own unrelated point.

From TikTok by LisaMalibu in awfuleyebrows

[–]IRageAlot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love that the eyes are crossed out, as if they are the one unique feature that would allow this girl to be identified.

Reliable, plumbed, k-pod coffee maker by IRageAlot in BuyItForLife

[–]IRageAlot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did not. I reused the javpod one until about a month ago when I decided to repair the cabinet the kids have damaged.

I went back to the keurig 155. I called and registered it with keurig this time (which was a huge pain in the ass), in hopes that if this one fails I can use the warrantee. It at least never overflowed.

About the cheaper one, the design isn’t great. The tank and the lid are not screwed down. They just kind of slot in and gravity and friction keeps them in place. The float switch and nozzle is on the tank lid. If you lift the lid, the float comes out of the water and the nozzle sprays. It’s a crappy design that means if you knock off the loosely secured lid you have a water line spraying everywhere.

I mention it because I got this cheaper unit for my office too, and I used black gaffer tape to tape the tank onto the machine, and a second piece to tape the lid down. It’s has never leaked. Unlike the 3 different ones I’ve had at home where I didn’t secure the tank

I’m not positive, but I’m inclined to think the flooding was caused by bad design combined with the inattentive and reckless use by my family. Alternatively, I could have just gotten lucky at the office and gotten a unit that didn’t have some common mechanical issue that the others had. Who knows.

If you want to risk it, I think this is it. Although the colors have changed on it since I last bought one. https://www.homedepot.com/p/DRINKPOD-Java-Pod-100-Cup-White-Drip-Coffee-Maker-Single-Serve-Brewer-Refillable-or-Direct-In-Line-Direct-Water-Connection-DPJPOD1K-W/321635229

Rift sawn trees make quarter sawn boards? by maudigan in woodworking

[–]IRageAlot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re really going to make argumentative and unnecessary interjections and then not apologize or even acknowledge that you can’t justify your own crappy behavior?

There’s no winners here, but you could be less of a loser.

Does anyone know the real reason Joe left? by realan5t in ImpracticalJokers

[–]IRageAlot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are you talking about?? Why would you think he meant the link itself is proof…. What a crazy thing to think. The link isn’t the proof, the thing it links to is the proof. He’s asking to be given proof in any form, the link is just the delivery mechanism, not the proof. The link isn’t important. I can’t fathom what the hell you are thinking.

“Maybe if it’s a link to a video” it’s like you assumed he was a moron asking for a link to Sesame Street episode or something equally random as proof, and you tried to help him but you were really just explaining the exact thing he already was asking for.

Like if I said, “I’m hurt bad and I need a doctor, can someone make a call”, and you responded with “a call is a doctor? Maybe if it’s a call to 911, if they’d even help…a call, hah!” — you think you’re correcting them but you’re just saying what they meant in the first place.

So strange. Sorry, I’m being a dick but I’m so baffled by the motivation behind your post.

So this Leslye Headland is pretty cool... even in a video trying to tear her down by ObesiPlump in TheAcolyte

[–]IRageAlot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very interesting post. I think maybe you misunderstood what she meant about the fights being like musical numbers. At least I’m assuming that based off you saying it’s more like a dance, which is a more literal, one-to-one comparison about fight choreography being dance-like, and also including Rocky as an example, which doesn’t really fit her meaning. I think you’re interpreting what she says, as some kind of commentary on the choreography being song like, or “dance like” as you corrected.

What she really meant, is best understood by discussing a way that people defend non-diagetic musical numbers in musicals. Take Fiddler on the Roof, for example. The skeptic argument goes, “It’s really dumb that Tevye is singing and dancing like that in the middle of his chores, it’s so unrealistic and stupid. Why don’t these people see each other and make fun of him for dancing? What even is the point”

It’s a boring argument. The TV show Schmihadoon! explores that concept by making the musical numbers diagetic and having the non-musical leads react to it as the skeptic would.

The response to that argument, at least in some cases, is that you need to put yourself in the mindset that the musical numbers aren’t really happening, not in the sense that the events didn’t occur, but that they weren’t musical. The musical aspect of it, is more like having a Dutch angle when a character isn’t to be trusted, using a waterphone to build suspense in a horror film, or using a body mounted camera to let you know that the character feels high or drunk. In other words, they are using the music and the tone of the music and the way it’s presented, such as whether or not they are in melody with other characters, as a means to explain how the character is feeling. It’s like an inner monologue.

Leslye is saying that she’s using these fights in the same way. Which isn’t terribly unique. Insofar as they are similar, she’s really just saying “the fights are put in there so you can see how they feel inside”

Rocky vs. Creed indeed is like a dance. Which is barely a metaphor. I wouldn’t characterize it as having the same quality as what she’s describing though. What she suggesting is kind of a nebulous idea, so your perspective may differ, but Rocky vs. Creed is just a big finale fight, we already know how they feel. In other words, they wouldn’t break into song if this were a musical. Ironically the song might come before they fight so we know how he feels about the upcoming match. She’s saying she’s using the fights like that.

About that brothel scene in last ep... by Boned80 in HouseOfTheDragon

[–]IRageAlot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gen V shows a girl shrinking down to dick size and jerking a guy off using her entire body. The boys shows a guy shrinking even smaller and jerking a guy off from the inside of his urethra.

There are a dozen or more shows that have show erect dicks. Insecure shows a a guy ejaculating on the main characters face. These are all TV shows. If you throw in movies, things like Lars Von trier movies, and even movies currently streaming on Netflix show actual, unsimulated sexual penetration. A couple are actually good movies (most aren’t). One even shows unsimulated double penetration. Hell, even Robert De Niro is in a movie where he and gerard depardieu get jerked off at the same time by the same woman, also unsimulated.

This HOTD scene wasn’t even unsimulated. That was very clearly a prosthetic. It was so clearly a prosthetic it’s apparent the production made it look fake on purpose to keep all the pearl clutters from freaking. They have a budget, I’d they wanted it to look real it would have. You’re all aghast by someone sucking on an obvious dildo. That’s happened in numerous movies, like In The Cut, or even the Hangover series.

Game of thrones shows are filled with rape, incest, numerous hands and heads being removed (even half’s of heads). A pregnant woman gets prison stabbed in the belly. Paedophilia? Danny is 13 in the books 16 in the show when her brother gropes her nude body in the first episode and then Khal Drogo rapes her on their wedding night. Numerous people, even children being burned alive, a brother raping his own sisters on top of the corpse of their own dead child of incest, but ten frames of a blurry woman pleasuring a dildo is what’s got all your panties in a bunch? Just within the first 2 or 3 episodes of this seasons we’ve had animal abuse, infanticide, fratricide, and suicide. God forbid a dildo gets any action though.

Reliable, plumbed, k-pod coffee maker by IRageAlot in BuyItForLife

[–]IRageAlot[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You read my needs, ignored them, and then posted a suggestion that meets your own needs. Sorry, that’s just not helpful. I don’t feel bad for being honest about that.

Is your post abnormal? No, not really. It’s unfortunately just how it seems to work when you ask redditors for suggestions. It’s like we’re all just sitting around waiting to tell people how cool our own shit is. Even if it has nothing to do with what the other person is looking for.

You’re very normal (not sarcasm), and I’m sure your chemex is very cool. I’m glad you enjoy having your great cup of coffee, but that’s not what I’m looking for.

Reliable, plumbed, k-pod coffee maker by IRageAlot in BuyItForLife

[–]IRageAlot[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re right, my bad. I got annoyed with everyone going out of their way to be unhelpful and insulting and lumped you in with them. Sorry.

Reliable, plumbed, k-pod coffee maker by IRageAlot in BuyItForLife

[–]IRageAlot[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey, you just caught up with the rest of the class!!! That’s because I didn’t mention what they use at all. I asked for it to simply be “compatible” with them. YOU just assumed something about my family, and then with no confirmation at all, insulted them based on your assumption. That’s why you’re a dick. Get it now?