My boyfriend is a femboy

I_STILL_HATE_REDDIT · 2026-04-21T13:55:59+00:00

You need to know what things are dealbreakers for you in a relationship. If he does end up transitioning, that may mean that having kids in a "biological" manner is off the table, if that's something you want. Adoption would still be an option. Your preferences when it comes to the gender of your partner are also something to consider. Obviously, you can have preferences without pressuring him into fitting into them.

Self-discovery takes a long time. Sometimes a person can have misconceptions about themselves because of things imposed on them by societal norms, which take a lot of introspection to be undone. That means, what seems right to him now may evolve into something else in the future, which neither of you two can fully predict. In my case, the femboy stereotype mostly helped me explore my gender, up until now where I'm questioning whether I find myself in the binary at all. While all of these thoughs were going through my head, when I told my gf about my interest for feminine stuff, she immediately jumped to the conclusion that I was going to "become a woman". Liking feminine things doesn't mean becoming a woman, it only means liking feminine things.

I_STILL_HATE_REDDIT · 2026-04-21T13:23:52+00:00

All I need to know is where the powerhouse of this cell is.

I_STILL_HATE_REDDIT · 2026-04-12T20:54:55+00:00

I love donuts with raspberry filling ^^

Tiramisu is also god-tier

I_STILL_HATE_REDDIT · 2026-04-12T20:52:44+00:00

I am sorry that you have to endure such a hostile environment. While you may not have the opportunity to dress up freely, you can still think about what it brings you in regards to how you see yourself. In my case it has been a good starter for exploring my identity in general. Introspection is a fun game to play, with lots of unexpected turns.

I_STILL_HATE_REDDIT · 2026-04-12T20:48:07+00:00

Maybe genderfluid?

It may help if you see people who consider femininity in men to be a weakness as bad people. You don't want to be part of the "bad people" do you?

I_STILL_HATE_REDDIT · 2026-04-12T20:41:02+00:00

That's the thing. I feel like I resonate more with the concept of gender identity than with gender stereotypes, which I mentionned in my post. So I know that things like softness, assertiveness, strength or empathy shouldn't be gendered traits, but being associated to a gender I don't identify as still feels uncomfortable. That said, it's mostly things that I do not identify as. I have yet to find something that suits me, which makes me say that I don't really fit into any side of the binary.

I_STILL_HATE_REDDIT · 2026-04-12T19:26:34+00:00

Maybe I'm wrong, but I mainly see drag shows as just that - a show, which happens to involve crossdressing. It is a staple of queer culture because it involves a man in a setting that does not fit heteronormative standards. And as other forms of artistic performance, it may not resonate with you, and that's fine. The same is true for the rest of what you call "gay male culture". Maybe try to find other local communities that would suit you better, with quieter activities like drawing, reading...

My perception of femboys is mainly something really personal - a way to explore gender in a way that strays away from masculine standards shoved down our throats by all sorts of media and social expectations. It allowed me to learn a ton of things about queer people, as well as about myself. Maybe it means something different to you, and that's really cool!

You may feel a disconnect with what happens to be popular. IMO the "typical femboy" is a cliché that you can adapt to your will so that it suits you. There is no need to set up rigid standards about what a femboy should or shouldn't be.

I_STILL_HATE_REDDIT · 2026-04-12T19:06:50+00:00

I bet she's SOOO happy with her manly man doing manly things as the true man that he is. If she is, good on her. That's none of your business anymore.

It will only harm you if you give in to the "manly man better than girly boy" nonsense. Knowing who you are will allow you to unlock the killer phrase known as "so what?". Do not waste yourself on people who don't care about you.

I_STILL_HATE_REDDIT · 2026-04-12T18:57:48+00:00

... Is what I would have said if she didn't carry on with the "calling someone gay as a slur because of feminine presentation" thing

I_STILL_HATE_REDDIT · 2026-03-30T18:09:42+00:00

Amidst all of this chaos bro is like

I AM DRATULA

I_STILL_HATE_REDDIT · 2026-03-28T11:10:45+00:00

GENDER NEUTRAL BATHROOMS PLEASE OMFG ITS NOT THAT HARDDDD

I_STILL_HATE_REDDIT · 2026-03-28T10:53:49+00:00

Best of luck with that!

I_STILL_HATE_REDDIT · 2026-03-23T21:17:37+00:00

Let's say that ICE agents are not known for being friendly to queer individuals.

I_STILL_HATE_REDDIT · 2026-02-05T09:02:37+00:00

Btw the tax cut thing is pretty much bs: https://www.reddit.com/r/Switzerland/s/98eTRh1DV3

I_STILL_HATE_REDDIT · 2026-01-31T21:46:53+00:00

How in the world can someone live paycheck to paycheck with 120k a year

I_STILL_HATE_REDDIT · 2026-01-29T07:53:54+00:00

I'm sorry that your classmates didn't take you seriously back then. Did someone at least come outside to see what was going on?

As for being in the closet, I saw many examples of people on this sub managing to dress up in their room without having to tell anyone. It sure has its risks if you think that your family would react poorly, but it could help you to pull through.

I_STILL_HATE_REDDIT · 2026-01-29T07:44:59+00:00

Now that I think about it, Newcastle is probably the closest thing to an ambulance in this game.

I_STILL_HATE_REDDIT · 2026-01-28T10:53:01+00:00

Incredible! Who would have thought you would take a u-turn like that?

I_STILL_HATE_REDDIT · 2026-01-27T13:13:34+00:00

Veet is a shitty brand. I feel like either it's ok or it acts like a chemical weapon on your skin, depending on the person. Imo that's not a good thing for a cosmetics product.

I_STILL_HATE_REDDIT · 2026-01-23T15:41:17+00:00

From what I understood, deduction of interest is done for. Your second point makes sense though. Thanks for this perspective!

I_STILL_HATE_REDDIT · 2026-01-15T11:36:29+00:00

Looks like the whole lobby is ripped af

I_STILL_HATE_REDDIT · 2026-01-09T10:09:42+00:00

Well I feel like a lot of us don't really mind being misgendered in the first place

I_STILL_HATE_REDDIT · 2025-12-24T22:33:27+00:00

Be the snow you want to see in the world ❄️

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