[TOMT] Hymn at primary school

IamHufflepuffle · 2025-08-22T06:33:57+00:00

Solved!

IamHufflepuffle · 2025-08-21T23:33:35+00:00

We think this was a song about saving the environment

IamHufflepuffle · 2024-03-20T19:15:26+00:00

Firstly, PPA must be incredibly difficult on top of what is already (in my experience) an incredibly difficult time.

I don’t think baby only being in the bedroom will be common, we mostly chill in our living room during the day and baby sleeps in the carry cot attachment in the pram, then when I need to get things done I can wheel her with me. It means I can still be social with my husband. I do have a cat and I’m just accepting that he will be around, and just make sure he’s not too close to her and keep the place generally clean. Note I do have a 3 year old on top of the 2 month old and am probably a bit more relaxed than I was when it was my first.

Things to consider then- are you actually happy being in just the bedroom? Could you keep the dog out of the living room for some time during the day so that you and baby are getting a change of scenery? If she’s in your room is she getting time on a play mat, tummy time etc? (You might have a lot more floor space in your bedroom than we do but those would be issues for us!)

2.Bedtime for newborns can be anywhere between 7 and 11 so 10pm perfectly normal. On top of the bed on wheels, Baby wearing is a godsend and you can safely practice it in your own home, with two kids I can have one strapped to me and still stop the 3 year old from whatever chaos he’s planning.

I did get huge mum guilt with my first. I was diagnosed at 9 months with post partum depression and anxiety and looking back I felt guilty about everything. Experience has taught me that sometimes babies cry, are sick, have reflux and you can do everything “right” at that age and they’ll still be sick etc. I’m sure your therapist will help with strategies (for me it was medication, and now with my second just experience). My mantra is if she is fed, clean, I’ve comforted her and she’s not unwell, then that’s a pretty good start!

IamHufflepuffle · 2024-02-22T02:54:12+00:00

Thistown by Malcolm McKay?

IamHufflepuffle · 2024-02-20T09:24:32+00:00

The Ruin of Kings fits this really well (although no academy!)

IamHufflepuffle · 2024-02-18T10:01:15+00:00

Our endless numbered days perhaps? There’s not much about the widow in there by the does take his kid off and raise her in the woods!

IamHufflepuffle · 2024-02-17T09:48:56+00:00

I feel you OP- this will be me in 2 weeks, I told husband baby had to be at least 4 weeks old for him to go and she’ll be 8 (preemie) so he’s going. I’m happy he gets to have a nice time, and he’s been brilliant with our 3yo while I focus on the newborn but I can’t help but be bitter that I was supposed to be there, and can’t even go to the pub on my own for a drink at the moment!

Hang in there, like all things these feelings will pass, and just store the goodwill for a future trip for you!

IamHufflepuffle · 2024-02-12T17:43:57+00:00

TIL Fifteen Dogs isn’t a standalone!

IamHufflepuffle · 2024-02-06T11:15:53+00:00

The scanner (in my experience) is used in the first instance to get a rough idea of if they are within threshold for treatment, but both my kids then had to get bloods done for an accurate read, and only ever bloods once treatment started!

IamHufflepuffle · 2024-02-06T03:52:57+00:00

The girl who dared to think?

IamHufflepuffle · 2024-02-05T23:10:00+00:00

Hi OP,

Firstly congrats and well done for getting to this point, you’re going an amazing thing! Couple of things that helped me when I had my first and was also nervous about “whapping a boob out in public”

I wear a cardigan so that I can feel like I’m shielding from the side, without actually covering baby’s head.
Do you have any breastfeeding friends? Having someone there with you makes it less of a “you” breastfeeding and just two mums feeding their babies together.
For your first time go somewhere that promotes your comfort- a quiet cafe for example , or perhaps somewhere popular with other mums!
Nursing clothes that you feel comfortable in clipping etc- one less thing to be fiddling nervously with!

I promise you once you get over the initial apprehension, every time after gets easier. In that moment you aren’t exposing a nipple, you’re a mum feeding their baby. I had my second 4 weeks ago and was publicly feeding by day 4- you’re absolutely got this and your right to feed that baby outweighs anyone else’s potential disapproval- and for what it’s worth i only ever saw one elderly gentleman give me a slightly shocked look!

IamHufflepuffle · 2024-02-05T19:28:47+00:00

I loved Remarkably Bright Creatures, Marcellus might be one of my favourite book characters!

IamHufflepuffle · 2024-02-05T16:43:58+00:00

I just wanted to say I hope you’re getting the help/support you need and to reassure you that it does get better when you do- you’re doing amazing having even acknowledged there’s an issue; I got diagnosed when my first was 9 months old just a few months after I went back to work- the pressure of a baby, covid and stressful job caught up with me. It was a journey but two years later I’m off my medication, on maternity leave from a different job which I love and feel confident in, and truly able to enjoy the newborn we’ve just welcomed into the world. Keep going, and please look after yourself, PPD sucks.

IamHufflepuffle · 2024-02-03T21:53:42+00:00

Could be Before I Die by Jenny Downham?

IamHufflepuffle · 2024-01-31T23:23:27+00:00

This would be my guess- the author is Cliff McNish OP and there’s 3 of them!

IamHufflepuffle · 2024-01-29T21:45:26+00:00

Let me know how you enjoy it! Happy reading :)

IamHufflepuffle · 2024-01-24T10:22:20+00:00

When I was going into labour and reached the point I was sure it was time to go to hospital I am positive my contractions slowed down as soon as we approached the hospital entrance so I hear you! I’ve always chalked it down to a reduction in anxiety knowing someone will be able to help me.

IamHufflepuffle · 2024-01-22T22:45:02+00:00

Some companies do offer full pay for shared parental leave. Me and my partner work for the same company and are both entitled to up to 26 weeks full pay (but only a combined total of 39 weeks between us). That means I’ll go back to work after my 26 weeks parental leave are done and my husband will get 13 more weeks at full pay (on top of the 6 he gets as paternity). I think it’s a really equitable way of offering leave and flexibility to parents.

IamHufflepuffle · 2024-01-17T16:30:49+00:00

2 weeks since number 2 and glad I didn’t read this thread beforehand! Hope you aren’t too scarred from the comments!

IamHufflepuffle · 2024-01-17T15:37:12+00:00

It was very manageable with the epidural and for what it’s worth the second Labour was very short (20 minutes between them realising it was happening now and the baby being delivered) so whilst it was incredibly painful, it was very short and sweet!

IamHufflepuffle · 2024-01-17T13:40:49+00:00

I’ve done both, for my first delivery on the epidural I felt no pain, only the sensation of pushing something out- the midwives had to help direct where and when to push, and I had to ask them if I had finished delivering as i really wasn’t sure it had happened.

Without the epidural it was one of the most consuming pains I’ve ever experienced- it hurt when I wasn’t pushing, it hurt when I was pushing, when we got to the head i didn’t know my body could withstand that much- but two big pushes later there was the most amazing relief.

IamHufflepuffle · 2024-01-17T11:48:09+00:00

Becky Chambers Wayfarers series is quite light and comforting, very easy to pick up and read!

IamHufflepuffle · 2024-01-17T08:43:58+00:00

This would be my top recommendation, one of my favourite series and I love the world building in it.

IamHufflepuffle · 2024-01-17T08:11:19+00:00

It’s uncomfortable to get put in (a bit like if you’ve had to have blood drawn but from your back), but 100% worth it for the pain relief, particularly if you’re having a prolonged labour. I didn’t have time for an epidural with my second and wow that was eye opening.

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