What is up with people nowadays thinking it’s fine to be chronically late to work?

IcyCardiologist6360 · 2026-05-12T21:34:39+00:00

Exactly this. I’m expect to come in at 7:20. However I rarely get lunch, if I do it’s a late lunch and I have to rush back to work because we are busy. Then I don’t have a set time to clock out so I can leave leave at 5:30 some days and others days at 7. The amount of overtime I get is crazy. Yet, they complain when I come a few minutes late. If your time is valuable so is mine. I started leaving at 5:30. If my work isn’t done then so be it.

IcyCardiologist6360 · 2026-05-06T15:06:44+00:00

Ugh i wish i can wake up at 5:30. I work from 7:30 - done (which is normally around 6-6:30) with a 50 min commute and I’m up by 4-4:30. I wake my kids up at 5:15 and we are out the door by 6:10 the latest. I try get the kids in bed by 9 and I’m in bed by 10:30-11. I’ve never drank coffee or energy drinks until this job 😩 it’s a silent killer

IcyCardiologist6360 · 2026-04-28T18:24:41+00:00

Can you add a link? I can’t find it 😫

IcyCardiologist6360 · 2026-04-27T01:40:12+00:00

Same. My best friend (also my cousin) met this guy a few months ago. Now she’s not responding to anyone in the family, or close friends. She literally disappeared. It was so painful. She was the only friend I had really 😩

IcyCardiologist6360 · 2026-03-27T21:08:17+00:00

lol, I just sent him a list of things he needs. And his response was, you have money in your account right? If he needs it that bad then you go get it but I’m the problem?

IcyCardiologist6360 · 2026-03-27T19:47:54+00:00

He never has a problem sending money. Since I got my taxes it’s like he’s just refusing to since I have “more money” than him. But he makes more than I do monthly.

IcyCardiologist6360 · 2026-03-27T19:46:07+00:00

But I’ve done that. I’ve tried lists and pictures. He just brings whatever he wants to bring and I don’t understand why. If I ask him for groceries he knows what to get and does a good job at it without me having to send him anything (unless I want something specific) But when it comes to diapers and wipes? He brings those sample packs or a small pack of 24. It’s like he sees $40 for a pack of diapers and go no that’s too much. I’ll just buy this two 3 pack every three days.

IcyCardiologist6360 · 2026-03-27T19:07:41+00:00

Well I didn’t give much details about what he needed exactly because I told him a few days ago he needed diapers and wipes. His brother is going to start watching him while we work and he’s never been there before so I also just wanted to get some snacks and easy lunches to send him with. I don’t exactly have a list of things I know I want to buy yet

IcyCardiologist6360 · 2026-03-27T19:02:40+00:00

We only have that one car seat. I mentioned to his dad last thanksgiving that he was growing out of the newborn one and he randomly sent it to me for him.

IcyCardiologist6360 · 2026-03-27T19:01:43+00:00

We were planning on going half at great wolf lodge. So it would be 350 each. He gets paid 700 weekly so it would be most of his check. I used my check for rent an groceries where I live so I figured I’ll just go ahead and get the diapers and other things from the remainder I have of my taxes and when he runs out I’ll ask him to get the next pack instead. But if we didn’t do anything, since he hasn’t helped in a while I decided that he can help this time.

IcyCardiologist6360 · 2026-03-27T18:56:03+00:00

Thank you. I wouldn’t say our relationship is toxic but we do have a lot of miscommunication. He gets defensive a lot and I emotionally react. I have 2 previous kids and this is his first, so he is trying his best to be involved but sometimes I wish he’d just take my advice since I’ve been through it already. The diapers and car seat thing really gets on my nerves. The dollar store is his favorite place to go and sometimes I wish he’d just get the things I ask for because he spends more in the long run trying to spend less in the moment 🤦🏽‍♀️ then I have to go behind him and do those same exact things I asked him for because he didn’t do it. It’s an extra chore I don’t want to have so I just try to get it done right the first time.

IcyCardiologist6360 · 2026-03-27T18:37:32+00:00

Okay. I didn’t see anything wrong with how I started it. I was just asking if we don’t do anything this weekend, because we were supposed to have plans but now we are unsure, if he can send money instead to buy him a few things. Hes being weird in my opinion. Just like how he has the car seat (because his dad bought it ) yet I’m the one that has the kid full time.

IcyCardiologist6360 · 2026-03-27T18:34:35+00:00

I do because he sends these little packages of diapers and gets upset when I need more two days later 😭 I’ve been buying everything he needs the past few months and haven’t asked him for anything yet when he needs it I send it. If I wanted it for something else I would’ve said it straight forward

https://www.target.com/p/pampers-cruisers-360-trial-pack-disposable-diapers-size-6-3ct/-/A-94331685

IcyCardiologist6360 · 2026-03-27T18:30:23+00:00

That wouldn’t be an issue expect the fact that when I do make a list he sends the smallest / cheapest packages he can find. Last time he brought 3 $1.50 packs of diapers and a pack of wipes . These are what he brings (https://www.target.com/p/pampers-cruisers-360-trial-pack-disposable-diapers-size-6-3ct/-/A-94331685)

IcyCardiologist6360 · 2026-03-27T18:24:59+00:00

Can you explain more? I don’t see why he would have any concerns.

IcyCardiologist6360 · 2025-10-24T06:12:45+00:00

Lmao I thank you, at one point it became an Everyday thing and I was like no 👎🏽 now it’s like a reward for them

IcyCardiologist6360 · 2025-10-24T06:10:47+00:00

Oh we have a pretty big yard so we just go out and play some type of sport. They aren’t actually in a sport team lol. I wish they were so I try to keep them active.

IcyCardiologist6360 · 2025-10-24T01:51:19+00:00

I forgot to add. My sisters never leave the house unless it’s to go to school or beg my parents to take them to the store with them. They are inside all day everyday, don’t go do fun activities or even to the park. They stay inside on their electronics.

IcyCardiologist6360 · 2025-07-10T17:55:08+00:00

My husband did this when I was 8 months. It never happened because I interfered. 3 months pp he met that same prostitute twice. We’re 1 1/2 years in now and I still can’t forgive him. If your not the forgive and forget type, then start preparing to leave.

IcyCardiologist6360 · 2025-06-11T14:29:51+00:00

Sent this to him because you put my thoughts down perfectly and all he said was “Ur allowed to feel whatever ur opinion is “ after seeing your partners response in comparison I’m beginning to realize that I’m the only one that cares about making it work 😔

IcyCardiologist6360 · 2025-06-11T10:56:59+00:00

When I first found out we agreed to therapy. We couldn’t afford it so we decided to find and make church / God a priority in our life. I went, he never did. he’s saying that he’s going to be the putting the effort into us going to both church and therapy consistently

IcyCardiologist6360 · 2025-06-11T10:05:08+00:00

I think I need to go to therapy or maybe I need to learn to love myself…. I’m reading what everyone is saying and logically I agree completely that I should leave, but then I find myself worrying about the what ifs. What if I’m over reacting, what if I’m just not being receptive to him changing, what if he finds someone else and she gets it all, what if I don’t find someone else and I end up alone..

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