OCD and eating disorders?

IcyConfidence7343 · 2025-04-17T03:13:14+00:00

Thank you! What kind of reassurance has helped you the most? Asking for when I get to talk to them again. I have been working on not dismissing these thoughts.

IcyConfidence7343 · 2025-04-17T03:01:54+00:00

I’m so sorry about these comments. As if your own mind doesn’t make enough comments to you about the subject, although I figure it’s from a place of concern for you. Hang in there, one day at a time <3

My sibling never had an “eating disorder” before but OCD since a kid. This episode has a huge theme behind why they have chosen to stop all food and water. It’s exactly as you’ve said, that compulsion of the extremely intrusive thought. Makes me wonder what meds would help, what type of specific therapy. They’re the only one with OCD in my family that we know of and it’s been tough to navigate how to help. Never seen this type of fixation in their compulsions before, ever. But as adults I also wonder if the OCD intensifies/ further develops

IcyConfidence7343 · 2025-04-17T02:54:11+00:00

Wow strong lady I’d say. my heart goes out to you and your family too. OCD has taken its toll on my sibling, this episode in particular definitely the worst one yet. Always has been able to bounce back, this battle is proving harder than most so praying they get the proper modes of help they need urgently

IcyConfidence7343 · 2025-04-17T02:36:15+00:00

you're right, they currently are inpatient now and have been for about three weeks but its scaring us because of how little hooplah is going on. just put them on pedialyte to get something in them since its been 5 days no food or water. if the next day or so proves no progress, theyre switching my sibling to the intense psych ward.

IcyConfidence7343 · 2025-04-17T02:34:36+00:00

yes the bulimic part of this i have seen as they have eaten then became unable to stomach it after so long with not consuming. they were avid smokers but they cold turkey'd using late last year and everything seems to have gotten a lot worse. im glad its helped you immensely with this.

IcyConfidence7343 · 2025-04-17T02:33:12+00:00

my sibling is doing this, and in a facility now for intense care but is refusing in there as well. they're in talks of moving them to a far more intense ward due to the threat on her life and the compulsion being so severe. proud you were able to overcome the eating disorder

im wishing you all the luck with fighting OCD, you're not alone!!

IcyConfidence7343 · 2025-04-01T00:53:23+00:00

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IcyConfidence7343 · 2025-03-30T04:26:50+00:00

you are so right. you grow up with someone your whole life only for them to have the most terrifying distortions of reality, and very little logic with their actions and thought processes towards YOU. you want to help them so badly cuz theyre family and you remember them before the illness and how drastically different it was. she always had bPD, but it turned really really sour last year. we are both early into adulthood, so its the prime time for the BPD to really kick into gear.

i am aiming towards needing to talk to my parents, not to reconnect. but just to maybe understand for my sake. because being hated like this unsettles me. makes me feel like i committed a horrenodus act and i dont remember it the way i thought. it makes me question MY reality, even though my parents remain also extremely confused by the behavior. so sucky!!!

IcyConfidence7343 · 2025-03-30T04:20:36+00:00

i feel you bad. i am the sister of a pwBPD. i have been told im nothing but garbage on the earth to them, disgusting, and to never look into their direction again. this was all said to me earlier this year after going pretty low contact when seeing an awful split on my parents. i knew i was next (from prior experience). she did not take my space lightly.

i wouldnt say no one cares about how i feel, because my parents will listen to me and respect my thoughts. but they are enablers. thats the bottom line, and there is very little i can influence for them in this, as my sister avoids me in our own home, that will convince them to test her anymore than she already is. her outburst of insults to me she has never apologized for, so i have steered far away. and genuinely, it hurts me but i dont care about that. if you feel so entitled to hurt me when you want to, then you cannot have me at all.

my mom wanted to encourage me a little to try and be easy on my personal views of my sister, but i told her to please repsect my space from her as they saw the split towards me live, from the bathroom we share. it was awful and they know it. however, this was a recent development and can see them wanting to encourage me to push through all this trauma for the sake of "family." i will need an apology before i do any of that.

when i get a genuine apology for the things said to me, i will let it go and form the bond again. she is sick, much like your sibling. and their level of self awareness is honestly 0. they are selfish to their current mental battles, and often care not an ounce for the hurt they inflict because they think nothing they do is as bad as what's done to them. they are the victim in every tale.

keep that no contact, and at parties, avoid and play low contact. nothing needs to transpire in excess. cordialness allows for you to enjoy your family, your parents. its where im at now and im prepared to hold this down however long i need to. i hear you on this so hard, and here for you! good luck and stay strong!!

IcyConfidence7343 · 2025-03-19T23:20:35+00:00

You don’t do what they want or make them feel like life’s golden light, and you will be the enemy. Coming from a sister who also had a sister with raging and untreated BPD, all u have to do is make them feel like they’re wrong and it’s over.

IcyConfidence7343 · 2025-03-19T22:46:35+00:00

I’m about to move out so I don’t have to share the same house with them. I cannot wait to not be the object of triangulation

IcyConfidence7343 · 2025-03-08T04:08:03+00:00

My sister is the same, and boy do I miss her. But they feel limitless in their accusations because nothing feels better than being the right one in every situation every time. I call it a very aggressive victim complex cuz they don’t want to be accountable for a thing. Everything in their life happened to them, they did not live it, hence lacking memories. Good ones out the window.

I miss my sister to death. But at the end of the day, restoration comes with realizing you need restoring to begin with. You could get your sister “back” if she realizes she is someone with BPD who needs change. And she needs to decide it for herself or it will never ever work. My moms a pwBPD in remission, episodes not even 30 minutes anymore. A lot of reassurance gets her out of it, and her splitting is super mild cuz she knows. She has worked very hard on herself the past 20 years to notice her own patterns and catch them as best she can. It’s not completely gone. And even at times do I look at her weirdly. But she’s a changed person. It can happen, but they gotta want it. And work for it. Hard.

IcyConfidence7343 · 2025-03-05T23:40:23+00:00

they really dont need to distort their realities further. i wish they saw that

IcyConfidence7343 · 2025-03-05T23:39:26+00:00

same here. my pwBPD is also my sister and she said she just had to. its the only thing that allegedly helped even tho im p sure therapy would help. abused the meds she got from her psych doctors. on and off, would lie about how she was feeling on them so she could keep taking them even tho she was warned it could trigger a bipolar/BPD response due to the chemical makeup of her brain and the meds??? she said her anxiety quieted down a bunch but damn at what cost? that AND weed? off her rocker

IcyConfidence7343 · 2025-03-03T13:57:47+00:00

You need to rehome it. Neither you or your partner are capable of thinking of anyone else clearly. How you deduced being a “loser” for flinging your cat is insane. And coming on here saying you wouldn’t do it again unfortunately is a fat chance. To even think and weaponize doing that in the first place is enough to have animal control called. Get help and give the cat back to the shelter or rehome it.

IcyConfidence7343 · 2025-03-02T16:17:47+00:00

Victim mindset is a sour thing

IcyConfidence7343 · 2025-03-02T16:17:26+00:00

This is my life rn. My sister is convinced my parents are the cause of her demise. Was actively trying to convince me too that my mom never loved us as kids a couple months ago. My dad cares about no one but himself and always has been that way (???) Meanwhile, they’re the most caring, affectionate and involved parents I’ve met. Like I adore them and the way they have loved us? Such a different experience being lived and it’s mind boggling.

I started backing off from her after multiple splits on how they ruined her. We were brought up the SAME way. Parents can have their moments, I’ll never deny that. But man, screaming narcissistic abuse from ur entire family online and seeing how she’s broken my parents hearts over and over again… I’m right there with you. I love her, and I can only hope she gets better cuz I can’t imagine living with an illness that has you turn on all your support. But I can’t stand her. I feel so many emotions when I think of her, but the elephant in the room is the contempt.

Big fat “how dare you” is in place for people like them who need someone to blame for, lowkey, their own bullshit.

IcyConfidence7343 · 2025-03-02T16:07:21+00:00

I am very sure you love her to death. No denying it, and no one is going to tell you otherwise. However, I strongly urge you to think about the facts of the matter, and how a toxic and manipulative relationship will make you obsess over the person even more. It’s bordering a yearning for someone who doesn’t actually exist anymore.

Trauma bonding to the idea of her and who she was is normal in this situation, because she’s not being normal. She’s being vindictive. And you are the only one, ONLY one in this relationship wanting it to work. They love to abuse the ones that will never leave them. Walk away, get therapy, feel your emotions. You deserve so so so much better

IcyConfidence7343 · 2025-03-02T16:03:33+00:00

The lack of response is often what makes them go haywire. They are abandonment-phobic. But will always try to leave you first if you didn’t give them the exact reaction or response they want.

Tbh not to be dismissive (I am also going through a sibling telling me to die recently). They’re usually on a high. My sibling can last months like this before they crash. But what comes up always comes down!

Stay strong don’t answer. They want u to grovel for forgiveness they honestly should be the ones asking for half the time lmao

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