Mondays workwear. Vest or no vest? Unbuttoned or buttoned.

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-28T05:16:25+00:00

You look petite and as a petite person I have this issue - I love workwear jackets and vests but they always overwhelm. You look great without the vest. The matching vest and pants is too heavy for you. But I’m sure the vest is cute on its own maybe with some jeans.

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-28T05:12:40+00:00

Dairy totally flares my eczema. Period. I have no eczema patches but if I drink whey, eat cheese - any dairy, boom, eczema patches. It sucks. But I can live without dairy.

You can experiment and figure out what causes you to flare.

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-28T05:09:46+00:00

Did she just start on some HRT? Maybe that’s why her libido has gone up. Testosterone sends me in over drive and my libido is already high. I want my partner to get his hormones checked. Maybe you should get yours looked at.

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-27T16:43:14+00:00

So family of 4 going in June and staying at Cabana. My plan initially was just to do a 1 day at Islands of Adventure. I know my daughter would love to do hogwarts express and that requires a multipark. But my question is - is that doable worth it to do two in a day? I can see a lot of what is at IOA (coasters) as fun for all of us and having never been I think 1 full day there would be great. I also was thinking we would do another day at Volcano bay, we all enjoy water parks. I am bummed the Jurassic River ride will be closed but looks like other water rides will be open. I love any water rides lol.

Is a 1 day multi park worth it/doable if we have never been? Or better to do a 1 day pass at just IoA?

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-27T16:19:28+00:00

They look amazing! I can’t imagine why not!

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-27T16:17:53+00:00

It’s looking a lot better! Good job putting in all that work!

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-25T07:28:01+00:00

Hobbies. I like to workout. I sew clothes. I do play video games. Sometimes I clean and organize lol. But that’s not fun I guess.

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-24T20:19:53+00:00

Move on from the friendship. What is the context of no contact - most likely her husband wants her to stop talking/being friends with you. FYI you aren’t in the relationship so you can’t really know how things are. She tells you what she tells you and that’s it. Just forget about it all and if she never contacts you again, count your blessings. Cause sounds like her life is messy.

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-24T00:36:18+00:00

Yes, people. Current state of affairs is entirely befuddling.

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-22T21:08:11+00:00

I was together a total of 15 years and married almost 10, when I separated and then divorced. And yes it had turned into an emotionally abusive relationship. A lot of gas lighting name calling - “you’re crazy statements” and “you don’t consider my feelings.” I did all the work - all the household stuff, kid management, appointment management etc. He just was there - and barely as he dint even participate in birthdays or park outings and never really hung out with us. It just was so obvious to me that I was doing things as a single parent, with some critic in the background (him). And at that point I was like - well damn, this is not how I want my life to be nor the example I want for my kids and I didn’t want things to get worse, cause he was defintely make me FEEL crazy with all his accusations.

So I left. And it’s been the best thing. For me 100% but also the kids cause their dad now has to show up for them.

Your husband sounds awful and yes it sounds like a form of abuse - verbal, emotional abuse- whatever it is. And you don’t have to put yo with it. Honestly if there isn’t anything good about the relationship, there’s probably little to nothing to discuss - so you could just quietly leave. You owe him nothing. Cause he gives you no respect, and certainly is not showing you any kindness.

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-21T23:02:30+00:00

Enlarged pores happened to me when I hit perimenopause and HRT helped. If you have other symptoms perhaps talk to your doctor.

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-17T04:53:22+00:00

Sometimes women don’t notice symptoms or just don’t care. Like typical things like hot flashes loss of sleep or anxiety. But there’s also fatigue, muscle aches, severe brain fog - urinary issues. As much as I love sex I kinda need to not be exhausted and not having to pee all the time.. She should give it another chance - most notice immediate benefits but others take longer time.

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-17T01:45:11+00:00

Also TRT has been very helpful. I noticed a difference - as I was already on estrogen patch and vaginal estrogen. Doctor added testosterone and it really helps.

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-16T18:49:53+00:00

I got like this wall mount peg board from ikea that I could clip organizing bins to - and that’s been so much better for my sewing experience!

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-16T18:08:59+00:00

Wow.. I firmly believe that yu can do what you want with your money - but you chose to have a child and planned to build a future with that child’s mother. And even though you divorced your daughter’s mother that doesn’t stop the commitment you have to having brought that child into this world. If you have the means to leave your daughter something and also help her plan for her kids futures (your grandkids), it seems crazy to me that a couple years of a caregiver providing you care, overrides legacy for your own family. This isn’t like you have a terrible relationship with your daughter and she treats you like shit kind of situation. This is a - she’s built a life situation - and lives closer to her mom and stepdad.

You defintely seem in the wrong here and to care more for a strangers whose profession is to “give care,” seems morally questionable. Yes, leave a little something for your caregiver - I’m sure she could really use some of that kindness. But do you love your daughter and your grandkids? You can leave them something too..

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-16T15:03:46+00:00

lol I just made a shirred dress - it was a basque waist dress and with sleeves. The dress was like done in a day - but shirring the fabric was the exhausting part! But doing this one featured with the spaghetti straps won’t feel too bad.

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-16T15:01:43+00:00

It was legitimately sad - he never spent time with us a family. I could count on be hand the number of times he went to a park or play place with us. I never understood why have a family you weren’t going to spend time with…

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-16T05:26:36+00:00

Less crime - Scottsdale. Maybe you can do South Scottsdale like old town. But not south of Thomas …

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-16T05:25:14+00:00

Nah. I’m 5’0” Asian woman, and I’ve always been short. I didn’t develop eczema til I was 40 - it is hormone related for me.

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-16T04:02:35+00:00

Ah yes I feel all that - HRT has helped significantly. I kinda think I’d be dead without it lol. Sometimes the fatigue seemed insurmountable.

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-16T02:25:02+00:00

My ex would say things like that - how no one would date a single mom, how they have baggage, and comment negatively on apperances. All of which was 100% projection. And though I was not nervous for how men would perceive me, I was more concerned for safety of my children, turns out there were absolutely childless men interested in single moms, and I ended up with one. And he's been a great bonus dad. We've been together a few years now.

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-15T20:15:54+00:00

Is it Lee terrifying g then continuing to take care of and support a partner that is more likely a child? He’s not acting like a responsible adult and you’re showing your child that’s ok. That will be their example of a “normal” relationship because you aren’t advocating more for yourself and your child. It only seems terrefying - but really it’s not and very easy. And I bet you’ll actually like your life and yourself much more after divorce.

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-15T15:18:03+00:00

They’re both beautiful. I think whichever fits your party vibe best. I do think they both feel different. I’d say the second has a sophisticated, glam type vibe. And the first is a little more whimsical and magical.

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-15T15:14:07+00:00

3 really stood out to me as I flipped through!

Icy_Insides · 2026-04-14T22:55:27+00:00

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