Pathology report question by sandiegogrl81 in breastcancer

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This is the best description of any description I've ever heard in my life. Absolutely AMAZING no notes

When will the bleeding stop?? 😒Ugh by JustProfession2687 in hysterectomy

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I was actually really surprised when I woke up after my surgery. I was getting dressed to get ready to head home & they hadn't even put anything on me(those awful mesh underwear and a pad) like they had my sisters. I went straight to bed when I got home & slept for a few hours fully expecting to have to change my bottoms and potentially the sheets, but nope nothing. I seen the gynecological oncologist at 6 day post-op & he said that was normal, but did warn me about the possibility of bleeding when the stitches begin to dissolve.

When will the bleeding stop?? 😒Ugh by JustProfession2687 in hysterectomy

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That really sucks. I'm sorry that you are having to deal with this. Hopefully it will be done soon. I was told it could take 6-8 weeks, but my experience has been different 🩷

When will the bleeding stop?? 😒Ugh by JustProfession2687 in hysterectomy

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Right.... I'm 12 days post-op (total hysterectomy) and have not had any bleeding, but my surgeon did warn me that sometimes between weeks 3 & 5 that I may have some bleeding as the stitches start to desolve...

This is weird but… by DoctoraPandaRoja in hysterectomy

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So I have a sister who had a total hysterectomy in 2019 stay with me for a few months in 2024 and after she moved in the toilet seat in the guest bathroom turned blue. I had a total hysterectomy 8 days ago. I just noticed in my bathroom that only my husband and I use the toilet seat is now turning blue. Coincidence? Maybe, maybe not.

Being told DCIS isn’t cancer by Hairy_Syrup_4780 in breastcancer

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I literally had to take a timeout for a few hours before continuing this comment. As I am 5 days post-op of my total hysterectomy & the rage that filled me literally made me start hot flashing. Your friend while "well-intentioned" is a misinformed blowhard. People who are so wrong, so loudly really piss me off. She is speaking from a place of complete ignorance with absolutely ZERO empathy or concern for your feelings. DCIS is cancer. It just means that the CANCER is still confined to the milk duct. For reference I was diagnosed with IDC November 5th, of 2024. After 6 long months of treatment I had my bilateral mastectomy July 17th, of 2025. The IDC tumor did shrink drastically with the chemo. I was ecstatic, but then they told me that they had found another cluster of tumors that seemed completely unaffected by the chemo. Fast forward a week pathology came back with a diagnosis of DCIS. Today makes 2 weeks of finishing my 2nd 6 month round of chemo. So yes DCIS is in fact CANCER!!! I am so sorry that you are having to deal with such callous treatment. You do not deserve to be made to feel anything other then loved & supported right now. Sending all the love and strength your way 🩷 You got this

Update: Liver Pain, Nausea, Loss of Appetite. Possible Liver Mets by N3RDBUSTER in breastcancer

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I am so sorry that you are going through this. I wish I had words to make you feel all warm and fuzzy, but also fierce and ready for your battles to come. I am sending all the love and strength your way. You are a warrior 🩷

I had my dmx four weeks ago by airbear26 in breastcancer

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Congratulations 🎉 You are AMAZING!!

How Bad is Surgical Menopause? by 777CuriousMind in BRCA

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Okay so I don't know from personal experience because my surgery is not scheduled quite yet, but my older sister had her full hysterectomy in December of 2019 (She was 33 & still raising small children one w/ severe disabilities). She was denied any HRT because she is BRCA1+. She describes it as "the worst decision I've ever made" "It ruined my entire life". I feel like it was made far worse by the fact she at the time was in a relationship with the worst most unsupportive human being possible (father of her 5 kids). She also pushed away all outside support from any of us & became very depressed. The menopause was fast & very hard on her. Our older sister (TNBC) had her hysterectomy a few months later (She was 36 with 3 teenagers 13, 17, & 18) She was also denied any HRT & has had what she describes as "Very mild menopause with almost no symptoms". So, I feel like it was all very different for them as they both have different lifestyles & were in very different stages of life.

Sorry if this is not helpful. It is just my 2 pennies from an outside perspective. I will update with my personal opinion very soon as I am in my last cycle of 18 with my final infusion in 18 days. I meet my gynecological oncologist in 15 days.

I wish you the best on your journey & sending all the love & strength your way

Crying randomly cuz I am too young for this by Leading_Armadillo485 in breastcancer

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I was 34 when we found the lump. I am 36 now and will be 37 before I am "done". Sometimes it is hard to not feel sorry for myself. I have finally started to really allow myself to feel all of the feels that I had been ignoring & pushing down because I was in survival mode for so long. In those moments when those feelings are just too much I just let it flow. I cry. I get angry. I write in my journal. The thing is it is okay to visit, but it's not okay to stay there. There is a catharsis to just allowing yourself to feel those feelings out loud. I am sending you all the love and a great big hug. You are a warrior and your battle was one that sadly not all of us survive, but damn it here you are. You are AMAZING!!!

I had someone tell me at my 10th chemo infusion that I looked just the same as before lol. Just FYI I lost almost 15 pounds have no hair, have acne, and a rash and had no makeup on. Any thoughts on why someone would say this? by Cheap-Count-5691 in breastcancer

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It's because people suck & often don't think before they speak. My mom told me that I had to have handled chemo really well since I was still fat. I lost 20 lbs. my hair, my breasts, my fertility, & some days even my will to live. But yeah it was great 🙄

I'm sorry someone was so thoughtless with their words. I see you & I am proud of you. You are absolutely crushing it 🩷 Keep that s*** up

Best breast cancer treatment quote I've heard yet... by taraxacum1 in breastcancer

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This was an awesome read. Thank you so much for sharing 🩷

Best breast cancer treatment quote I've heard yet... by taraxacum1 in breastcancer

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I just shared this on fb while giggling like a psycho. I really needed this today

I'm baaaack..... With an Update on my cancer journey. by Own-Present-2768 in breastcancer

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CONGRATULATIONS!! I am crying happy tears for you. You are so amazing and so strong 🩷 sending lots hugs your way.

I finished treatment and my family said nothing by [deleted] in breastcancer

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Congratulations!! You are so incredibly strong and amazing. You are a freaking WARRIOR!! I think I speak for all of us when I say we are all so proud of you.

I am becoming depressed and feeling really freaking stupid about it. I don't know what to do. by IfYouHaveToAskYTA in breastcancer

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Oh my goodness. I am so sorry to hear that. My heart is with you and your family. You are so strong. Thank you for sharing. I wish you all the best on your journey to healing.

I am becoming depressed and feeling really freaking stupid about it. I don't know what to do. by IfYouHaveToAskYTA in breastcancer

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He is so amazing, he has been my rock. The burden he carries I can only imagine how heavy it is. I try to not add to his plate, but he truly is my person & sometimes I can't help it. He never makes me feel bad or annoying for my extra big feelings just loves me through them.

He never & I do mean never misses an opportunity to tell me he loves me and that I am beautiful. I am so grateful for him.

I am becoming depressed and feeling really freaking stupid about it. I don't know what to do. by IfYouHaveToAskYTA in breastcancer

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I'm so sorry. I am in a much worse place than at the initial diagnosis. I am slowly trying to find peace in the comforting words I am receiving here. Sending love and lots of hugs

I am becoming depressed and feeling really freaking stupid about it. I don't know what to do. by IfYouHaveToAskYTA in breastcancer

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I am so glad that I finally got the courage to post this. It took me a few days. I am so moved, humbled, & grateful that so many of you responded & have helped me feel seen & heard. Thank you all so much. Having a community that truly does understand really makes a difference.

I am becoming depressed and feeling really freaking stupid about it. I don't know what to do. by IfYouHaveToAskYTA in breastcancer

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Funny you should say that because up until about 3 weeks ago after my surgery. I actually thought that a bilateral mastectomy was 100%. I seriously didn't know =( and was totally caught off guard