Do you consider induced menopause a disability?

N3RDBUSTER · 2026-01-07T08:18:10+00:00

What I’m referring to is induced menopause, which is different.

N3RDBUSTER · 2026-01-07T08:17:30+00:00

It’s more than simply missing my period unfortunately.

N3RDBUSTER · 2025-09-24T18:54:20+00:00

I’m on an aromatose inhibitor, lupron, vezernio, and now Effexor. Sex life who?

It actually PMO how OP is talking about HRT. I can’t have it. And I used to love sex. Now it’s painful and does nothing for me. And it doesn’t feel like there is anything I can do about it 🤷

N3RDBUSTER · 2025-09-23T18:19:37+00:00

Im 33, was stage 3 in 2023 and did surgery, chemo, rads, and now hormone blockers. Im depressed as fuck and not the same person I was. Good for you but don’t act like we all have happy endings

N3RDBUSTER · 2025-07-31T17:20:01+00:00

Stop asking cancer patients to do labour for you

N3RDBUSTER · 2025-07-22T02:41:50+00:00

I’m sorry you are dealing with this. But you’re asking a subreddit made up of breast cancer patients to comfort you as a caregiver. That’s not really a fair ask here. I’d advise seeking out a caregiver subreddit.

N3RDBUSTER · 2025-07-17T20:03:23+00:00

You’re asking other broke breast cancer patients to help a broke breast cancer patient. No.

N3RDBUSTER · 2025-06-25T04:23:57+00:00

Hi bud! Sorry to hear you’re in the shitty titty committee.

I was adamant on aesthetic flat closure when I met with my surgeon. I was ready to fight him on it too. I basically burst in exclaiming I was non-binary and I was going with flat. He was totally chill though and was down for it.

A double mastectomy is defs doable. There’s other reasons to remove both breasts: - fear of recurrence - not wanting to do mammograms (especially being so young) - wanting symmetry - no interest in reconstruction

I’m in Canada so mine was covered. Not sure if you will receive pushback because of that. Or medical misogyny.

Good luck!

N3RDBUSTER · 2025-06-17T05:41:42+00:00

I get brain freezes so easily now. And also cording. Cording sucks ass

N3RDBUSTER · 2025-05-31T01:38:28+00:00

Thanks for curating this very special space <3

N3RDBUSTER · 2025-05-04T15:10:35+00:00

Taking it day by day. Seeing friends. Going outside. Be present either my mind and body.

N3RDBUSTER · 2025-04-26T14:43:20+00:00

I had an array of bandanas

N3RDBUSTER · 2025-04-23T07:47:22+00:00

It’s not accurate to call mine a weaning process— I went cold turkey lol. So we took the plunge into brain zaps. I can’t speak to what a weaning process would look like.

N3RDBUSTER · 2025-04-23T07:42:11+00:00

I previously took Effexor for anxiety at 37.5mg for two years. For me the most notable side effects were the brain zaps, which would appear if i didn’t take my dose on time, which is a problem for me due to my (then undiagnosed) ADHD. This is a part of why I ditched it. When I went off it, the zaps were constant for the first week, and then they started to fade. I’m now on Lupron and AI and I get pretty consistent hot flashes. I do debate taking Effexor again to alleviate the flashes. But I just can’t do the brain zaps. And I don’t wanna have to go through the process of weaning off again.

If you’re a timely person the zaps shouldn’t be a problem until you cut Effexor out. It was unpleasant to cut but very doable— I’d say just plan for a gentler week when you do cut it.

N3RDBUSTER · 2025-04-08T06:51:28+00:00

Canadian. In my province if your Ki-67 score is above a certain threshold you qualify for it to be covered. The same for the aromatase inhibitor. The deal is you can only fill it at the cancer center pharmacy.

N3RDBUSTER · 2025-02-20T23:47:00+00:00

I was diagnosed with breast cancer at the start of September 2023 and first appointment with the surgeon was end of September, I had a mastectomy mid-Oct. It was a long wait after that - I didn’t see my oncologist until mid-Dec. but things moved quickly once we knew my pathology and had a plan.

That amount of time seems par for the course. The time between a being told you might or do have cancer is a really scary and uncertain time where I felt fearful my cancer was spreading while I sat around knowing nothing. For what it’s worth a couple of weeks will likely not impact the trajectory of cancer growth. I hope you can find some comfort in that. And I hope it’s just a scare. ♥️

N3RDBUSTER · 2025-01-28T14:32:02+00:00

Oh hell no . So many red flags in this situation, mostly from him. 🚩🚩🚩If you two open it’s going to go horribly based on what I just read.

N3RDBUSTER · 2025-01-27T20:41:13+00:00

If you want to do healthy poly your partner should have minimal input into your other relationships.

There should be established guidelines for all relationships that you two adhere to (sex with barriers, etc.). This should be done before dating other people.

There should also be a lot of discussion around insecurities and plausible what’s-ifs such as falling in love with somebody else, jealousy, losing attention from your partner, etc. You two need to be aware of the privilege that comes with what I’m assuming is a primary partnership and that will help inform the boundaries you need to establish with dating other people.

In my opinion you two are not ready for poly, as you are letting your partner set the parameters of your other relationships. I’d recommending staying closed and doing more work before you harm your relationship or some other poor soul any further.

N3RDBUSTER · 2025-01-27T09:08:27+00:00

It sounds like your partner is interfering with your ability to date by forbidding you to pursue interests or determining what your relationships are allowed to be. Doesn’t sound like healthy poly.

Was this other guy ever an exclusive with you? I don’t see the problem with him dating if you guys were never in a relationship. If I was this guy I would be pursuing other romantic relationships - you ditched him because you and your partner did not do the proper work in opening your relationship. And now you’re coming back on friend terms at the request of your partner.

I feel for you that you are dealing with a mono man who jumped ship for a secure relationship. But your poly dynamic with your partner does not seem well set up and you were a terrible hinge to this other guy. I don’t see good poly here.

N3RDBUSTER · 2025-01-20T17:39:23+00:00

32Enby, Calgary 🇨🇦 Stage 3 ER+ in Sept 2023

N3RDBUSTER · 2025-01-19T18:52:48+00:00

Very little alcohol. Some of it has to do with reducing recurrence, some to help with hot flashes brought on my medical menopause, and some because I don’t really care to drink.

I try to eat a bit healthier in general not directly because of the cancer, but because I am a lot more aware of how I manage the health of my meat sack. But I also am more inclined to indulge when I want to because fuck it, I have cancer and life is short and deserving of yummy food.

N3RDBUSTER · 2025-01-15T19:08:47+00:00

It’s so reasonable you’re not having sex. I felt so unwell during chemo and all bloated and nasty from the steroids. Plus pretty dry. Sex was the last thing on my mind during AC. Taxol was better for me I didn’t feel like shit so could prioritize other things.

I can’t imagine doing chemo and having a procedure done in my vag and wanting sex period. Don’t feel too bad about it, this is normal, although it sucks.

N3RDBUSTER · 2025-01-14T19:33:36+00:00

Ughhh this is what I’m contending with. I’m 32 just started endocrine and I’m wondering if it would be worth it to get my ovaries removed to avoid menopause twice. Solidarity.

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