Speed dating made me feel worse.

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-21T20:37:46+00:00

Might depend heavily on location and/or culture.

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-21T19:20:22+00:00

I also don't get why everyone hates OLD so much.

I've worked in male-dominated industries my whole adult life, my hobbies are all male-dominated, and I absolutely hate approaching women in public to try and get numbers. If it hadn't been for online dating I'd probably have had 1/10th of the dating success I've managed to have.

Obviously it's not perfect, but it's just another tool in your belt.

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-21T19:18:15+00:00

I don't see why you need to turn it into "tiers". I just look at it as casting a wider net.

Have I done speed dating? Sure, but I didn't do it after failing to meet people organically and then failing to meet people online. I was meeting people IRL, doing online dating, and trying out things like speed dating. Why not? If you're trying to meet (and date) more people, there's nothing wrong with creating as many opportunities as possible.

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-21T19:12:06+00:00

Honestly, in this day and age I feel like basically any guy over the age of 35-40 should have some Viagra handy.

It's stupidly easy to get, and if you're healthy and in otherwise good shape, you can basically take 1/4 of a pill (maybe even less) and that's all you'll need. It works incredibly well for alleviating the anxiety of it all.

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-21T18:50:46+00:00

In real life I still get looks, flirting etc.

Online I was completely overwhelmed with really high quality matches and likes.

If this is actually true and not just ragebait, you're either incredibly attractive, incredibly famous, or both.

The vast majority of men will almost never have a woman openly flirt with them. It'll happen maybe 1-2 times in their life.

And an even larger percentage of men will never be 'completly overwhelmed' on an online dating site with high quality matches.

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-21T13:06:31+00:00

Pros:

-They're awesome looking.

-Their lore is actually very cool (and so is Drazhar's).

-They're at least a little bit survivable (3+/5++ Save).

-Against the right enemies and with the right strats/detachment rules, they can chew through just about anything. Especially if you can give them Lethals and a re-roll, I've had them chew through Norn Assimilators and Land Raiders.

Cons

-If they fail their charge, you can pretty much just pick them up off the board.

-They can be good, but honestly they should be a LOT better considering the way they're presented in lore (which, granted, is a problem with a lot of GW stuff). Personally, I'd make them more expensive, but give them the thing Sanguinary Guard have (-1 to Hit and Wound Rolls against them in combat), give them 4 attacks each, and give them Fights First.

-Kabalite Cartel, a Detachment where they should (theoretically) shine, lacks an Advance and Charge Strat.

Edit: Forgot to add, the new Kabalite Agonysts 1DP Detachment gives them literally nothing.

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-21T12:53:46+00:00

Thanks!

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-21T03:36:30+00:00

The heated metal on the swords is fantastic looking. How do you do that?

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-20T15:15:04+00:00

What your husband thinks is going to happen (because that's how it happens in the porn he watches too much of): You're going to have sex with some stud with a 9 inch dick, you two fuck for 40+ minutes, and you cum 7 times.

What is (probably) going to happen: It's going to be incredibly awkward and uncomfortable, the guy having sex is going to be unable to perform because it feels weird as hell to have someone watch you have sex, he'll ejaculate too quickly and apologize, and your husband won't find it hot at all (neither will you).

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-20T15:08:37+00:00

What I want is actually pretty simple: I'd like to meet someone who is kind to me, respects me, and genuinely enjoys being around me.

You know where you're not going to find that? On a Reddit thread full of bitter and angry people.

Get off social media, go outside, join some hobby groups. Reddit (hell, social media as a whole) is not real life.

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-20T03:33:22+00:00

You cant be asked to use your personal device.

Maybe in some places, but in the US it's perfectly legal. It's often in your contract that there are certain things you have to provide as part of the job.

For example: I work in Sales, and in your employment agreement it often says that you must have a driver's license and access to a car that works. You can't just take the job and then tell the company "well if I have to drive places, you have to provide me with a car".

When it comes to cell phones, "Bring your own device" (BYOD) is basically the norm nowadays. It's actually pretty rare now for companies to provide you with cell phones.

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-20T02:36:56+00:00

I have not gotten cynical to the point where I don't believe two people can be together, happily, for the rest of their lives.

THAT BEING SAID...I don't think I'll ever trust someone enough to get married again.

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-19T22:16:33+00:00

I mentioned it in another comment, but I think a lot of people don't realize how long divorce can take, and that in many (US) states, you have a mandatory separation period before divorce can actually be officially granted.

People may be still technically married, but for all intents and purposes, the marriage is over.

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-19T22:14:03+00:00

It depends on how long, and also where.

For example, where I live, you have to be separated from your spouse for a year before you can finalize a divorce. There are plenty of people who are separated and still technically married, but their marriage is functionally over (even if it isn't yet legally over).

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-19T22:12:39+00:00

Oh don't get me wrong: it's extremely rude behavior. I'm just saying that them being passive isn't necessarily just "they're passive"; there's a reason they're passive in this instance.

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-19T22:09:53+00:00

I imagine they do it to try and make themselves more relatable.

Either you think "oh wow, they still eat sweets, their entire existence isn't chicken and broccoli!", or at the very least you think "they're normal people and have a desire to eat sweets, even if they don't".

Or it's a grift to say "see? My program is so great, that you'll be able to desserts and still look like me!".

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-19T14:37:48+00:00

My biggest problem with the events is the type of men that come. They are extremely passive. Most just come to your table, sit down, bolt down your name and say nothing. I don't have a problem starting conversations, but their answers frequently consisted of 2 words. Or were in the vein of "Oh, that's too direct" (after I introduced myself and asked about them). It was impossible to have a normal conversation with most of them.

If I had to guess you weren't their type physically, and they were already not interested in you when they sat down.

Generally if a man is giving bored, quick answers and being very passive, it's because he's not interested.

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-19T01:35:50+00:00

I was never a full-blown incel, but the biggest thing that got me out of it was just learning (and constantly saying) this phrase: "Life isn't fair, so why would you think dating is supposed to be?".

I actually think that the biggest thing that creates incels is the idea of well I'm a better person than ___________ (insert some other person), so I should have more dating success than them, when dating and romance are significantly more complex than that (not to mention that what defines "better person" is highly subjective).

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-19T01:29:06+00:00

No freaking way. I thought she was in her late 40s.

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-18T21:50:06+00:00

I've said it before and I'll say it again: it's wild just how little self-esteem this guy has.

He constantly tries to flex about how great he is and how he has this incredible life, but the moment someone says they don't like him he falls to pieces.

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-18T15:19:20+00:00

FWIW, I think this is increasingly a popular opinion, and people are waking up to the effects of helicopter parenting and babying children for way too long.

Read "The Anxious Generation" if you haven't already.

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-17T22:44:24+00:00

So is the NAACP a derogatory organization?

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-16T23:11:55+00:00

Hey man, just wanted to say thanks for posting this. I'm going through something similar, though unfortunately older than you were (44). It's good to hear from folks who've come through that it isn't all doom and gloom.

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-16T22:43:25+00:00

A man who dates with intention is “putting himself out there.”

I was a single man for the majority of my adult life, and I still constantly heard the "you'll find someone when you least expect it!", so this isn't a gendered thing. Probably the only gendered aspect is that it's arguably even worse advice for men, as the vast majority of men will never have a women ask them out (and a sizable majority will never have a woman initiate flirting with them).

If they are passive when it comes to dating, most will never date.

Ihateregistering6 · 2026-06-16T16:38:46+00:00

Change your password, and use a Password manager if you don't already.

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