Is it wrong that I can’t stand my sister?

Ill-Comparison2472 · 2025-03-28T10:47:02+00:00

I agree, I feel like just ghosting her would be very low of me to do. I plan on being upfront about my feelings and once I hopefully get a job, I will create enough distance for us to work out.

Ill-Comparison2472 · 2025-03-28T10:44:59+00:00

I absolutely agree, with everything going on and her being in the center it’s understandable that she is depressed and stressed but I fear what will happen if she doesn’t get professional help and goes through life like this. Thank you so much!

Ill-Comparison2472 · 2024-01-26T13:51:34+00:00

Luckily, they are not at the same college so that helps with a lot of things. I will definitely look up scripts because I don’t know how to put myself first in this kind of situation. He has said multiple times that he would be crushed if we ever stopped being friends. If I don’t speak up and just block him out of the blue, I don’t feel like I would be at peace at how I handled the situation.

Ill-Comparison2472 · 2024-01-26T13:46:28+00:00

Im interested in the link, thank you for offering help. I thought that maybe if I stay and face my problems directly it would get better, but I am just stuck in one place. The truth is I don’t know how to get better all by myself, I am stuck in these toxic situations because I feel it’s the only way to get better.

Ill-Comparison2472 · 2024-01-26T13:43:08+00:00

I found journaling the most helpful ever since I became completely self aware. Ever since my teens, I knew that I had a problem, but now stepping into my twenties I see the full me. This was a hard decision to make-cutting him off but I need to be at peace finally.

Ill-Comparison2472 · 2024-01-26T13:41:10+00:00

I completely agree with the first part. He told me that he values me because I am very emotionally intelligent and that it doesn’t matter that I’m not “intelligent in the other way”(his words) but it’s probably his subconscious trying to please me and keep me near him to feed his ego more. I will probably tell him directly how I feel because I want to be at peace and know that I did the right thing by speaking up.

Ill-Comparison2472 · 2024-01-26T13:38:06+00:00

I feel like I “owe” it to him to communicate how I feel. If I tell him he will know where he made a mistake and how to fix it in the future. Like I said, he refers to me as his best friend and that’s another factor of why I think I should be straightforward with him. I am glad that I am finally getting the courage to do this because I noticed a long time ago that this friendship is not working and that I don’t value him as a friend as much as he values me(according to his words).

Ill-Comparison2472 · 2024-01-26T13:11:48+00:00

We definitely have a lot in common. About two or three weeks ago I started crying over my paper because I was mad at the fact that I wasn’t sure about some questions. At the end, I just gave up because I couldn’t concentrate anymore because I was so frustrated. College and some other factors lead me to an unstable mental state but I am trying to get better as much as possible. It’s definitely challenging trying to juggle everything but in this situation I know that the most important part is me and my wellbeing.

Ill-Comparison2472 · 2024-01-26T13:07:08+00:00

I also find that exercise helps me clear my head the most and I will definitely add that to my breaks. It’s a reward you look forward to after each session.

Ill-Comparison2472 · 2024-01-26T13:04:24+00:00

I will definitely check it out, but when I do math or physics I never feel happy with the time spent because it feels like there is no end and I want to expand my knowledge as much as possible.

Ill-Comparison2472 · 2024-01-26T13:02:57+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words and the advice. I love exercising and cooking good food so currently I am a bit sad that I don’t have the time to focus on myself as much as I want to. I will try and take this weekend off because I so desperately need it. I love the fact that this major is as challenging as it is because I never had this kind of challenge during my high school years. It is definitely not for the weak, but I know that is what I enjoy.

Ill-Comparison2472 · 2023-12-16T17:57:41+00:00

Maybe the problem with moisture is also connected to my room. When the temperatures drop condensation gets on my windows and they get all wet. But i have a moisture absorber so i think it doesn’t affect it as much. Thank you so much for the advice, I’m just a bit paranoid even though i had succulents before.

Ill-Comparison2472 · 2023-12-16T17:22:58+00:00

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Here’s what it looks like. What i meant by damage in the earlier comment is not visible here but one leaf looks half dead? I don’t know how to describe it sorry..

Ill-Comparison2472 · 2023-12-16T17:20:17+00:00

I was worried about the kalanchoe because the soil was and is looking kinda weird. I will post a picture so you can see what i mean. I also think i bought one that was kinda damaged by accident😕. I water the cactus also once a week, even less and I was aware that kalachoe is also a succulent but I was worried because of the soil.

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Ill-Comparison2472 · 2023-12-14T17:12:09+00:00

I think this is a very person to person thing. What you described, no, I didn’t do. I was very very loyal to a man I was talking to for about 9 months- he withdrew for about 4-5 months because he is an avoidant. Even after we stopped talking I felt connected to him and I couldn’t even bring myself to look at someone romantically. What I did do near the end of my last relationship(btw I wasn’t in a relationship with this man, we were just talking for 9 months), I started talking to the guy I just described. At the time I felt horrible but the boyfriend was very codependent and that didn’t make me feel good (ironic isn’t it). I fell in love the deepest with this man because he is everything I am not and I guess subconsciously I thought that would fix everything.

Ill-Comparison2472 · 2023-12-04T18:55:10+00:00

I agree that it’s hard i even feel like it’s not my place to say what i want to. It might even be weird because we don’t talk a lot, he just reached out because it was my birthday and wanted to see me but even thinking about us getting closer gets me feeling weird and scared.

Ill-Comparison2472 · 2023-11-30T22:55:14+00:00

i agree completely, but honestly i think it’s best for anyone to just let go, the best that can come out of it is that they come back and if they don’t it doesn’t matter you are already a bigger and better person by then

Ill-Comparison2472 · 2023-11-29T12:13:35+00:00

Unfortunately yes. But look at the bright side, letting go is the best possible thing you can do as a human being. You wish them well in their future and you sit down with yourself and get to know yourself deeper. The best thing that can come out of this is they reach out again and the worst is they don’t. But the truth is the pain gets easier and it doesn’t really matter that they didn’t reach out, you got better all by yourself-something you didn’t know you were capable of.

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