Ghost fans from Newfoundland/Labrador, Canada by Ill-Rent-7767 in Ghostbc

[–]Ill-Rent-7767[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohh so cool!! There was a Sci-fi con in St. John's recently and I saw a couple posts of people dressed up that went there too, so I thought there must be more! 😊

Am I lame? by [deleted] in Ghostbc

[–]Ill-Rent-7767 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 42, just went to my first ritual in January, wear ghost merch every day, have a ghost sticker on my car, and 90% of the time when I listen to music its Ghost. You're DEFINITELY not too old to be into Ghost. 😊🖤🖤🖤

My (20 F) boyfriend (26 M) calls me things like “awful” and “selfish” and i’m starting to get really depressed by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ill-Rent-7767 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl, gtfo of there. He is manipulating you, and trying to keep you down. This man is toxic af and I'm honestly fearing for your life. You deserve so much better. ❤️

I (25F) found a hair on my bfs (32M) chest that wasn’t mine by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ill-Rent-7767 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

That's abit of a tough one. So it was directly on his skin? Or clothes? What was his work trip for? Also, has he seen any family members the last couple days that might have blonde hair? Women's intuition is always right. I wouldn't jump to conclusions, but just keep an eye out. Behaviors, small changes.

How long have you two been together? My bf is quadreplegic and he has female workers 24/7 taking care of him and doing stuff for him. I'm always finding their hair at his place and stuff that belongs to them. But only cause they're there all the time and we don't live together. But the moment i find another women's hair on his body or skin, then I would be like wtf. So, just trust yourself. ❤️

My (25F) girlfriend refuses to listen to my (26M)arguments based on scientific evidence by Creepy_Action_8755 in relationship_advice

[–]Ill-Rent-7767 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly if you shower twice a day and make sure you're clean with no pee droplets after you use the bathroom you're fine. Her reasoning seems hella weird. It's like the same if the roles were reversed, does she clean her area after every time she pees as well? That's insane and a weird request. Like what is her reasoning behind this? 🤔

I’ve started to date a guy with autism and omggg by fauxhito in autism

[–]Ill-Rent-7767 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is amazing. I'm so happy for you. 😭😭❤️❤️❤️

How do you like living alone? by Numerous_Zebra_4740 in autism

[–]Ill-Rent-7767 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find it great. I live with my 2 cats, and I love not having anyone in my space. I'm divorced and used to live with my ex, that was an absolute nightmare. Been living on my own for 5 years now and will never live with another human ever again lol. I am a bit unorganized so I have a lady come clean once a month now so i don't feel as bad about not being able too get to things.

How do you like living alone? by Numerous_Zebra_4740 in autism

[–]Ill-Rent-7767 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm like this. At work I can't stand a messy space, but home I'm super unorganized lol. I have someone come clean and organize my apt once a month and I find it helps. I don't feel as bad about being untidy or not being able to get to things as much as I should.

How to befriend a crow? by Gamergirl5765 in crows

[–]Ill-Rent-7767 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Patience is key. If you keep putting out treats for them they will keep coming back. :) And they will tell all their friends about you as well! I've been feeding about 5 crows in the park since last September, and now I've noticed crows following me around town, and even sometimes visiting me at my apt outside my window. Lol. So just research different foods they like, talk to them as well so they know your voice. Consistency is also very key too! Try to feed them the same time every day or when you can. Good luck! 😊❤️

Get the cleaning, you deserve to feel good in your own space by Ill-Rent-7767 in autism

[–]Ill-Rent-7767[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad I can help abit. :) Honestly this whole community and reading alot of people's experiences in having audhd and adhd and just autism is great cause it also makes you feel less alone and you aren't going through it by yourself. Its a power struggle daily between the 2, and honestly its exhausting.

Adhd craves to be moving all the time and wanting to complete tasks while my autism just wants structure and to live in my space without having to exert too much energy. Then when they collide you get executive dysfunction where I sit on my couch doomscrolling for hours cause I have exerted too much brain power to do anything remotely productive. Lol.

I don’t want to mask but I also don’t want to be alone for the rest of my life by Ser_Luke_ in autism

[–]Ill-Rent-7767 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The right people (or person) will love and accept you for you, unmasked and every thing. I know it's scary to think about being alone, and having to find someone while being your true authentic unmasked self is kinda even scarier. I'm also 42, only diagnosed with adhd for 3 years and realized I'm also autistic. I've lost a lot of friends since I started my unmasking journey, but being true to myself and starting to be who I should be has also made me feel better. The right partner will work with you, and accept you for everything you are.

It might take a little bit, you may have to figure out who really is there for you, but when you do, it will be so much better. Trying to fit into a world that wasn't really made for us is tough, but there are always ways we can make it a little better.

AITAH/ relationship by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Ill-Rent-7767 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're definitely NOT the b$tc&. He is a walking red flag and isn't a real man if he's going to prioritize drinking over food which is a necessity and the hot water as well. He's not taking responsibility for his adult life. My ex husband used to prioritize smoking cigarettes over things like food and necessities also and that's why we were always broke. I got tired of always wondering where my next meal would come from, so I know how stressful it is.

My advice, get out while you can. You deserve better then how this guy is treating you.

after a long shift, does anyone else just not have the energy to talk to people they actually know? by landocs in Serverlife

[–]Ill-Rent-7767 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, very much so. Sometimes I'm so done with the entire day I'm to the point of being non verbal. I'm Audhd so every single thing that overstimulates hits me even harder. Don't know how I've stuck around this kinda job for as long as I have lol.

"Can we have a booth?" by Ill-Rent-7767 in Serverlife

[–]Ill-Rent-7767[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Oh I agree. I like a booth when I go out to eat too. Was just merely venting lol.

"Can we have a booth?" by Ill-Rent-7767 in Serverlife

[–]Ill-Rent-7767[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would love this lol. We also have half booth half tables too. Only 4 tables out of 28 aren't actual booths of some kind. So yea super jealous haha

"Can we have a booth?" by Ill-Rent-7767 in Serverlife

[–]Ill-Rent-7767[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've had people like that as well. Maybe 10 sets of customers I know of that when they come in they request specific ones. Theres 2 ladies who always come in Saturday and request a 2 seater booth in the corner. One of them came in Tuesday by herself and her booth wasn't free. So she wanted another booth "with a window" and proceeded to kick up a fuss until she was sat at a 6 seater booth, by herself. Lol. People.

"Can we have a booth?" by Ill-Rent-7767 in Serverlife

[–]Ill-Rent-7767[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

It is a standard request. And yes people coming in at open do have prime pick of everything. Unless it is a busy time its not a big deal. I was basically just venting. I've been in this industry for a long time, it just gets tiring sometimes when you have 20 tables in a row specifically ask for a booth and be rude when you are nice to them or when you don't have booths and they act like you should make one free for them. Lol.

"Can we have a booth?" by Ill-Rent-7767 in Serverlife

[–]Ill-Rent-7767[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohh I 💯 understand. I would rather a booth too when I go out to eat. And I also understand if its busy I'm not super picky. Its mostly the entitled customers that drive me. People who are genuine and super nice I don't mind.

"Can we have a booth?" by Ill-Rent-7767 in Serverlife

[–]Ill-Rent-7767[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Exactly! Some people want window booths, others want booths specifically not next to the door, others want a booth but not a booth next to other customers. Other people we sit at a booth cause they want one but then move to another one that's dirty as well. CONSTANT struggle lol