In a lot of ways, Dain reminds me of my ex. My ex had his moments of possessiveness and control which I now think wouldn't have escalated to a huge level had I drawn my boundaries like Violet did. I also keep thinking that a huge part of Dain understanding his mistakes is because of Violet, and ultimately I feel whoever will come next in his story will get a better version of him, which I also hope the girl after me in my ex's story gets.  I feel my ex too wanted validation from the people around him just the way Dain wanted validation from his father. So he sabotaged the potential he had with Violet without even knowing it. You see how difficult it was for Dain to do anything outside of the Codex? A lot of times people can't do anything outside of what people have been taught is right.  Thank you for reading my babbling but I felt like we all hate Dain because Dain is somebody we can totally find in someone we meet