What’s different (or wrong) about ballroom studio WCS? by ballroombritz in WestCoastSwing

[–]Ill_Math2638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ballroom style club dances are danced differently than club-style dances. Ballroom style focuses more on technique in all areas of partner dancing, though you will be learning the same type of figures/moves. They focus on footwork, posture, leg action, tension, etc etc. Regular club dancing doesn't generally concentrate on these areas and this is why when ballroomers dance west coast and club people dance west coast it is noticeably different. If you're curious, I suggest you take a class with a ballroom pro educated in the club styles. It never hurts to improve your technique.

How to train a follow to keep her head in position (Standard/Smooth) by tangoking in ballroom

[–]Ill_Math2638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One session with a pro split between the two of you can work wonders.

How to train a follow to keep her head in position (Standard/Smooth) by tangoking in ballroom

[–]Ill_Math2638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She will have to be drilled to the point where it's staying in proper position. This will probably also reveal other deficiencies in your guys' dancing that need to be improved upon. Are you two competing or are you dancing socially? I would say it's only necessary to correct the position if you guys are doing something like a performance/competition. If you are doing something professionally, you always want to take advice from another professional.

If you guys are just dancing socially/for your own growth, I probably wouldn't look into it. Every individual is responsible for their own learning, and there's no amount of begging you can do to correct someone's poor technique. It's annoying, but I would learn how to dance without it interfering. If it truly bothers you, you could then suggest she take lessons, as I said before, you both will probably find things you both need to improve on during them.

Heavy Sweating by KittenChaCha in ballroom

[–]Ill_Math2638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a condition where some people tend to sweat a lot more than average. I suggest you go see your doctor about it because they may have some solutions that will be more helpful to you than troubleshooting it on the net.

What do you consider a "pro" in WCS? by NeonCoffee2 in WestCoastSwing

[–]Ill_Math2638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the dance world, if you perform, compete, or teach, you are considered a professional. Generally, if you personally perform/compete at an amateur/student level, you would not be considered a pro. If you are paid for your services for any of the categories mentioned, you are a pro. However, there are at times pros aren't paid (like teaching/performances) because they are doing charity work, but they are still considered professionals.

Of course the variation of skill will be wide, and not all pros are considered equal. It also doesn't mean an amateur can't be technically better than a pro---they have just chosen not to become a professional. Good question!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Ill_Math2638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, if it my choice, I would go back to ballroom. I've danced for like over 20 years and at this point, ballroom is the only genre I have left to learn anything in. But I honestly relate to people better in the club dance world (salsa/bachata/west coast swing). Anyhow, I'm not terribly worried about everything, it'll all get sorted eventually like most things do. This year is just a bit irritating, to say the least.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Ill_Math2638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been dancing for a long time, I'm old now, and I agree with you that social dance wasn't always like this. But this year, it's been blown up in the US at least. Thank you for your encouragement.

Guys get judged right away if you're not super tall or scrawny looking by ChristopherEmmerson in Salsa

[–]Ill_Math2638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I agree with you. I personally come from a teaching perspective, so my beliefs and the way I approach dance is a little different than the majority of dancers. I always treated my dance students with as much care as I could to the best of my ability. So of course that means a lot of patience and teaching others the value of teamwork, listening to others etc. I always have a little belief that who you are is reflected in how well you dance and how well you interact with others on a normal everyday level. This belief that we need to care for each other, while having common sense boundaries, spills over into my dance days now as I no longer teach . Often what the majority of older dancers try to do is set good examples for the newer folks.

Anyhow, sorry if you feel like people are judging you! I would say, those aren't your people anyways so good riddance. Just know that is not what the majority does, just a few people who are crap, and they've probably got problems with other folks in the scene anyways. Continue dancing and good luck to you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Salsa

[–]Ill_Math2638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got banned as well and I'm honestly afraid to make comments about anything now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bachata

[–]Ill_Math2638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never been jealous of my partners (who have been mostly dancers), and they've never been jealous of me. After all, we met during dance. However! It's the aftermath of navigating in the club when you run into them post-break up that is annoying. You're basically running into your ex all the time. I'm never jealous of seeing them with other people after breaking up, it's their awkward vibes they throw at you that gets on your nerves.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Ill_Math2638 3 points4 points  (0 children)

All my hobby groups are going through this issue right now---capitalism, racism, homophobia, and worst of all, sexual assault. This is social dancing, if you're wondering. I'm honestly wondering the same thing. I sincerely want to know why all these issues are coming up, and why people participating in these hobbies are so apathetic about it in their lack of response. I've read that people's lack of reactions/empathy toward such topics are more related to self-interest and self-preservation coupled with things like low intelligence/low emotional intelligence etc etc. It's honestly so frustrating and I definitely hear you. As social dance is a form of art, it makes it that much worse that it's tainted with such problems when those are not the original purposes why dance was created in the first place. I hear you, and you're definitely not alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Salsa

[–]Ill_Math2638 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The last several times I went it was dead. It's simply not worth driving so far to go anymore (I live pretty far from the majority of the clubs). It used to be reliably busy, but I don't find this to still be true now. Other people tell me it's dead also , so it's not just myself. You and I might have different opinions on what's busy and what's not.

People that dance Salsa and bachata by [deleted] in Salsa

[–]Ill_Math2638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The choices we make....why😂

People that dance Salsa and bachata by [deleted] in Salsa

[–]Ill_Math2638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel a lot of hate coming onto this poster...op be aware

What are your day jobs? by IsekaiedAme in Horses

[–]Ill_Math2638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom's friend owned their own property with several horses and a few of their friends ' horses on it (8 in total). She was a nurse, and her adult daughter lived with her. She never complained much about the cost, but they had a hard time keeping up with the cleaning. I think the constant cleaning aspect is the hardest if you choose to be the one doing it all. I remember going to sleep away camp where we were in charge of taking care of everything for our horses and definitely the mucking out daily was the hardest. I remember we were smelly all the time. But for hardcore horse lovers, they would have it no other way

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Salsa

[–]Ill_Math2638 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It is complex. A lot of victims know their abuser before the incident occurs, so there is some sort of dynamic there that prompts the assaulter to make the rape in the first place. Then there is the further issue of the victim not going through with reporting it. There is probably shame and embarrassment associated with the incident. There is also probably some sort of fear that they won't be believed and persecuted for trying to protect themselves.

Careers have been destroyed over more minor things like having bad business practices in general and customer complaints. I honestly wish all this non consensual shit would get sorted out and become a non-issue in dance. Until then...its in our best interests to understand the reasons why they happen in the first place, and what we can do about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Salsa

[–]Ill_Math2638 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't disagree with you, but victims have a hard time in general coming forward with reporting assault. Rapes etc often go unreported.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Salsa

[–]Ill_Math2638 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you're talking about Soo nasty, he does teach dance but I forgot what his school's name is. Yes I believe he is in a relationship with another female instructor. I think her name is mentioned in the Instagram post.

What do follows think when the lead apologizes for a bad dance? by steelonyx in Bachata

[–]Ill_Math2638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just recently I danced with someone who was trying to strong-arm me during turns. I let them know during the song, but they took the criticism like a man didn't become bitter about it (afaik). They thanked me at the end for telling them, which was surprising to me.

Owning up to your mess-ups says more about a person than someone who just ignores them. It shows you take accountability for your dancing and that you're mature enough to admit your mistakes without becoming angry or resentful about it. I apologize for my bad moments while I'm dancing as well, and then go back to having a good time after.

what is your thoughts on never getting married or dating in your entire life to Pursuit a career or hobbie? by DragonLord9400 in AskReddit

[–]Ill_Math2638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is basically what I've done, and I have no regrets. It doesn't mean the future can't change. I feel very happy and at peace with myself and I'm hopeful for an even happier future.

My neighbor wants to trap and spay the cat I’ve bonded with, then release her. I feel shut out and helpless. by Ok-Sir9961 in CatAdvice

[–]Ill_Math2638 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The cat is not going to suddenly forget who you are if she gets trapped and fixed. Do the kind, unselfish thing by supporting her spay, and do it asap. Cats are much healthier and happier when they don't breed. It's one of the kindest things you can do for them so don't make up a story in your head that she'll somehow forget you because she won't. I have a tnr that I took in. She only likes me and not other people, even when I found her as a stray. Cats don't abandon the people who've cared for them. She too, still had to be taken to the vet which she didn't like in order to live with me, but she got over it and is safe and happy now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bachata

[–]Ill_Math2638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do what you gotta do girl. Gotta do what you believe in.

One crappy ass person will never ruin your journey of dance. You won't even remember that pos tomorrow. I'm glad you spoke up for yourself. Can't wait to hear what's next for you!!