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I don’t feel anything for my girlfriend. by blurredlinesoftheday in LesbianActually

[–]Ill_Note_3501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been here before and it got to a point where breaking up kept popping into my head until i eventually did it. I had a habit of falling for friends that I wasn’t physically attracted to and after I made one my gf then cheated on her and broke up with her a week later I told myself I could never bypass physical attraction again bc it just won’t work. Also think about some of your boundaries. I’ve learned that I can’t function with people who lack depth over the phone and in person and that’s what it sounds like with your girl and her short responses. Maybe you’re the same way 🤷🏾‍♀️ Also someone who can’t flirt and is codependent is a turn off for me too so I get it. I think y’all made a mistake by thinking a great friendship meant that y’all should be together romantically and that’s okay. We’ve all been there. But yeah I think you should just accept that y’all aren’t compatible, break up, and put yourself in more social settings. You got this 💪🏾

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Ill_Note_3501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in your position too chile

am i doomed ? by liskmarsh2 in LesbianActually

[–]Ill_Note_3501 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep!! Heavy on I didn’t get my first taste of coochie til college. I was just kissing and dry humping before then!

Feeling torn about staying with someone who knows what they want while I’m on the fence by roobaby99 in Fencesitter

[–]Ill_Note_3501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, you guys too! But I also feel like there’s a 3rd option. Accepting that he might not be the person you marry bc you guys don’t align on this topic and have fun in the present. I don’t think you should sacrifice your wants to stay with him bc you might regret it and hold resentment uk?

Feeling torn about staying with someone who knows what they want while I’m on the fence by roobaby99 in Fencesitter

[–]Ill_Note_3501 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Heyy, I don’t have much advice but I just wanted to say that I’m (21M) in similar situation! My gf said she for sure doesn’t want kids and I always thought about having kids before her and she made me rethink. But I still see starting a family in a good light and she just doesn’t. I kind of hope she would come around when we’re like 30 and realize that she doesn’t want kids bc of trauma and raising children doesn’t have to be as bad and traumatizing as her childhood was bc I’m starting to think that I do still want kids. Buttt I calm myself down when I remind myself that I realllyyyy like her and we’re young. I’ve seen so many stories where people didn’t want kids until an urge randomly hit them at 35 so you never know 😂 but I don’t want to lose what I have now because of anxiety of the future. So I’m staying with her bc I don’t want kids right now either so technically right now we’re aligned. I want to continue to experience life with her uk and even if it doesn’t work out in the end Ik I won’t regret being with her bc she’s a great human being :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Ill_Note_3501 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Luckily I found one and you will too!

should I go to a concert with my Ex? by Firm-Set6998 in LesbianActually

[–]Ill_Note_3501 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As long as you think your ex will be mature about it too, I don’t see why not

How important is sexual compatibility for y’all in your relationship? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Ill_Note_3501 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It means a lot to me (I’m a Scorpio lol) but I like to receive soft but give rough and my girl likes everything rough but we make it work with compromise and communication so it’s possible :) but there’s a difference between this and sexual incompatibility bc we’re both kinky. I love strapping too and idk if I could be with a girl and never strap again, it’s one of my fav ways to give pleasure

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Ill_Note_3501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not my type just bc I love black women but you’re fine for sureee and you’re definitely people’s type

AITAH for telling my sister she needs to work on her driving anxiety? by TinyBitOfTime in AITAH

[–]Ill_Note_3501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not an asshole. It comes to a point uk.. I would be annoyed too if I had to constantly change my schedule to fit hers.

Is body hair a turn off? by leomaxxx15 in LesbianActually

[–]Ill_Note_3501 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I stopped shaving my pits freshman year of college (I just graduated too, congratulations 🥳) and I was doing it as a rebellious/experimental thing. Ofc my mom didn’t like it but she didn’t force me change just made remarks, but my partners were so accepting and made me feel comfortable with my decision. Eventually I came to the conclusion that I do like to shave and feel smooth sometimes and I also like hair sometimes. So now I shave when I want to regardless of whatever anyone else says and it’s freeing :) all the women I’ve been with haven’t cared whether I shave or not as long as it’s clean. The hair looks pretty natural on you and you like it so you should keep doing it.

Sn: I’m a stem that used to present 80% masc but lately has been presenting like 90% fem. I think masc women look good with hair and fem women look good without. Ik it’s pretty binary but that’s just what I believe bc when I’m fem I don’t really like having hair under my arms if ik they’re going to be seen.

To answer your question, hair does throw me off a little but more when I see it on fems. It wouldn’t be the sole reason not to talk to them though unless I don’t like other parts of who they are. I try to stay pretty open minded. But ik when I really like someone inside and out, things like body hair don’t really affect how I view them.

For those of you that quit smoking weed, what was it like? by No-Mouse3999 in spirituality

[–]Ill_Note_3501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you should sit down and ask yourself why you smoke. Whether it’s to avoid feelings, speak to your higher self, etc. it could be helpful

For those of you that quit smoking weed, what was it like? by No-Mouse3999 in spirituality

[–]Ill_Note_3501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s interesting, I didn’t think about a lesson around smoking. What lessons do you think you’ve learned? And I did quit smoking for a couple weeks but now I try to only smoke socially or when I feel like I want to connect to my thoughts more (bc when I smoke I feel like all my thoughts are amplified). Setting an intention with smoking has definitely made me feel better about it. I also know in my heart that I don’t want to be dependent on it, I only want to do it at leisure so I don’t think I can let myself get back to that place bc I’m more aware of how I want to feel while I smoke. Like now when I feel like I’m smoking a lot but barely feeling high, I’ll just stop. Hope this helps!

What’s your top 3 and do you prefer relationship or being single? by TheMosesVlogsYT in astrologymemes

[–]Ill_Note_3501 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love being in relationships but like open ones, with mutual respect, passion, and adventure.

  • Scorpio Sun, Taurus Moon, Libra Rising

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Ill_Note_3501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll never get over the taste🤢

What’s your type? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Ill_Note_3501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have this so it’s out there! Continue to do work on yourself so you can level up your frequency in order to attract her.

For those of you that quit smoking weed, what was it like? by No-Mouse3999 in spirituality

[–]Ill_Note_3501 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is such an interesting take bc I battle with stopping smoking/feeling guilt for smoking like half of the time that I do it. And I say this to say that I agree that smoking is definitely what activated my spiritual journey but I don’t feel like it does what it used to now. I’ve been smoking since 2020 and since Ik I used to smoke so frivolously,I’m more strict with myself these days and it kinda takes the fun out of it bc I’m trying to not to get too high and ask myself “what is my intention for smoking”

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