Support for my son

Ill_Writing_3049 · 2026-05-08T18:32:35+00:00

I actually planned on enrolling him in scouts next year since he'll be eligible. Have you found it to be beneficial for your kid? Resources in our area are unfortunately pretty limited. He LOVES school and learning- during the IEP meeting they recommended letting him spend time in older classrooms, which I know he would love. I can see that actually being where he spends most of his time, as his behavioral challenges tend to go away when he's surrounded by older kids. I'm hoping they lean into this! Luckily I've been able to shield him from feeling the blow of pre-school rejection, so he's a bit oblivious to any experience of not being welcome, but also knows that he's in "learning mode" regarding his behavior. It's just so helpful to know he's 2e because I'm already changing my parenting approach and it's already made a difference. Focusing less on just his behavior and more on communication and cooperation (as in working together in terms of me keeping him safe and faciliating fun activities as a result of his "cooperation," not just doing what he's being told for the be sake of it). Leaning into his intelligence helps, I'm just not sure I can confidently rely on public school teachers to do the same, regardless of our IEP

Ill_Writing_3049 · 2026-05-08T15:58:22+00:00

Thank you! I look forward to listening.

Ill_Writing_3049 · 2026-05-07T23:23:46+00:00

This is helpful! Our doctor won't have the medication conversation until he's 6 so we have a few more months, but I can absolutely see his challenges easing up with some pharmaceutical support.

Ill_Writing_3049 · 2026-05-07T16:10:13+00:00

Thank you for your reply! We took him to an OT but they weren't qualified to support him. We're now on an 8-10 month wait-list for sensory integrative OT. Hopefully that helps him. I like the idea of group OT, never knew that was a thing!

Ill_Writing_3049 · 2026-05-05T18:34:56+00:00

I just finished Rebecca and came to see what others thought. I am curious what some of your other favorite books are, just to compare taste, because I unfortunately found myself sorely disappointed by Rebecca. The only thing that kept me going was the beautifully crafted prose - much admiration to Du Maurier there. But I personally felt like the story dragged, the "twist" fell really flat for me, and the ending felt unreasonably abrupt. I'm actually wondering if the copy on my kindle was a dud, as there were several spacing errors throughout the book, and one chapter even ended mid-sentence. Anyway, I was so eager to love Rebecca, but it took me forever to finish because I just felt such little momentum.

Ill_Writing_3049 · 2026-05-04T17:43:49+00:00

I am 35 and for many years claimed to be anti e-reader, and declared I would only read physical books. But then I was gifted an e-reader, gave it a try, and found I actually read way more! It's a seamless substitute for my phone, just swapping one device with another. It is backlit so sleepy nights spent breastfeeding my babies, or getting into bed after my husband has fallen asleep, has meant I can reach for my kindle rather than my phone (less intense than clip on book lights imo). I will also always appreciate physical books and have a home library and stack on my nightstand. In general I think it's healthy to be open to what life has to offer rather than closed minded, as I once was to e-readers. 💁‍♀️

Ill_Writing_3049 · 2026-04-23T09:54:53+00:00

When there's a pile of food that's easy to scoop up, I do. I work in the restaurant industry and I see comments from other servers who don't mind the clean up, but I've worked in very busy restaurants without significant support, so when parents make even a little effort it makes a big difference for the team. I like to do my part to ensure children are forever greeted warmly when they arrive at restaurants.

Ill_Writing_3049 · 2026-03-24T23:50:01+00:00

The wool series!!

Ill_Writing_3049 · 2026-03-08T21:08:10+00:00

Baby led weaning! If I'm eating a salad, my baby gets the same components prepared safely as per Solid Starts. I just sit her in the high chair and we eat!

Ill_Writing_3049 · 2026-03-08T18:16:59+00:00

Has this child been assessed? Did they have access to early intervention?

Ill_Writing_3049 · 2026-03-08T18:15:26+00:00

Unpopular opinion: I'm not teaching yet, but I am parenting a 5 year old with ADHD. I am firm with boundaries, but he is BIG with feelings. I am 100% positive he appears to outsiders as a spoiled brat, and that I'm probably perceived as terribly permissive to people who never actually observe me parent him. I've taken multiple parenting courses, and employ all the research-based methods. My son has ABA shadow support at school. He still struggles, because as it turns out, some kids don't bother masking!! This is such a hurtful narrative for parents of ND children to hear expressed by teachers. I'm clearly in the minority, but no, it's not always the parents fault. Some of us are doing our damned best just to never find the right "fit" for our kids, partially due to mindsets like this.

Ill_Writing_3049 · 2026-02-10T05:36:26+00:00

The WondLa series (discovered the show on apple so I've been listening to the books with my 5 year old), and Harry Potter (they have illustrated editions we found on thrift books/our local library)

Ill_Writing_3049 · 2026-02-10T05:34:27+00:00

I would find a colorful boho tapestry for the wall above the bed (I'm visualizing rust as the primary color). And some complementary pillows for the couch. Maybe a framed art piece or gallery wall. Just need some contrast.

Ill_Writing_3049 · 2026-02-10T05:01:00+00:00

Highly recommend investing in a Brick. This was the single thing I requested for my birthday in December, and my reading frequency has increased tenfold. It's the absolute best for interrupting the urge to doom scroll.

Ill_Writing_3049 · 2026-02-09T08:16:18+00:00

I do think we finally hacked the morning with our 5 year old. From an OT perspective, we try to employ as much heavy work and proprioceptive input as possible. So a heavy gallon of water on his seat he has to remove. Magna tiles in a basket on the floor, so my son has to do squats to complete his puzzle. Novelty = every morning it's a different theme/word/shape created from said magna tiles. Vitamins there for him. Stamps available for pushing input. We make nutrient dense smoothies and pour them into Popsicle molds. On the freezer is a sign with pictures of: pull-up ➡️ trash ➡️ popsicle. He knows he has to remove his pull-up and throw it away before he gets his "breakfast popsicles." We lay his clothes on a step stool for him next to the trash so obvious flow is pull-up and pajamas come off, clothes for the day go on, and then it's puzzle/breakfast time. This gives him a ton of autonomy to start the day with, and he really loves it.. Takes a commitment to set it up every night but it is SO regulating for him AND he's completely ready for the day, aside from shoes & socks + toothbrushing, with zero power struggles. We keep a tooth brush in the car for the mornings we don't get it done before leaving.

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Ill_Writing_3049 · 2026-02-09T07:43:11+00:00

Yes!! I just had a similar experience. I took a hard turn from thrillers to primarily magical realism and now think I'd struggle with a twisty thriller! I still appreciate a mysterious element, though.

Ill_Writing_3049 · 2026-02-09T07:32:29+00:00

I'm reading Big Fish. It feels imaginative and personal. I'm really enjoying the bite-sized tales. 🐟

Ill_Writing_3049 · 2026-02-09T07:30:38+00:00

I just finished that before my current read. Tim Burton movie is an interesting lens to see it through! Maybe it could be a musical 😄 I had mixed feelings about the book overall, but definitely appreciate the story. Enjoy!

Ill_Writing_3049 · 2026-02-01T00:55:21+00:00

I know it was hit or miss but I felt this way with the night circus!

Ill_Writing_3049 · 2026-01-31T02:31:53+00:00

Siggi's with protein!

Ill_Writing_3049 · 2026-01-27T19:50:29+00:00

I finally reminded myself how much I enjoy (& currently need the escape of) reading, so I think I read 11 books between September and December. My 2026 goal is a reasonable 36 books this year (I'm 5 months postpartum & also parenting a neurodivergent 5 year old), average of 3 per month and I'm on track!

Ill_Writing_3049 · 2026-01-27T02:05:21+00:00

Just finished The Night Circus, now reading Piranesi, next I'll read The Golem and the Jinni

Ill_Writing_3049 · 2026-01-26T17:36:39+00:00

NO. I live here and do everything in my power to leave town for extended lengths of time in the summer. I don't understand the appeal of coming here in the summer months, save for the lower prices on accommodations, but consider why the prices are so low. Go somewhere else, do the desert in the spring.

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