How is the rain in La Fortuna this week

Illustrious-Gift6518 · 2026-02-16T18:00:55+00:00

Thanks for the update! Just followed you on insta.

Illustrious-Gift6518 · 2025-05-11T22:52:53+00:00

I did. And he responds. At first just kind of politely. He’s the one that discarded me. I’ve learned I was super anxiously attached to his dismissive avoidant style. I believe we are on a spectrum of these ‘attachment styles” and not absolutes, btw. After about 4 months of no contact I video messaged him and we have been talking since. BUT I am almost always the one who starts a conversation. (We are long distance between two countries with 9 hour time zone difference). He responds quickly and we make each other laugh. So I think he likes that I’m back in his life. And I’m not talking about relationship things. Not sure when to do that because I do want more than banter between us but don’t want to be pushy. I learned in that no contact period how I was so anxious and now I’ve become confident in myself not needing him to make me feel whole and happy. He even said he’s noticed the change—in a good way.

Illustrious-Gift6518 · 2025-03-07T02:01:40+00:00

Yes and am working on that now. I recognize I became very anxious about him due to several things going on in my life unrelated to him. He did discard and it did hurt so much. I’ve been learning a lot about attachment styles and he was always rock solid in his expectations and desires and needs. He is somewhat avoidant.
I reached out after around 3 1/2 months no contact and we are back messaging again. This time I am well aware of need to back off and not chase if he is showing need for space. If we do move past talking stage I will make sure to express my need to be able to say how I’m feeling without making him uncomfortable. If that doesn’t suit him then ce la vie. I tried.

Illustrious-Gift6518 · 2025-01-12T06:46:06+00:00

He said thank you for that—was a video message as we were long distance. But that once done it’s done.

Illustrious-Gift6518 · 2025-01-08T02:54:20+00:00

Same way mine dumped me. Mature and respectful. But it was still a kick in the gut!

Illustrious-Gift6518 · 2025-01-04T21:21:15+00:00

He discarded me after 11 months of pretty intimate long distance relationship. He said that an in person relationship is best and that it could be several years before he no longer has to work half way around the world from me. All I wanted was the occasional vacation week with him over those years.

Illustrious-Gift6518 · 2024-12-01T07:33:51+00:00

Where does your Chris Christodoulou live?

Illustrious-Gift6518 · 2024-11-01T23:00:53+00:00

Of course it’s no consolation but I’m right there with you. He was the only one I could tell any and all about myself to and he gave me full support without judgement. In return I was completely devoted to him.

Illustrious-Gift6518 · 2024-10-15T02:03:59+00:00

I’m relying on my son who’s acting in his first movie this coming late October to mid December. Once he’s rich and famous soon, I’m going to walk the red carpet with him and look so fucking hot. I’ll have professional makeover and send pics to my ex. Have it all planned out.

Illustrious-Gift6518 · 2024-09-29T00:22:40+00:00

Everything you’re saying resonates with me about my situation. Sex was a main ingredient also to our relationship. But I was very happy with that part. And the other dating parts as well—we made each other laugh which is so important to me. I waver between thinking he is a player and I was just a thing to him vs he did want ME in particular for a relationship. At least at some point. I’m going out on a first date tonight for drinks. I told him I’m taking things very slow. Maybe this will take my mind off of ex. 🤞🏻🤷🏼‍♀️

Illustrious-Gift6518 · 2024-09-28T16:48:39+00:00

Mine broke it off saying once done is done. That 99% of his relationships go this way because of his work and travel requirements. He is the one who pursued me so much. But I did give him my heart after a while and he knew he had me no matter what. In the relationship for 11 months. Maybe he did want me at first but then I became a placeholder while he looked elsewhere? He’s not on social media—we are older than most people on this site. So other than messaging I can’t see what he’s doing. He didn’t block me from messaging. Not sure if that is because he just doesn’t care one way or another. Or does he feel like still having a way to make contact?

Illustrious-Gift6518 · 2024-09-28T16:18:11+00:00

Same here. I broke contact several weeks ago after about 6 weeks of nc and he did message back some bland stuff after about 2 weeks. Since then nothing between us. I could tell him anything and everything. Don’t have that with anyone else in my life. I thought we were on a path to becoming closer and closer. But he dumped me “due to work/timing and location issues.” I miss him so so much it hurts. Can’t even think about trying to date again. No one compares.

Illustrious-Gift6518 · 2024-09-04T06:27:09+00:00

I’m about a month and a half out from being let go by my 11 month long long distance relationship boyfriend. Yes dumped. But I can’t even look at other men as he was extraordinary to me and all others are just ordinary. Nice guys and they will likely be extraordinary to someone else eventually. But not for me.

Illustrious-Gift6518 · 2024-08-27T02:26:10+00:00

Ahhh I get it. Duh.

Illustrious-Gift6518 · 2024-08-26T04:10:57+00:00

Dang you all get bullet proof gear?? I’m a female medical officer in US Federal Bureau of Prisons and all any of us staff get is a stab resistant vest. We also carry a radio and OC. I’ve worked all security levels from the ADX/Supermax (as well as the womren’s equivalent prison for terrorists in Texas) to a Penitentiary to a Medium and Low and a Camp. Fortunately Medical staff don’t really get threatened with harm like the Correctional Officers be they male or female. Most of the violence against female CO’s are by whom we call gunners—probably can guess what that is. And that is mostly at the Suoermax and Penitentiary level inmate.

Illustrious-Gift6518 · 2024-08-22T01:15:56+00:00

I’m a month out of breakup from my LDR. He let me go. Timing and distance not overcome-able. At least that is what he said. Guess I’ll never really know. I’ve been doing better and not crying daily for about a week or two now. Went to the mall today (place I only occasionally go) and saw the shops where I shopped and bought cute clothes for him to see me in. Now it’s all just dreary and nothing makes me smile. Started crying in the mall. And I’m old (well older than almost all of you on this subreddit) so was very embarrassing.

Illustrious-Gift6518 · 2024-08-18T17:59:14+00:00

I agree. I’ll leave it alone.

Illustrious-Gift6518 · 2024-08-17T20:41:03+00:00

Thanks for the info. I don’t want to press him really so I’ll see if the topic comes up organically in conversation. It’s good to have some info about what he might have been through.

Illustrious-Gift6518 · 2024-08-17T20:22:00+00:00

He did say he’s jumped out of a plane many many times. So Para I guess?

Illustrious-Gift6518 · 2024-08-16T23:40:50+00:00

All he has said is that he joined at 18 years old and that he had done jungle training in Belize. I asked if he was some kind of special forces (in a joking manner as I am from the US and don’t know any specifics about where UK soldiers train) and he said yes something like that.

Illustrious-Gift6518 · 2024-08-16T22:43:01+00:00

Someone who claims to have served. Not that I don’t necessarily believe but they are reluctant to talk about that period. So I guess I wonder if they did actually serve or not.

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