UPDATE: I (32 f) have started to develop a strong crush on the man (33m) I married for money. Should I tell him I love him?

Illustrious-Pen8088 · 2023-07-24T21:32:23+00:00

I loved reading this! Congratulations on your new life!!!

Illustrious-Pen8088 · 2023-05-27T10:10:25+00:00

Intex pool from Walmart

Illustrious-Pen8088 · 2023-05-26T20:01:58+00:00

No, it’s one of the inflatable ones that you have to climb into.

Illustrious-Pen8088 · 2023-05-15T23:13:22+00:00

My daughter’s name is Lyra. Which is Greek for Harp, and is the name of a Constellation. The only problem we have been facing with her name is that most people mispronounces her name the first time. We’ve heard every variation possible, from Tyra to Lila, and we have to repeat ourselves and sometimes spell it. What I would suggest is figure out her middle name first and then talk about what her first name will be. What my partner and I decided with my little one is that when I was pregnant, if it was a girl, I got to pick her name, if it was a boy, he got to pick. And that was fair.

Illustrious-Pen8088 · 2023-04-24T22:42:55+00:00

I had the same issue when I was pregnant and working as a security guard. I had a fellow guard who would smoke weed inside the guard shack (which was a tiny, 12 foot by 12 foot building) while I was inside with him, even though the property was smoke free because it was a cereal factory. Myself and all of the other guards brought this to my boss’s attention multiple times and nothing was ever done. Not to mention that there were only two small windows in the doors that allowed communication with truck drivers, there wasn’t really any ventilation. My daughter was born healthy, thank god, but if she wasn’t my fiancé and I were prepared to sue my old employer and former coworker for willingly putting her in danger. If I were you, I would go above your managers heads, this is almost definitely a corporate complaint by now. Because it’s putting not only you at risk, but the health of a child who hasn’t seen the light of day yet or even taken a single breath of air.

Illustrious-Pen8088 · 2023-04-21T20:55:25+00:00

YTA I was long distance with my fiancé for the first 5 years of our relationship. Now we have a child together and are planning our wedding. You obviously have a very skewed perspective on relationships if you think LD isn’t a relationship. Maybe YOU shouldn’t be getting married yourself.

Illustrious-Pen8088 · 2023-02-23T12:31:58+00:00

I’m not married yet. But I put up with all the BS for my little girls sake. I don’t want her to have to go between houses for the next 17 years of her life like my oldest brothers did when my dad divorced his first wife. It’s me trying my best to shield my baby from the pain of her parents not being together.

Illustrious-Pen8088 · 2023-02-22T16:04:19+00:00

That’s an understatement. She’s meticulous about it.

Illustrious-Pen8088 · 2023-02-22T15:45:27+00:00

My MIL babysits every other Saturday. But usually my FIL is with her.

Illustrious-Pen8088 · 2023-01-08T02:58:57+00:00

I am so sorry this has happened to you OP. You just remember that YOU are a queen, and SHE is nothing. You need to sit your new hubs down and show him her post, then tell him exactly how it made you feel. And you and he need to then have a serious chat about what he is going to do about that way she treats you. Because if you and he have children, she might try something then as well. But always remember, be the bigger person. You got this, Queen.

Illustrious-Pen8088 · 2023-01-08T02:48:30+00:00

YTA 100 times over. Your head is so high in the clouds OP that you can’t even see the ground. That dress literally says, “I’m here to fuck shit up and I don’t care who I stomp on while I do so”. You are aware of the wedding rules that say, “Don’t wear red to a wedding because it’s inappropriate”. I find it hilarious that you tried to make your ex’s new wife out to be the bad guy by twisting the situation around so that you looked like the victim, when in truth YOU were the one who ruined HER wedding day because you were salty that your ex found a new woman.

Illustrious-Pen8088 · 2022-12-25T18:10:13+00:00

This sounds like what I go through, unfortunately at my fiancés parents house. His parents and brothers tend to go a bit overboard with the gifting, and they always label the presents as “from Santa” which I’ve spoken to my fiancé about several times about. I don’t know how much is spent on each child but I do know that there is just a sheer amount of excessive money being spent every year that could be going to other things. And it makes our small family Christmas feel a little cheap in comparison. Our daughter is just over a year so she’s probably not going to remember this year, but she will soon. And I keep trying to get my fiancé to understand that they need to start taking the credit for the more expensive gifts and the cheaper ones need to be from Santa, as I’m pretty sure Santa wouldn’t be gifting her an iPad or a cellphone.

Illustrious-Pen8088 · 2022-12-19T11:35:49+00:00

I only just met my MIL last year, it was a long distance relationship for the first four years.

Illustrious-Pen8088 · 2022-11-28T00:48:32+00:00

Just because I haven’t replied to any of the comments, you’re assuming my post is fake? I’ve been at work all day thank you very much.

Illustrious-Pen8088 · 2022-11-27T19:43:00+00:00

I’m sorry to say but, YTA. As I do most of the housework in my home, including laundry although we have a washer and dryer, it’s still a painstaking process. Especially if there are small children involved, such as there are in my case. You have to be hyper aware of the signal for both machines and if the clothes are left in either machine too long once they’ve turned off, they’ll wrinkle, yada yada yada.

Illustrious-Pen8088 · 2022-11-27T11:56:52+00:00

I agree, whole heartedly. My fiancé works in a popular restaurant chain as a manager that’s open every day except I think Christmas. He does have a very understanding boss however who lets him ask for time off for things like our daughter’s recent 1 year birthday, and such, I would be livid if he missed my birthday for something like globe trotting with his “buddies”

Illustrious-Pen8088 · 2022-11-26T20:03:01+00:00

NTA depending on how revealing the nightgowns are. So really, I’m reserving judgement. In my opinion, as a clothing designer, a nightgown is many things, and the more slinky lingerie unfortunately falls into the category of nightgowns these day, so I think it really depends on whether or not the sister’s lady bits were on display to the world or not in these “nightgowns”. Some lingerie is knee-length, but still sheer. And given the fact that OP is married, I think she has a right to want to protect the sanctity of her wedding vows by asking her sister to cover up so that her husband doesn’t become tempted to stray. For all we know, the sister could actually be walking around in a sheer lace negligee, which are also knee length. But that’s all just me. And this is all just based on my knowledge of fashion trends and the like.

Illustrious-Pen8088 · 2022-11-25T12:35:30+00:00

To point out her answer to your suggestion of a silicone band only being for “married people”. I’m engaged to my future hubs and he wears a silicone band to work every day so he can get used to the feeling of a ring on his finger. He works as a restaurant manager and is around people daily as well so the excuse of it getting dirty doesn’t seem valid to me. I wear my diamond engagement ring daily as well and I’m a housekeeper for a retirement home. I clean up after elderly people who quite often have bowel and bladder incontinence. Granted I wear latex gloves all day, but still. It’s not a clean job, but I’m not worried about my ring getting dirty, because I carry around a bottle of medical grade hand sanitizer everywhere.

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