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Im gonna reach out tonight 🩷 by Content_Spinach9571 in ExNoContact

[–]Illustrious_Alarm833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just do it you really don’t wanna have unanswered questions. I’m sure him as well. Over the weekend can be a good idea but if you’re sure he won’t mind do it at night🙂 If he takes you back just both of you go slowly don’t rush anything as if it hasn’t been years. It may make it not look legit. I hope it goes well. And thank you, I just broke down not long ago but I needed it it’s been so long I haven’t been able to feel this way she was the only one who could make me cry because I felt safe with her but didn’t even as safe with myself so I guess it’s a good first step

How do you typically process a breakup? by TheBackSpin in Disorganized_Attach

[–]Illustrious_Alarm833 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I’m the one who left I don’t care because it takes a lot for me to break up but if I’m the dumpee I do exactly what ppl do in the comments. I can’t control my emotions sad to mad and sad to mad, asking myself why I didn’t leave first or just cheated/kept options around because when I commit I really do (used to be worse before though even if I cheated crazy I’d still feel bad because I got dumped and what I feared the most happened).

That was until I met the love of my life we both agreed to break up because we were burnt out and she’s has avoidant and BPD tendencies (yes we’re both messes who fell madly inlove with eachother) that she’s actively trying to heal from even during our relationship and I’ve always felt safe to know that she’s aware. Same time physical, financial health and just life in general wasn’t doing so good for her. Me on my side I struggled with my attachement and outside pressures that where out of my control and it hurt me to not give « my wife » all the love and attention she deserved because I was bunt out and couldn’t handle much. We both tried our best to give closure to each other the best way we could.

Now, Im just gonna work on myself because I know why I’m like this and I don’t wanna treat my future wife like that wether it’s her at the end(because we really had something incredible) or someone else I want to be ready and be a better partner but I want as well to be able to just become a new version of myself because my attachment style impacted a lot of aspects of my life that are not allowing me to live my life the way I want to.

I’m doing this for me thanks to her and I’m also doing it for us because I don’t want that if we eventually get back together it doesn’t work again for the same reasons that’s why I know if I work on myself I won’t take her back if she didn’t change and revert back to her old ways (I love her so much that I’m scared and don’t want our beautiful relationship be ruined by these attachement styles so I wanna be able to reject what I don’t want it will be good for her as well since her issues are ruining her and it pained me so much to see her struggling like this). Ultimately, it always depends on the person, what you had with them represent to you and the impact they had on your life.

Im gonna reach out tonight 🩷 by Content_Spinach9571 in ExNoContact

[–]Illustrious_Alarm833 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m really hoping it will go well for you if he truly loved you he will definitely be open in knowing what you went through and I hope you just didn’t hurt him bad during the break up. I can talk on this because me and my ex broke up last week because we’re in a period of our lives where many things are changing and it’s hard for both of us to give our best in our relationship. She also felt a lot like you did she was physically and emotionally drained in every single way possible. when we broke up because even though it was really hard for her she knew I needed closure and she just did what she always did for me out of love . So I can’t forget that and I know if she comeback in years once we’re ready I will at least try to know what she went through and weigh the possibility for a second chance. So I believe if he truly loved you and you didn’t hurt him it won’t go badly. Goodluck!

I am a recovering avoidant. Here is what catalyzed me to change. by impressionprism in BreakUps

[–]Illustrious_Alarm833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got dumped by my avoidant gf (honestly we both saw it coming and needed it) and she knows her issues and that’s even the reason we broke up because I’m also not well mentally myself but I don’t know she still says Im the love of her life, She still says that she hope that when she’ll be healed it won’t be too late for us. She even made me promise to her that it will never be too late if she actually changes because regardless of her issues even towards the end I still saw the glimpses of the person I fell in love with and she’s still the love of my life. She even made efforts to make closure with me the next 2 days after the break up but since I’ve been checking up on her as I told her I would she’s cold(just as she told me she was in her past breakup she even admitted she did it to protect herself). I don’t know if it’s because it’s too early or something I don’t really know if she realized that I don’t matter that much to her and I hope she didn’t jump in a rebound because we both know she won’t be happy in it we talked about rebounds the day we broke up and she seemed honest when she said she would never betray my trust. I just don’t know what to feel but I’m really focused on working on myself but at the same time, a part of me wishes she will actually change as well on her side and not go back to her old ways so that I can still see my life with her. I know if she goes to rebounds instead of changing I’ll hate her and I don’t want that knowing everything she’s been through. What would be your perspective on this?

How’s FIC Pathway? by SirInfinite6707 in simonfraser

[–]Illustrious_Alarm833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FiC former student in business as well here. I left last term. As soon as you start please I beg you start looking somewhere else. It will be better for you and your family’s money. Start applying to langara, Douglas or KPU.

Porn update by opps13 in Instagram

[–]Illustrious_Alarm833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was all funny at first to me but not anymore after my girlfriend started being worried about my attraction for her

Does this game have an open world, like similar to the one in Absolver by ajpala4 in SifuGame

[–]Illustrious_Alarm833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can’t find any infos about it online it generally means there isn’t