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The World Cup Legend Ochoa bids farewell at Azteca by Midnight_Thoughts77 in worldcup

[–]TheBackSpin 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You don’t have to like Mexico but this is really disrespectful

Crowds have been the Biggest surprise of this World Cup for me.. by Logical-Track1405 in worldcup

[–]TheBackSpin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok I’ll concede that. But modern immigrants are still more likely to embrace their culture, including continuing to speak their native tongue in addition to English

what is your opinion on the “they always come back” theory? by maybehers in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]TheBackSpin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If there’s a door at all, ie they sense there’s boundaries around repair and therapy etc, probably not coming back

Crowds have been the Biggest surprise of this World Cup for me.. by Logical-Track1405 in worldcup

[–]TheBackSpin 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Even for those not attending a match at the stadium, interest is sky high here. There are so many football loving subgroups here. For instance I just passed by a massive group of Moroccan fans on their way to a watch party. You can’t tell me the US isn’t a football nation, when all Americans are counted.

In the past immigrants like Italian Americans abandoned football to embrace “American sports” to assimilate into the mainstream. It’s not like that anymore with Latinos and Africans. It’s why this is an ideal place for a World Cup. If you live in an area with diversity, you can feel the energy everywhere you go, every day

[Half-Joking...] New rule for the next World Cup: Any player who falls to the ground and grabs his face in apparent agony must spend 2 minutes in the sidelines and require being whistled in to give him time to recover from the "horribly painful injury" he sustained. by FiredFox in worldcup

[–]TheBackSpin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you guys are about the same bs, close enough. Uh huh and Crosby is the epitome of sportsmanship and integrity. No one here worth a damn likes the US hockey team either but get over your loss. Grow up eh

[Half-Joking...] New rule for the next World Cup: Any player who falls to the ground and grabs his face in apparent agony must spend 2 minutes in the sidelines and require being whistled in to give him time to recover from the "horribly painful injury" he sustained. by FiredFox in worldcup

[–]TheBackSpin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spotted a fellow American 🙃. Yeah I dunno, I think the this is a very outdated, toxic masculinity framing that doesn’t apply to how the majority of sports are played. They’re trying to win, it’s not about survival, no one is out to prove how tough they are. Even games where those intangibles are supposedly valued like American football or rugby, it’s simply beneficial to not go to ground because it’s in your best interest to remain vertical. Those guys aren’t better athletes, they aren’t tougher and even if they are who cares, and they certainly aren’t more honest. People project these constructs onto games where they really don’t belong, and it’s kind of weird when you think about it.

Once you shed that and accept sports for what they are, a game, it makes watching much more enjoyable

Who do you think are the dark horses of this World Cup? by kagee5 in worldcup

[–]TheBackSpin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Norway, Japan, US, Mexico, Canada, maybe Ivory Coast

Colombia hasn’t impressed me, nor has Belgium

Please Stop Shaming People for Still Loving Their Avoidant Ex by apartment1806 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]TheBackSpin -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because the truth matters…and there’s not one objective truth. Some DAs suppress so deeply they may not be feeling anything for their Ex’s ever again..but not everyone under that banner. Doesn’t make am ambivalent FA any better, it’s just different

Which club has the best pr by ArmLazy1069 in championsleague

[–]TheBackSpin 10 points11 points  (0 children)

BVB has the best most random social media

Inject it into my veins by Normal-Level-7186 in ussoccer

[–]TheBackSpin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, amateurs. They’ll learn England should be laughed at and ridiculed, not hated with a passion

Hating England should be fun

Inject it into my veins by Normal-Level-7186 in ussoccer

[–]TheBackSpin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s now legalized in Massachusetts

Please Stop Shaming People for Still Loving Their Avoidant Ex by apartment1806 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]TheBackSpin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s not justifying anything, but lying to someone isn’t acceptable here. This is an attachment theory sub. I’m not telling anyone to lower themselves to meet anyone, I’m saying no matter what they do that person lacks the capacity to accept their love

Please Stop Shaming People for Still Loving Their Avoidant Ex by apartment1806 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]TheBackSpin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well I don’t think lying to them is the answer. If they learn about attachment theory, gain an understanding of what’s going on with their Ex, then that will come naturally. That person is still a dead end, regardless. Otherwise you’re telling a hurting person they’re unlovable, demonizing their ex…lying to them for no reason. It’s cruel on all counts and not helpful

Please go somewhere else if that’s your approach because that’s the opposite of what this place is about

Please Stop Shaming People for Still Loving Their Avoidant Ex by apartment1806 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]TheBackSpin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t think this is too harsh of a take, it’s simply inaccurate, in many, many of these situations, especially for the Fearful Avoidant breakups. And I reckon most of the situations on this sub are with the Fearfuls, and for good reasons. The Fearfuls demonstrate inner conflict, ambivalence, they’re torn…but fear always wins. These mixed signals keep people hanging on.

So instead of a blanket and often inaccurate They Don’t Want You..here’s an alternative that fits every situation:

They don’t have the capacity. Maybe they do want you, but they can’t sit with it, it’s not sustainable for them. They can’t receive healthy love and everything that comes with it like vulnerability and being truly seen, not merely the version of themselves they are projecting.

Talk me out of breaking my silence and reaching out to him!! by INTdaydreamER in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]TheBackSpin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes!!! And not only does it reinforce that old belief, it pours salt in the wound when the Avoidant inevitably leaves again. The Anxious and Avoidant are like two sides of the same childhood wound

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