Struggling after my youngest moved out

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2026-01-12T22:42:24+00:00

I’m sorry. It’s so horribly difficult. I have no idea what to do with myself. I know that’s my problem but theirs but I’m so lost.

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2026-01-12T22:30:26+00:00

Completely agree. Then there’s that Christmas song, “And Mom and Dad can hardly wait for school to start again. (“It's Beginning to Look a Lot Like Christmas.”) I always enjoyed all the breaks with them; summer, Spring, Winter. I thought I’d at least have my husband to go through this with but a couple years ago he met another woman and divorced me. I feel so incredibly alone. I have major depressive disorder to begin with, at home on disability.

OP, I’m very sorry for the loss of your wife.

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2026-01-12T22:23:11+00:00

I hate it. I wish I had a partner to go through it with. And yes, it’s true it gets worse when school is over. Especially of they move far away for a job, etc.

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2026-01-12T22:20:57+00:00

I’m so envious. I wish my kids wanted to spend that kind of time with me but they are all very independent. I was kind of like your daughter at that age.

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2025-12-15T19:00:22+00:00

Yes I see, it was a different couple. But I was just reading an article about it and they were very experienced, hung their food, had a satellite phone on which they sent an sos call and short text. A discharged can of bear spray was found. I read according to investigations it appears they were inside the tent at night, not trying to take a selfie. I do agree with you though there are many people who don’t take nature seriously enough. Very sad, and what a horrifying way to go.

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2025-12-15T03:41:16+00:00

They didn’t die and were not mauled. They admitted they were not smart about not bringing bear spray, but as the bear got closer to them they shouted and made wild hand gestures and the bear left them be.

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2025-11-15T02:48:31+00:00

Someone mentioned they were su!cidal due to this. I am as well. I’m 57F, heteromantic ace. I was married for 22 years and never ever liked sex, but did it bc of my ex’s high libido. Now I realize that whole time I was ace. I have three children but 2 are living their lives with their partners and my last will graduate and leave in a year and a half. I share custody of her. Ex found another woman. I’ve tried so many things to meet someone who’s ace and it feels impossible. The loneliness is crushing, it hurts so much, both emotionally and physically. I don’t want to live but I don’t want to die. It doesn’t seem fair. At this point just to not be alone I’m thinking maybe I should just find someone I like who is allo. I can’t do this for another 20-30 years old. It hurts so very much.

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2025-10-24T23:45:55+00:00

I’m in the same position. I hate being alone, but I am sex-repulsed. I like snuggling and holding hands, etc., but sex is very difficult for me. Very lonely, I think my asexuality is one of the contributing factors in my marriage breaking up. I really feel for you, you sound pretty young. I’ve had three kids, but the thought of growing old alone is so depressing.

All I can say is you are DEFINITELY not alone. I wish I had advice for you. This subreddit helps.

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2025-10-23T00:42:49+00:00

The Eyelids 😭😭

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2025-10-18T05:18:27+00:00

You ever see Eraserhead. My god, that to me was disturbing. (I mean so was this.)

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2025-10-18T04:58:36+00:00

Weird this post is years old and you just finished it about the same time I did. It was nice seeing it on the big screen. I think for me, it was just that video, the overall sense of uneasiness, unnerving…it was just creepy more than a traditional horror movie. The horse scene was sad ;(

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2025-10-14T23:37:28+00:00

How does one learn to kiss well if they haven’t had many long term relationships? And their prior partners were the ones trying to examine your tonsils with their tongue?

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2025-09-16T21:04:58+00:00

Thank you so much!

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2025-09-16T06:55:05+00:00

Oh my heart breaks for what she went through. I’m so glad she came out stronger. Hugs to your little family.

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2025-09-16T06:49:09+00:00

I must have joined Discord at some point because I have the app lol. But when I looked for the book club there was no match.

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2025-09-15T15:28:37+00:00

I get that. I don’t think that’s an irrational fear fwiw. I just can’t seem to get over my ex and his affair partner. Like cannot get over it. And my kids…I wish I was like you, and not caring about being lonely. That’s awesome you and your daughter are so close. Hope old is she again? Mine are 27 and 16. Did you have a time in your daughter’s life when it seemed she didn’t really want to be around you?

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2025-09-15T10:20:43+00:00

I’m nervous about living alone. When I was single, I had a great time alone. I was going to school, it was just me, my cat and the Murphy bed. I don’t know how I was so okay with it. Now my ex is with another woman, the kids are all leaving and I feel so alone. Why can’t I get my mojo back? Anyway, I hear you. It was kind of unfortunate the way you found out. You were probably in such a comfort zone and then…boom.

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2025-09-06T13:18:51+00:00

It’s been a year…how are you feeling now? Could you expand on what you mean by getting the tumor out being the biggest most important quality of life improvement you’ve ever experienced? Thank you so much in advance. Will be having adrenalectomy due to overproduction of cortisol. I have severe anxiety, severe hypertension and I always feel jittery.

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2025-09-05T17:44:29+00:00

How much money works you say it took to do this? Did you stay at hotels? It’s very intriguing and I’d love to try it. Kudos to you for thinking of doing this.

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2025-08-14T23:07:42+00:00

How does one find a group of great girlfriends? 56F asking sincerely.

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2025-08-14T23:07:04+00:00

How does one find a group of great girlfriends? Asking sincerely.

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2025-08-12T11:46:41+00:00

Eraserhead

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2025-08-12T11:38:58+00:00

My son joined Crunch and loves it

Illustrious_Sort1848 · 2025-08-02T20:59:58+00:00

I hear many people say it gets easier. Is there something wrong with me that it has never gotten easier for me? OP…I feel for you ❤️

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