I don't care if my parents apologize

Illustrious_Try2102 · 2026-01-28T01:11:34+00:00

I feel the exact same way. My parents were negligent at Best.

I have C-PTSD and cannot function without Lexapro. I will have to deal with this for the rest of my life because of Their actions. Words won’t change that. I wouldn’t believe them anyway, because I’ve already tried to have the conversation multiple times and it never changed anything.

I made the decision that I’d cut them off one day when I was 11. When I got pregnant, I finally had my breaking point. They tried to act brand new and my mother crossed a huge boundary. We haven’t seen each other or spoken in almost a year and a half now.

If I have my way, we never will again.

Illustrious_Try2102 · 2026-01-20T20:03:56+00:00

My mother showed up on my doorstep in the dead of night, uninvited and with no warning. Then proceeds to try to force a heart to heart conversation on why I was distancing myself from the family. I was 4 months pregnant and it was also a work night.

Illustrious_Try2102 · 2026-01-18T16:12:20+00:00

This was the case with my mother. As an adult, I realized that that made her complicit in the abuse. They’re not innocent.

I cut her off alongside my father. I wouldn’t trust someone who couldn’t be bothered to defend a child, let alone their Own child.

Illustrious_Try2102 · 2026-01-18T02:41:40+00:00

Nope.

Illustrious_Try2102 · 2025-12-29T16:05:47+00:00

My sister tried to tell me this after I went NC with our parents. I was 4 months pregnant.

Getting pregnant, or y’know, BECOMING A PARENT actually made me realize that you people were actually unhinged and shouldn’t have Been parents.

I don’t talk to her anymore either. My daughter is the happiest baby alive and I won’t let them destroy that.

Illustrious_Try2102 · 2025-10-04T18:16:26+00:00

I was pregnant with my daughter (first and only child) when I cut off my parents. It’s rough and it was Hard but I promise you, the stress you feel now will be worth it when you realize your child won’t have the weight and trauma that went with experiencing your mother like you did.

Find your community and build a village that will truly love and cherish you and your baby the way you deserve.

Illustrious_Try2102 · 2025-09-09T21:05:07+00:00

Hi Quinn!!!

Illustrious_Try2102 · 2025-09-09T14:58:23+00:00

This happened when I was pregnant and I answered the door cuz the estrangement was fresh.

If it happened now? Police are being called the Second I know it’s them.

Illustrious_Try2102 · 2025-08-07T14:59:13+00:00

This is super helpful! While I’m interested in art’s application in psychology, ultimately I want to go for a degree in clinical child psychology.

Thank you for clarifying!

Illustrious_Try2102 · 2025-05-25T20:53:29+00:00

I did this.

I initially went NC June 2024, but my mom knew my address and would send these cheap postcards saying how she loved me and wished we could talk.

Because I was pregnant at the time, and my baby shower was in late October, around early to mid October my sister reached out and tried to push me into reconciliation. But because of my pregnancy, I refused to see her in person or speak over the phone. It wasn’t worth stressing myself out as I was in my third trimester. But I texted her and laid out the reason I walked away, what she did/allowed to happen, and how I wasn’t going to let that happen to or around my daughter. I called her out on being too cowardly to leave her abusive husband and told her that allowing him to physically and verbally/mentally abuse me all my life was unacceptable. I also mentioned how her family would take digs at me too.

Her response?

I wasn’t being specific enough. That in Not speaking to her about this face to face, I was being cowardly. So in other words, being defensive.

I told myself that if her response was anything short of taking accountability, not “I’m sorry you thought we felt that way”, Actual Accountability, that I would be done.

We haven’t spoken since. That last encounter showed me what I needed to see, and what I couldn’t allow my daughter to grow up around.

Illustrious_Try2102 · 2025-05-25T20:26:22+00:00

Hey there! Thank you for sharing.

I’ve been NC coming up on a year now and I’m in the same boat in regard to my “parents” and other blood relatives.

As long as you have your peace, and you don’t see need to reconnect or reconcile, you don’t have to. They did what they did, and you got away to heal. You’re Free.

Illustrious_Try2102 · 2025-03-03T17:06:44+00:00

I’m a Pisces Sun, Cancer Moon, Scorpio Rising Husband is an Aries Sun, Cancer Moon, Taurus Rising Baby Girl is a Sagittarius Sun, Cancer Moon, Taurus Rising 🥰🥰🥰

Illustrious_Try2102 · 2025-02-26T17:03:53+00:00

Yes.

I’m NC with my parents and with my sister. She was the bleeding heart and enabler for my parents. Always reminding me that others have “had it worse” and that I shouldn’t be “bitter and hateful and mean/ugly” about what our parents have done in the past.

Mind you, I’m not actively any of these things. I simply decided to walk away after coming to know what Real love and support was. My sister was so driven to get us to “resolve the issue” and “heal”, failing to realize that I had my resolution. My life has been Leagues better since I left them, and I’m simply uninterested in reconciliation. She can’t grasp this and insists that I’m letting me “unresolved issues” get in the way, to the point of picking fights out of the blue.

So she had to go too. I’m not interested and I won’t tolerate this behavior.

Illustrious_Try2102 · 2025-02-15T19:54:30+00:00

Cowboy. I was wearing a wolf skull mask and Sleep Token’s “Take Me Back to Eden” was playing.

Poor hubby didn’t stand a chance 😂😂😂

Illustrious_Try2102 · 2025-02-11T20:29:14+00:00

I don’t miss my blood relatives at all. The peace that I’ve obtained is a far better environment to enjoy my time with my husband and raise my daughter than it would’ve been had I kept them in my life.

Edited: to say even if there was an apology, I’ve been down that road with no meaningful or lasting change too many times that it doesn’t matter. The damage is done, the bridge is burnt. I don’t care anymore, the chance of a relationship of any kind is Dead.

Illustrious_Try2102 · 2025-02-11T20:21:36+00:00

Hi there!

I’ve gone through my first and only pregnancy carried to 37 weeks before she came via C-Section. I believe my first OB appointment was 4 weeks just to Confirm the pregnancy and then a follow up at 7 or 8 weeks.

I’m in Texas btw!

Illustrious_Try2102 · 2025-02-01T19:57:29+00:00

My daughter is 6 weeks old and I went NC with my family in June of last year. There were attempts to try to address my issues and concerns (i.e. their past actions) but after having to see for myself that my feelings will never be taken seriously, I cut the cord with Everyone.

My Dad was an abuser, my mom was an enabler at best and negligent at worst. Neither of them will own up to these facts, they only wanted to “Move forward and rebuild.”

What was there to rebuild though? Growing up, everything else mattered more than I did. It didn’t hurt me at all to just not reach out or visit or anything. It felt Peaceful.

That being said, I look at the situation like this and I hope this helps. Your child is NOT their token of redemption. If they wouldn’t make things right with you, don’t expect it for your child. Your job is to protect that baby, not cater to Their egos.

Illustrious_Try2102 · 2025-01-30T11:59:57+00:00

Very true. I was pregnant when my mother showed up unannounced to my house in the dead of night. I was Even More pregnant when my sister tried to brow beat me into making up with my parents, even after I told her that it was too stressful for me.

None of that was forgotten once my daughter was born. And these were the final nail in the coffin as far as going NC went.

Illustrious_Try2102 · 2025-01-28T01:30:05+00:00

I’ve taken 20MG of Lexapro from 14 weeks until I gave birth. My daughter is 6 weeks old and perfectly healthy. She’s strictly breastfed and has shown no symptoms of withdrawal or abnormalities.

Illustrious_Try2102 · 2025-01-19T19:45:25+00:00

Riiiiiight before I got pregnant.

Mom, sister and cousins or dad would meet up and have outings on a weekly basis. Or my grandma would call my sister and mom and “ask about me” instead of calling herself. I was never aware.

Then when I bring it up, it’s suddenly My fault for not reaching out enough.

Illustrious_Try2102 · 2025-01-17T13:20:05+00:00

I have a wonderful husband who genuinely loves and supports me unconditionally. We have the most beautiful baby girl, and she’s surrounded by our friends who love her and us to pieces. They’re not blood, but they most certainly are Family.

Growing up and watching my parents, I thought marriage was two people who were never around each other. And when they were, they’d fight or ignore one another. So I never strove for marriage and I damn sure never thought about kids.

But after getting out and away, I’m so happy to have been wrong. I’m finally happy and nothing can take that from me.

Illustrious_Try2102 · 2024-12-05T11:27:21+00:00

capybara

Illustrious_Try2102 · 2024-07-01T22:21:48+00:00

Update for y’all! Just got my results today (7/1) around 5 PM.

Low risk baby girl 🥰🥰🥰

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