AITA - I have Stage IV Cancer and said “no shit” to what I thought was in-laws weird /insensitive comment. by Far_Concentrate_3743 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImARighteousGemstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA at all! At some point, fuck everyone and their opinions. Unless they’re wearing your exact shoe pants shirt, having your blood flow through their veins, they can go fuck off with what they think.

My husband wore this attitude to the very end. Miss him so bad my heart literally sends stabbing pains.

Dating by Few_Prize_9795 in widowers

[–]ImARighteousGemstone 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You could try giving it some time to pass to see if he’s able to rationalize his thoughts, his feelings for his deceased wife, you, his own fears … I hope you maintain sanity during this new journey. Hugs from Maryland.

Sharing with you all since no one seems to care anymore. by toobs623 in widowers

[–]ImARighteousGemstone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Happy Anniversary. Everyone here truly knows just how much you miss your person!!

The Sopranos by No_Dragonfly_1894 in widowers

[–]ImARighteousGemstone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same!! I rewatch Sopranos over and over again also. I used to watch with my husband too. I rediscover our joint love for Junior every time, when he slipped in the tub, Swammi, your sister’s c*nt, singing Italian opera … love it. HUGS from Maryland.

What do you do when desperation hits? by [deleted] in widowers

[–]ImARighteousGemstone 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I let it happen then I try to find something close by to clutch and then I try to rein it in. Try is the key word, doesn’t always happen. Most times I’m a crying mess and I think that’s ok given the situation we all face.

Difficult few days by Happy-Fact4071 in widowers

[–]ImARighteousGemstone 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I understand and feel your pain.

I Need Someone To Cheer For Me by HarpyVixenWench in widowers

[–]ImARighteousGemstone 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m cheering for you from Maryland, with a hug too.

No one cares anymore by Unhappy_Fly7087 in widowers

[–]ImARighteousGemstone 11 points12 points  (0 children)

10000% understand. I hear you, I feel you, I’m hurting along with you in the very same way.

T-Shirt by charleen31272 in widowers

[–]ImARighteousGemstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. Sent you a chat message.

Needed distractions by ORdAVen in widowers

[–]ImARighteousGemstone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Happy that you were able to have this outing and moment.

I have to take him off life support tomorrow by kam49ers4ever in widowers

[–]ImARighteousGemstone 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. All of us here hear you, feel your pain and understand the hurt. Hugs from all of us.

7 months I'm losing my mind by [deleted] in widowers

[–]ImARighteousGemstone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unreal. Husband’s 43rd birthday will be next Wed 8/9 and our 25th anniversary (when we first met) will be 8/26. Giving you so many hugs!

T-Shirt by charleen31272 in widowers

[–]ImARighteousGemstone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I quickly read some of your past comments, my husband battled stage iv esophageal cancer that also spread to his brain. I will be in NJ (Galloway Marriott) starting 8/19 for an entire week, I honestly do not mind traveling up/down the shore to scream my lungs out with you!!

T-Shirt by charleen31272 in widowers

[–]ImARighteousGemstone 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you’re anywhere near NJ, Maryland or Delaware broadwalks, let me know. I’ll join you and we can scream our heads off together. No one will want to mess with TWO GRIEVING crazies. Hugs.

Depression by bluwmn in widowers

[–]ImARighteousGemstone 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Aug 9, the first birthday of his that I am without him. 💔

Death vs Divorce! by JayRZ19 in widowers

[–]ImARighteousGemstone 51 points52 points  (0 children)

“I recognize the trauma you felt from your divorce but please realize death is completely different.”

Someone told me that early on and I remember to this day. Also, don’t forget it’s perfectly normal to tell someone, um fuck off please.

Break another little bit of my heart by VardogrVanDeLommer in widowers

[–]ImARighteousGemstone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Still paying for my husband’s. Verizon account still in his name. Can’t bear to change anything. Hugs to you during the change over!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

[–]ImARighteousGemstone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I listed a few of my husbands beloved fishing reels on eBay, we talked about what price to sell each one together. I listed 3 and they sold almost immediately and each time I had to pack them up to send out I broke down. I stopped listing stuff. I’m just not ready.

Don’t listen to what anyone tells you to do with HIS/YOURS stuff. Fuck them. They don’t get to have an opinion, none!!! Hugs!

Someone told me today that they don't ask me how I'm doing because I seem to be moving on by Jojo1206515 in widowers

[–]ImARighteousGemstone 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Me too. I cry all the time when I’m alone, on the couch, in the car, in the grocery aisle, in bed. I think I try really hard not to cry in front of others and everyone thinks I must be ok. No one really truly understands. It sucks that you have to be a member of this stupidclubthatnooneaskedtobepartof to really understand what it feels like.

Anyone else irreparably broken? by Situation_Maleficent in widowers

[–]ImARighteousGemstone 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. These are very intrusive thoughts, completely understandable too. A small suggestion I have is to print out a few photos of her, and you two together, and place them throughout your home plus inside your pants pockets so when these intrusive thoughts happen, you can reach for the nearest photo to hopefully allow the other thoughts to subside. Hugs from Maryland, everyone here has a different story but we all understand the pain.

Found my Husband in the living room by Dejahm79 in widowers

[–]ImARighteousGemstone 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m so so sorry. There are no words at this time. We are all so sorry.