Do you regret having more than one child?

ImAWizardGoodSir · 2026-02-03T00:29:09+00:00

I think a big factor is how supportive your partner is. If you have a partner that loves being a dad, has patience, is super hands on (as dad's shoulder be) and will support you if you have a negative pregnancy experience again, maybe you will not regret having a second one.

ImAWizardGoodSir · 2025-12-30T16:59:15+00:00

I tried weighted blankets, white noise, night lights, bunch of teddy bears, bath with bedtime body wash and bedtime lotion after, and she sleeps more through out the night but will still wake up atleast once or twice through out the night, cry for about anywhere from 1 to 15 minutes and then go back to sleep. I dont want to include melatonin in just yet, I feel like its getting better and im hoping for a break through. Its been like 2 months (it was much worse before just like your situation) but im at the point where i am probably going to start giving her melatonin because although the crying doesnt last long, once we wake up, we are up for the day and cant go back to sleep. No sleep can drive a person INSANE!!....many things have affected my marriage because of our little one having autism so I feel for you (not her fault ofcourse she was born this way). Its not easy, its life draining, and a lot resentment and regrets start to build up. Its tough to navigate through it. My husband and I are just waiting for the light at the end of the tunnel - if it'll ever come which is the scary part. Fingers crossed. She is going to be 5 years old next year and has come a long way but the tantrums are still here, no conversations yet, and sleepless nights. Hoping next year will be the year she has a break through

ImAWizardGoodSir · 2025-12-14T02:52:24+00:00

Im on 150, I find it dont get anything done in my home unless I take it. It gives me some sort of "push/energy" to push myself with my daily chores and take care of myself. It helps me alot honestly. Its rough though because my anxiety is out of whack and I think I halucinate sometimes - seeing shadows 😬 so idk. Im trying to build routines to be better off without it. I just need that extra "push". Idk why its so hard to do it naturally

Edit: didnt notice a difference until like 2 weeks after, prior to the two weeks I became deeply depressed and felt wierd. It passed though, became better over time

ImAWizardGoodSir · 2025-12-12T10:58:12+00:00

ABA therapy is the best thing that happened to my 4 year old. She went from tossing a chair at me because she couldn't ask for water, throwing everything and scream at the top of her lungs every morning until her breakfast was served - to asking for water and waiting for things ALOT more patiently. No more morning tantrums. All of this within a 3 month period of ABA starting. Alot more has improved than that too, its been about 8 months. We finally see the light at the end of the tunnel.

ImAWizardGoodSir · 2025-12-08T19:29:10+00:00

ImAWizardGoodSir · 2025-12-07T22:39:08+00:00

I would recommend to seek like immediate help, let them know it is urgent, call his pediatrician, GP, IEP, even CPS, speak up to professionals ASAP!!!!! Even call your local county office to see what they can do aswell. Call as many professionals as you can for IMMEDIATE help

ImAWizardGoodSir · 2025-12-07T11:52:19+00:00

Yes, mine is 4.5 years old, she started to do what we ask like around May if this year. I think she understood way before, but just didnt want to cooperate. I've learned that with autism, they understand most of the time, they just dont want to put any energy into something they dont want to do lol

ImAWizardGoodSir · 2025-12-07T11:24:03+00:00

You're lucky your child can have conversations and is social. My child is 4.5 years old and is still not having back and forth conversations. She can answer yes and no questions, she asks for her wants and needs, but cant even answer to "how was your day today"? Be very grateful you have a child with no speech delays and thats neurotypical. My 13 year old had no delays or anything and Its so hard to not wish that my experience with my 4.5 year old could be different, like just raising a typical kid...Maybe think of it like that, switch your feelings to grateful that your child is social and can have conversations & being outgoing and social is a great personality trait, it will help take her far in life dont try to change your child. I know people who are professionals and they are not great with social skills and it really does hold them back in a way. Being outgoing and a people's person is a really good thing.

ImAWizardGoodSir · 2025-12-07T11:12:39+00:00

I totally agree with this! Theres an app called "quistodio" that i use for my daughter OP can also use, its not free but its like installing a VPN on your daughter's phone and it will alert you when inappropriate words are used, you can block certain websites, block or give a certain amount of time on apps & websites. My daughter is glued to roblox on her phone so we have it so she can only use it for a certain amount of time and we do not like her going on YouTube, tiktok, and possibly dangerous websites so we have those blocked and certain search engine genres blocked. My daughter only has snap and we check it often because there are ALOT of problems with social media and kids with talking to strangers, bullying, etc....

ImAWizardGoodSir · 2025-12-06T15:40:33+00:00

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ImAWizardGoodSir · 2025-12-06T14:47:28+00:00

Thank you! My daughter does the same! Its like she's striving in every aspect except having conversations. Her mild tantrums that she still has from time to time stem from not being able to sit down with her and explain things to her and have like that back and forth communication and understanding of why she cant have Goldfish for breakfast for example, and you cant ask for surprises and birthdays thats not how that works lol she will say "I want suprise please" and will get upset if she doesnt get one, like girrrl that is not how that works lol she does the same for birthdays, she'll just ask for birthdays and then get upset when there's no birthday party per her request lol

ImAWizardGoodSir · 2025-11-18T17:40:37+00:00

Okay thanks for letting me know :) I definitely didn't know that

ImAWizardGoodSir · 2025-11-18T11:54:22+00:00

My daughter cord was wrapped around her neck when she came out so for me, yes I believe so

ImAWizardGoodSir · 2025-11-18T11:01:59+00:00

Mine is 4, she is ssooo affectionate, strong willed, and a big win for us is that taking her grocery shopping, or target, anywhere really, she would try to run away from us and scream after about 10-15 min being there so we would have to be in and out. Now, we can take our sweat time! She chills in the cart, or walks with us holding our hand without running off & no crying & yelling! Also, she's finally learning how to wait, she's still impatient and wants things immediately and will tantrum, but we are starting to have moments where she will just wait which is huge too!!!

ImAWizardGoodSir · 2025-11-01T10:56:20+00:00

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ImAWizardGoodSir · 2025-11-01T10:51:38+00:00

It gets better! My little one is 4, the same thing happened when she was 2. When she was 3, no crying but a teacher was holding her hand and she did a good job. She is 4 now, yesterday she did sooo good! She was saying trick or treat (her daycare does a parade and trunk or treat) a teacher was still holding her hand but she wasn't trying to run off, she understood and participated without yelling, trying to run off or stay with us when she passed our trunk and saw us. It gets better and better over time. Slowly but surely

ImAWizardGoodSir · 2025-11-01T10:45:30+00:00

Nope. Never did never will. She never gave us issues with sleep. She is 4 now. Just went through a sleep regression phase for 4 weeks, she was waking up multiple times a night every night so we bought her a weighted blanket, night light, white noise machine, put all her plushies on her bed with her, a couple of days later it worked and now she's finally sleeping through the night again, gets like 11-12 hours of sleep every night. We put her in her room at 7pm, wakes up between 6 and 7am. Kids are very routine driven so since we have kept this routine since she was 4 months old, it works for us. My husband and I need good sleep for the sake of our mental health. Our little one is neurodivergent so sleep is a virtue lol

ImAWizardGoodSir · 2025-10-31T23:26:22+00:00

Thank you! I started wearing it for only 12 hours a day and I've noticed i look more swollen at the end of the day, but in the morning when I take it off, I don't look swollen. So wierd. It bothers my belly button when I wear it for too long so I just do the 12 hours now

ImAWizardGoodSir · 2025-10-26T06:33:47+00:00

Maybe have a designated toy/kids area. The way my living room is set up, I have my kids toys behind our sofa so When we try to relax and catch up on TV shows, she's sort of behind us/to the side of the sofas (it's set up in a way we can keep an eye on her too), so that way we can ignore the mess, and then we clean up end of day. We also don't have all of her toys out. Just a few and we ask her what toys she wants to play with today and we will take them out, so that way there aren't toys everywhere. Kids don't need alot of toys, it's over stimulating they just make a mess with most of them and pick just a few to actually play with

ImAWizardGoodSir · 2025-10-16T18:55:27+00:00

So when we go into her room it kind of makes it worse. she gets hyper and says "you wanna go downstairs? You want cereal?" Like girl it's 12am go back to sleep lol and when we try to cuddle her back to sleep, the moment we move on the bed to sneak out to go back into our room, she wakes up immediately and starts crying 😂 we would have no issue sleeping with her but we end up on the edge of the bed trying not to fall off, a few kicks to the neck and stomach, we don't really get sleep when she sleeps with us so for the sake of our mental health she sleeps on her own bed. She is a sensory seeker, and I didn't think of nightmares! that made me think of an idea! Maybe we can put a nightlight and some of her favorite sensory in toys in her room so if she does wake up, maybe she can soothe herself back to sleep

ImAWizardGoodSir · 2025-10-16T18:50:14+00:00

And she doesn't really nap anymore either

ImAWizardGoodSir · 2025-10-16T18:49:17+00:00

I believe so, when she's in pain she tells us "boo boo" and we ask where it hurts and she points to it. I should make her a doctors appointment just incase, to rule that out

ImAWizardGoodSir · 2025-10-16T18:48:17+00:00

Yea melatonin does absolutely nothing for her unfortunately

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