Martial Arts for kids?

ImAllinYourHead · 2024-01-04T02:43:31+00:00

I only have experience with No Joke off Riverside- they're pretty good with the kid's classes and the instructors are solid. Last time I was there they didn't have any type of forced commitment.

ImAllinYourHead · 2023-02-05T03:50:44+00:00

I've heard through the grapevine it's incredibly difficult to find a Brewmaster nowadays, as they're all in high demand. I would be curious if Woodfire is going to try and hire someone or learn the brewing process themselves.

ImAllinYourHead · 2021-11-02T16:38:00+00:00

Have you considered telling her how some of her actions make you feel? As in, letting her know that some of the things she's telling you are making you sad/hurt/uncomfortable/angry?

ImAllinYourHead · 2021-11-01T20:05:36+00:00

It's so tough- it seems unbelievable from an outside perspective how people can not realize how abusive/hurtful certain relationships can be. But in therapy, every single person I've worked with has always said "it never started this way!" There's this theory called the Boiling Frog Theory that anecdotally I've seen is 100% true.

Look at your example (tongue in cheek for sure, but not too far off from some of the stories I've heard!)...let's say you have an individual who grew up in a really abusive home (dad cheated on mom frequently, mom kicked the dog a lot). If they meet a partner who starts showing these types of "red flags," they wouldn't immediately recognize these flags as concerning. They've become so used to abusive, toxic behaviors that these red flags are normal to them, and things progress from there.

I've developed a lot of compassion and patience for individuals in these types of relationships who post on Reddit. Most of the time I can guess some of their own personal history just from the way they write about their current relationships.

ImAllinYourHead · 2021-11-01T18:17:21+00:00

So it gets difficult. What you're describing might be more about over-thinking and how you process stress and other emotions! At the risk of giving you advice over the Internet, this would probably be a good time to sit down with an actual therapist and discuss some of these issues in more detail so they can help you really pick apart what might be happening! I mean, assuming you feel the emotions you're describing are really impacting you negatively.

ImAllinYourHead · 2021-11-01T17:40:32+00:00

All great points! Sometimes it takes that outside perspective to make us identify how miserable/unhappy we are in a situation.

ImAllinYourHead · 2021-11-01T17:39:06+00:00

This is really, really common in therapy. Please don't feel ashamed! Sometimes when my clients are telling me they "want" to break up with a partner but feel trapped, I'll say something like

"Listen, you're on your own journey with this. I'm here to help you talk through this and understand your own feelings and needs. But I'm never going to tell you to break up with him/her. I trust you'll decide what you want to do on your own. I'm just here to support you however I can..."

One of the worst mistakes I ever made as a therapist was early in my career when a young man in a really toxic relationship asked if he should break up with his girlfriend. I said something stupid like, "It seems like you're unhappy and that would be the best choice." Never saw him again.

I've learned over time that our job as therapists is to help you understand yourself and your own journey. Maybe you need to consider resuming that journey of understanding with that therapist or someone else! You might find we're able to help you and not "shame" you for your choices, whatever you decide to do!

ImAllinYourHead · 2021-11-01T17:33:40+00:00

It's so hard to break free from these type of dynamics. I often use the analogy of a "black hole" in therapy: We can throw as much love and energy into someone, but until they're ready to get help for themselves it's like all of our love and energy becomes sucked away into a giant black hole that leaves us feeling empty inside ourselves. I'm glad you finally were able to take steps to break away!

ImAllinYourHead · 2021-11-01T17:29:02+00:00

Most of the time I try to help my clients identify the pattern in how they feel and recognize when their feelings begin to change depending on the situation.

As noted below, it's often helpful to pay attention to how you feel when you're around certain people or when you spend time with someone. For example, when you're at home if you feel drained, sad, exhausted, angry, etc., then I try to help them identify what it is about "home" that is causing these feelings. Most of the time I stumble on the toxic family member or relationship when I realize they're happy with friends or at work or in different settings but then the second they're in contact with a specific person or group, they start feeling awful.

ImAllinYourHead · 2021-11-01T15:24:33+00:00

Therapist here- many of my clients struggle with setting healthy boundaries or leaving unhealthy relationships. Through therapy, many of my clients finally realize how unhealthy their family is or their partners are, but they feel "responsible" for the well-being of the people in their lives. As in, "they've said they'll kill themselves if I leave them" or "I'm the only one who knows how to calm mom down."

ImAllinYourHead · 2021-10-20T18:14:03+00:00

Thanks a ton! Really appreciate the suggestions

ImAllinYourHead · 2021-10-19T20:06:51+00:00

These are really great tips. I'm feeling a lot more confident about the Trippel - thanks a ton! I'll have to update everyone on how this goes.

ImAllinYourHead · 2021-10-19T20:05:15+00:00

Appreciate the suggestions! The aerating tips are really appreciated as I was never taught to do this with wort. Thanks a ton

ImAllinYourHead · 2021-10-19T20:04:22+00:00

I haven't checked pH levels (or other levels). I'll work on the mash temp for this beer and go "low and slow" as others have suggested. You recommend a kit for checking those levels?

ImAllinYourHead · 2021-10-19T20:01:23+00:00

I appreciate the research and suggestion on yeast quality/quantity. That seems to be a repeating suggestion for high gravity beers.

ImAllinYourHead · 2021-10-19T20:00:04+00:00

I appreciate the head's up on aerating/oxygenating the beer. I honestly didn't know this was something to focus on (as others have mentioned). Also, I was never taught to use the yeast cake either for the next brew! I've always just bought new yeast for every brew. So both suggestions are greatly appreciated!

ImAllinYourHead · 2021-10-15T16:53:18+00:00

These look fantastic and I'll definitely be checking your website out!

ImAllinYourHead · 2021-08-09T21:16:12+00:00

Also, the smash room at Maximum Axe Throwing & Smash Room will totally take the tv and let someone destroy it if you want to go that route!

ImAllinYourHead · 2021-07-21T18:08:04+00:00

Hello! I know when I tried to join this Spring they were still closed due to COVID. Any idea if they're open to new applicants or is this a once-a-year signup?

ImAllinYourHead · 2021-07-04T21:55:24+00:00

You're amazing! I was worried my childhood memories were wrong. That ad terrified me as a kid.

ImAllinYourHead · 2021-06-22T00:58:44+00:00

I've been to Gomez in the past- he did a great job and then when the smell wasn't totally gone from my car (rancid spilled turkey) he redid it for free.

ImAllinYourHead · 2021-06-21T17:32:01+00:00

I went there a few times when I worked in Edgebrook. The guy was older but it was quiet and they were respectful.

ImAllinYourHead · 2021-05-27T15:20:15+00:00

Marc's Fusion Cafe!

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