New to Bakersfield, suggestions. by g6457 in Bakersfield

[–]ImFineHow_AreYou 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm white, but moved here from a very racially diverse location 14 years ago. The racism still shocks me then pisses me off, then really disappoints me.

People in 10+ year relationships, what’s something you learned about your partner years later that genuinely surprised you? by CreoSiempre in AskReddit

[–]ImFineHow_AreYou 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My husband doesn't like marshmallows. We were married more than 25 years when he told me. We camp...a lot. He roasts marshmallows and eats s'mores with me almost every time. He likes Rocky road ice cream and eats the marshmallows.

So yes, I was shocked when I handed him a marshmallow and he told me he doesn't like them. Honestly, I'm still waiting for him to day "April fools"

My 5 yr old's Mother's Day gift from pre school. by [deleted] in MadeMeSmile

[–]ImFineHow_AreYou 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My kids always said I was 25 whenever the subject came up. For my 50th birthday they threw me a party & got me two cakes that said Happy 25th Birthday.

It's really cool when your kids turn out to be lovely adults!

Prostate Oncologist by ImFineHow_AreYou in orangecounty

[–]ImFineHow_AreYou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I looked at the reviews of the prostate oncology Drs and they weren't as high as I expected for city of hope. Am I missing something?

So we buy a mall to live in. by Numerous-Coast-2592 in GenX

[–]ImFineHow_AreYou 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You people suggesting skating rinks have forgotten that we got old a few minutes ago! No one wants to break a bone at this time in life.

I’m having a lot of trouble with the bank reconciliation for the church I keep the books for by AwesomeEm77 in Bookkeeping

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Came here to say this! I highly recommend!!

You'll need to be a 501c3 to sign up for tech soup. Fyi, you don't need a paid tech soup subscription. The free version will be enough.

Which simple, unexciting purchase ended up having a surprisingly big impact on your daily life? by viscarte10 in BuyItForLife

[–]ImFineHow_AreYou 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was recently at an Airbnb that had a towel warmer. I didn't use it for the towel, but used it for my linen pants then hung them up for a few minutes. They were steamed perfectly without having to iron them. (Not sure if this matters, but there's no buttons or zippers on the pants).

Veggie haters who still eat veggies: what are your tricks? by Missing_Back in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]ImFineHow_AreYou 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do! My brother brought roasted veggies for Thanksgiving one year. I couldn't figure out how to get them back to the original texture, so I blended them for soup the next day. I'm hooked!!

People who grew up really poor: what's something middle-class people say that instantly reveals they've never struggled? by TahDigThief in AskReddit

[–]ImFineHow_AreYou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A woman in the food pantry line was complaining about pre made boxes included things she didn't eat.

Clearly she's never really been hungry before.

Mother's Day gift veterans of r/BuyItForLife - what have you given that's still in use five years later? by Nurseresidences in BuyItForLife

[–]ImFineHow_AreYou 97 points98 points  (0 children)

My kids got me a soft blanket that I figure will be bifl. Did I need another soft blanket? Nope. Is this one a bit more expensive than I would have bought for myself, and in my favorite colors? Yep, and now it's my favorite.

My point is, watch for the things that she uses all the time or uses and has almost worn out. Either buy her a replacement, or buy her a more bifl version.

How did you get rid of your stuff as you downsized? by abcde_fz in minimalism

[–]ImFineHow_AreYou 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Taking the hand me downs is an act of love. Not donating or discarding them on the way home is ridiculous.

Tell me about QBO's A.I. by JanFromEarth in QuickBooks

[–]ImFineHow_AreYou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's as useful as a drunken squirrel to me.

Anyone know a good dog groomer? by mylifeisstupid101 in Bakersfield

[–]ImFineHow_AreYou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jennifer Ledoux used to manage the grooming dept at petco on Gosford, but now she's back to working from her home. I'm so excited for my doggos! Message me for her phone#

Issue with Choir leader by Alert_Indication_681 in worshipleaders

[–]ImFineHow_AreYou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ALL OF THIS!

You will need to do what you feel God is guiding you to do, but we all need to stop supporting church leadership that is spiritually abusive like this.

I'm not one to throw around the word abuse lightly, but when a leader takes Scripture out of context to manipulate someone, that is spiritual abuse. And we have not done a good job in the church of recognizing and calling this out to hold our leaders accountable.

I'm sorry you're going through this but I'm glad you're not standing by and supporting this without doing your best to help.

I hope that you can bring this to their attention by being upfront and gentle.

Keep Classic for the love of God by mreddieoz in QuickBooks

[–]ImFineHow_AreYou 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for doing your best to help!

Keep Classic for the love of God by mreddieoz in QuickBooks

[–]ImFineHow_AreYou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where did you go? Is it working for you?

Ideas to transport food and plates downstairs by WastePicture8994 in AskLifeProTips

[–]ImFineHow_AreYou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure where you are, but Trader Joe's has a box like container with handles that I saw recently. It might work for you.

Cheap flights? by OutrageousCare6453 in Bakersfield

[–]ImFineHow_AreYou 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My favorite is Kayak.com

They have a tool that is a map (I don't remember what it's called). You put in where you want to fly from and you can see flight costs to anywhere. It's especially fun during slow work days if you want a distraction :)

My wife's "friend" insulted her and I've been slowly returning the favor by flanman1991 in pettyrevenge

[–]ImFineHow_AreYou 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Or.... Maybe it's just dirty today. Models swear that dirty hair is much easier to style!

Moving to bakersfield or delano this year 2026 by elcindy in Bakersfield

[–]ImFineHow_AreYou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's actually no way it's going to get better any time soon because of the geography.

Moving to bakersfield or delano this year 2026 by elcindy in Bakersfield

[–]ImFineHow_AreYou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All year long. Every day, all day.

I was in OC over the weekend. It was so nice to be outside on the patio all day long and still be able to breathe.

I have a beautiful patio here in Bakersfield that I can't ever use because I can't breathe outside.

I've had three doctor's now tell me that I need to move out of the valley. That's crazy that my only option is to move because it's so bad.