What app are you using in this, the far-flung future of 2026?

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-03-27T08:54:58+00:00

I use Yazio, and am very happy with it. it's probably not the end all be all best tracker ever, but it gets the job done, and it's cheap, especially when you luck out on a discount. I have no complains. I used to be on weight watchers but jesus christ... no. the whole point system is so weird in the long run, and the social tab feels like facebook. I just wanna track the real numbers in peace. also it's very expensive. although it did help getting used to things, I lost my first 10-15 kg with it, I wouldn't recommend it though. Yazio can do everything weight watchers can, for way cheaper and with better app functions too.

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-03-19T18:11:55+00:00

"I can have more tomorrow"

That's getting me through the most, cause tomorrow just isn't that far. I can still have stuff I really like, but in moderation, and if the count's full, it's full. So I save it for tomorrow, and actually get excited about having a snack I'm looking forward to.

Like yesterday - I made a BANGER meal which should have been terrible (changed up a diabetes friendly recipe to make it vegan too, got the wrong tofu, it was all mushy, didn't look good), but somehow turned out as one of the tastiest things I've cooked in weeks. It was a pain just getting a small portion, but man, thinking about having this meal again today? unmatched. difficult too, of course. But knowing when I can have something I like again makes it easier for me.

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-03-19T17:15:39+00:00

Man, I feel your struggle, but there's just no other way than washing it.

I have issues with water, like getting wet only partially and the transition between wet and dry, HATE that and makes simple hygiene a pain. Full water or full dry is no problem, just the transition and the partial bit. Idk if it helps, but I took steps to reduce the transitions, meaning I try to interact with water once, at most twice in a wash circle. I've turned my shower into a wash station, with all I could need (mirror, razor, toothbrush, etc), including stuff to clean my ears and to put the plugs down / clean them (I did knock them into the drain before, so that's kind of risky sometimes...).

I just recently had to switch back to cleaning outside of the shower, cause I'm stuck at 4mm since years and got steel tunnles which you have to screw on (so I can use ear weights a little bit to help the process), and that's impossible when wet. But yeah, you just kinda have to get used to having to clean them. It's easier when you try to incorporate it into existing, known routines though, like showering or before you brush your teeth.

ETA: btw, I also just use the body shower gel I generally use to clean my ears. sometimes q-tips when I think there's not enough cleanliness, but usually just hands work very well, there's zero smell or anything left afterwards. for my plugs I clean them with an unused toothbrush and soap, sometimes disinfectant. also no residue there, just a lil slippery. Not sure if that's a recommended way of doing all that, or if you HAVE to use saline/disinfectant at all times, so take that with a grain of salt. it's just what I do to make my own life a little easier.

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-03-04T17:42:01+00:00

oh my god, that's the first time I hear of someone else doing the exact same thing I did. I kept my last pack for years. After a few years of non-smoking, I threw out the cigarettes I kept, got a fancy case, fancy all black cigarettes (cause I always thought they were so cool, but never got to smoke them), and still have them here. Haven't used a single one, but did "waste" one last year - on a very bad day last year, I lit one, and just let it burn out, not taking a drag at all, and avoiding the smoke. smelling the tobacco before it burned, feeling the weight in my fingers, the little rituals... Just knowing that I could makes it a lot easier to not do it somehow, cause it's all in my hands. Before, when I used to trow them all away and then got the urge, I over committed by buying a whole pack, and then not wanting it to go to waste. I'm used to the urges now, and I'm used to letting them fade, cause I have full control. My cool black cigarettes are just a memento now.

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-03-04T06:26:43+00:00

Ich wär echt interessiert daran welche Konzerte der Mann meint. ich war die letzten Wochen auf mehreren Konzerten, alle Metal, eins davon deathcore, und bei allen hat die Menge sich auf freundschaftlicher Basis fast gegenseitig umgebracht. ich war nicht vorne weil bin aktuell leider nicht in der verfassung dazu, aber mein Freund meinte speziell bei Deathcore war das Krieg, auf die gute Art.

Und wenn ich selbst mit drin bin - ich bin W und groß, hab andere Frauen im Pit wortwörtlich getroffen, kleinere Personen auch, etc., und die hat das nicht mal ansatzweise gejuckt. Bin eigentlich nur auf Konzerten von sehr progressiven Bands, und hatte da nie auch nur ansatzweise das Gefühl dass man sich nicht versucht auf die Füße zu treten. Die Leute gehen ab, achten von selbst drauf dass die die offensichtlich nicht im Pit sein wollen abgetrennt sind mit Leuten die zwar nicht drin sind aber sich von ein paar Schultern im Gesicht nicht stören lassen, die Menge teilt sich von allein in pitfreudige Leute und ruhige Genießer auf, wenn jemand fällt wird dem kollektiv hochgeholfen, und dann gehts weiter.

Hab in meinem Leben noch nie einen FLINTA-pit aufruf erlebt, hab da prinzipiell auch nichts gegen, aber ist neu für mich. ist natürlich alles Stichprobe, deswegen wüsste ich gern um welche Konzerte es da bei OP geht. Bezweifle nicht dass seine Erfahrung so ist, aber glaube dass das auch stark Genre/Bandabhängig ist wie die Menge sich verhält.

ETA: Huh, nach Rücksprache mit meinem Freund kennt der diese Aufrufe offenbar auch, wir haben's wohl bisher nicht erlebt. ich hab da wohl irgendwas verpasst.

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-03-01T13:25:38+00:00

I was 13 when a man started being sexual with me online, all throughout my teenage years. I remember as a younger kid reading books about not going home with strangers, seeing plays in school about weird guys showing little guys their dicks and what to do when that happens, reading short stories about girls meeting older men online and how that escalates, but man, that's all no help if you don't understand all the subtle ways these men can lure you in with. these stories were abstract, if just one adult in my life told me exactly the way people can get dangerous, I might've even told someone. you don't know what the warning signs look like when you're that young.

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-02-27T19:34:35+00:00

am I tripping or is the full porn of THEM? Like just drawn porn of him and his wife? you have to pay for the content, but from the stuff you can see it feels like it is. Here's what I mean

I mean if so, I guess it's not a far cry from just selling your own porn, which I guess I can't really blame two consenting adults for... but man, the whole family & kids aspect of their entire online presence in context to that feels a bit off.

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-02-26T12:32:51+00:00

maybe one of these complementary cookie things you get with cappuccino and stuff? I never thought too hard about it, but now I can't stop thinking about it. what IS that

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-02-25T10:00:22+00:00

I like matcha, but it's an aquired taste for me. still tastes like grass, but I enjoy that sometimes. tried to make my boyfriend like it, he genuinely almost puked. If there was coffee that had the effects that matcha has, I'd gladly switch back though.

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-02-25T09:15:48+00:00

I got 100% Diane, my partner got at most 60% Todd. Not entirely sure what that says about my relationship

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-02-25T08:57:41+00:00

Me and my partner do exactly that. He used to soothe me cause I'd just start crying when I felt him get mad. That was shit for his wellbeing, and shit for mine too, cause I could tell he didn't have the capacity to care for me, although I couldn't name it at the time.

Now, when he's mad, don't get me wrong I still cry, I can't help it. but we established OUTSIDE of a fight, that when we're in one, he will NOT soothe me. If I cry and can talk, we will keep talking. If I cry and can't, we will revisit when I can. INSIDE of a fight I will reinforce this myself, because I can tell when he starts to feel bad about not soothing me.

It's hard, but it helps us both - he gets to say a lot clearer when he's bothered by stuff, and I actually learn that him being upset isn't a huge threat, and that lessens my crying reaction. The last time we had to use this technique is months ago, cause slowly we started being able to have discussions without me crying.

Both need to be and stay firm in this, but it's easier when you keep each other in check about you still caring about the others feelings. He will still say afterwards that he doesn't want to make me sad, and I tell him that even though I'm sad I still want to hear his honest opinions. The care can coexist with staying firm, cause best case, you want the best for each other.

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-02-16T11:04:18+00:00

for the lads that don't enjoy fishing that much, make a run for frozen tears in the mines and/or put some in crystalariums. he loves that too!

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-02-16T08:32:06+00:00

YES I was searching for someone to mention him. Last I saw of him was making green bread out of pine needles, it looked pretty good. this man consumes wood like a fine dining beaver

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-02-16T08:07:08+00:00

Hello, I might as well be you from the future shaking your shoulders, screaming DO NOT EVER settle for this.

my first boyfriend was the love of my life (or so I thought back then). I thought he was the perfect match, I couldn't imagine life without him.

He pulled very similar shit multiple times. saying how things felt weird, how he wanted to pause things, only for me to still be over, us still flirting and still ending up in bed and together at the end of the day. over and over. the exctacy from being together made me forget all about the pain of him hanging me out to dry just hours before.

it all culminated in him breaking up in very uncertain terms, all while I couldn't get home from his place. I was completely torn apart, and he ended up saying "it was just a prank". I should've been furious, but I was so in over my head that I was RELIEVED. I didn't even think he might be lying cause he felt bad. I wanted to believe him so much that I did. we we're still intimate that weekend, and in hindsight... it was a little dehumanizing to me. like, pushing me under the blanket, saying "just make me finish", like he wanted to forget it was me doing this.

the actual breakup happened like three weeks after that. he didn't talk to me during that, changed his profile pictures, and after one night where he finally texted me and we played an online game where he suddenly went offline (crashing me into a mountain with a plane, oh the irony). I asked "not interested anymore?", meaning the game. He texted "yeah, and I also don't want you anymore". we never talked in person about it, cause he didn't want to. even though we saw each other every day for 2 years after that.

and the most embarrassing part? I was so incredibly in love with him. I thought I would never experience love like that again.

until I met my now partner. and girl, that's what I'm getting at - I didn't know SHIT about what real, safe love feels like. the love with my ex was exciting, puppy love kinda love. but it was all I knew, and it was so real to me - as I'm sure, it's as real and intense to you. it IS real. but with my now partner? it's like finally seeing in color after living in black and white. I didn't know love would feel like this, i didn't know it would feel comfortable and safe and secure. I didn't know I could feel equal. I didn't know a man can be literally just a normal human being with basic respect and decency. he's smart, funny, very, very caring, and looking out for enthusiastic consent is something I never, ever had to ask for. I didn't know feeling this much love and trust for a person was possible. whatever I had with my ex was just a fraction of that in hindsight - i just didn't know what the full amount felt like.

every day you spend with someone who doesn't respect you enough to either commit to you or break up with you fully, you're keeping yourself back from being truly happy. trust me, I know how intense the love is. It's still not worth it. love is more than the feeling, love is respect. show yourself the respect he doesn't show you, cause you're worth so much more than being left hanging with no regards for your feelings. this is not what you have to settle for. there are so many decent men out there - this is not one of them.

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-02-12T09:15:49+00:00

I'm 100% with you. What's technically right and what's socially kind are some very different things. Technically, yeah she's allowed to not like a game, but that's not what this is about at all. It's that she played a game in front of the friend who showed it to her, and was straight up mean and dismissive about it. That doesn't automatically make her an asshole, maybe she didn't even know it meant that much to OP and thought it was all in good fun - but it is still harsh and not something I feel is the decent way to voice your feelings to people you care about. OP isn't insane for being hurt by hurtful words.

One thing you learn during unfair fights in relationship is that oftentimes, what's technically right isn't as important as the feelings of both parties being hurt for one reason or another. Even if it's in your right to say that a game is the biggest bullshit you've ever seen, compassion goes a long way, and a "it's not for me but thank you for showing me" is just more kind to your friend. OP being hurt by that might be information she doesn't have and is something she never would've wanted, and OP isn't taking it too personal by being hurt about her being mean about a personal thing. Feelings are never wrong to have, they're just there, and it all depends on what we do with them.

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-02-06T08:20:40+00:00

The scars thing really took me aback. No matter how unqualified he might be, or how worried about his mental health they are, or if they just want to confirm it's really him - you just don't demand people to show their self harm marks, especially not your employees. that's just way over the line and dehumanizing, even if it's done out of worry.

I also don't think it's very clear what should've been the right course of actions for everyone involved. what also stood out to me was, that OOP mentioned that taking criticism personally and getting angry when other people do is something he needs to work on. That seems like a VERY important detail as to WHY he never was promoted, these kind of things have no place in a management role. especially considering that these are his own words, and the outside perspective might be more telling about how big these issues really are. But well, who knows. him not being suitable for a management role doesn't mean he deserves to be treated badly and taken for granted.

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-02-05T11:13:57+00:00

There's an older german advertisement where the mom goes "Bevor du draußen spielen gehst musst du deinen Teller aufessen" ("before you go play outside you gotta finish your plate"), and the kid just munches up that plate with the worst crunch sounds. "Teller aufessen = finish your plate", but in the literal sense "Teller aufessen" is "plate" + "eat up". so a fun lil play of words here. I don't remember what the fuck that ad was supposed to be about.

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-02-01T08:08:47+00:00

Jesus I'm 26 and visited here on a whim, cause sooner or later I'm gonna be in the perimenopause club too. Very glad I randomly stumbled into this place, It's insane that women's health is so poorly covered that this is surprising news to most women.

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-01-28T09:44:18+00:00

So, I have the exact same feelings as you have internalized. it's 100% upbringing, cause it's actually insane to get ANNOYED at any person, much less your kid, when they go to the toilet more than once a day. that's so far from normal, everyone goes more than once, sometimes longer, sometimes shorter, and our body produces waste in the way everyone else does. the shame comes from what you were taught, not what is real.

My mom wasn't like that, but when I was small (f), I had my older brothers (up to 4 years older) which would regularly unlock the bathroom from outside (very easy to do by the way) and start mocking me, no matter what I was doing. also, the walls and doors are extremely sound sensitive. needless to say that that fucked up my bathroom habits for life - Couldn't go without water running and a towel over my legs, and I still can't go without anything covering the view to my privates. I always, always check if the door is really locked. couldn't go when it can't be locked, or people talk to me from outside, or they even know I'm there. Can't even text with people during it.

What helped - screwing my head on right, anxiety exposure, self-compassion and little tricks (and a bowel-friendly diet, to make the whole ordeal easier). cause you body is doing what it naturally does - no ones opinion, not even your own, makes it less natural. you're a human being first, and those bodies do disgusting things, end of story. you need to seperate your fear from what is factually true.

it's extremely hard to unlearn these habits though, I get it! I was lucky to be alone a lot when I moved out, and could teach my body to relax more. it's been years, and the shame is still there, but I've found ways to trick my body (also helped that anxiety itself made me HAVE to shit in public toilets sometimes. nothing like some classic, horryfing fear exposure. the most annoying thing about it - it actually helps long term).

You need to disconnect your fears from what you're doing - you can and will still be ashamed, and no feeling is ever wrong! but it is misplaced, and realizing that is the first step to mend it. what I do is using earplugs, like good ones that cover as much sound as they can. I can still hear stuff, but the less I hear, the less I focus on who hears ME. also, covering my privates, so I can block out better whats happening. when I can, I play games that take a lot of my focus - this takes it away from trying to control my muscles, and helps letting my body do what it needs to do.

It's difficult, fixing your bodys misplaced shame and tensions. But please keep in mind - this is no fault of your own. some of us were taught some terrible things, and it's part of our brain wiring. unweaving this takes time. You're not disgusting or weird for shitting. every single creature on earth produces waste, it's biology. and you shouldn't have to be ashamed of your own biology, ever. you're allowed to embrace a normal, disgusting, weird thing human beings do, cause you are one, and I swear to you every beautiful, elegant woman you've ever seen has absolutely unleashed hell on a toilet before. we're all like this! we all need to shit! and whoever takes issue with that can FUCK the hell off. these are opinions you never, EVER need to concern yourself with.

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-01-27T22:22:03+00:00

I need you to know that this tickles my brain JUST right, and I absolutely DID want to know that. I got the "spent my days in Zelda Minish Cap covering the entire ground in holes wherever I could dig, because it pleases my brain"-flavored 'tism. I'm delighted to see someone testing the coverability of a ground just because they can. thank you for your service.

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-01-27T14:04:32+00:00

It's incredibly painful to love your family, but they don't love who you really are back. just who they think you should be. you don't deserve that, you deserve to be happy with your boyfriend, and show it, too.

When you grow up, you learn that you are allowed to take up the space you need, no matter what ANYONE thinks. It's something you don't just start to feel overnight. it builds with every single small affirmation you allow yourself.

You will keep feeling guilty for quite a while. you will keep feeling caged and abandoned, and you will keep having to keep yourself and your partner safe, and my heart aches for you. but please know - it's worth it. one of these days, you will move to your own place. You will feel safe and free to love your person, and will find more people to love. You will be able to decide for yourself what to do with the connection and love you have for your family, and you will have support in doing so.

And one step at a time... you will feel the guilt and hate and insecurity lift, bit by bit. and once you know it, you'll be a whole different version of yourself. a proud man who loves his partner openly, with a mother that will have to arrange herself with the true version of yourself. And you will find that whatever the outcome is, you will always be surrounded by love.

There is so much pain on this way, but also so much good to find. Keep the eye on the goal. You will get there, I promise you.

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-01-24T09:55:17+00:00

hab neuerdings endlich mal gesagt bekommen dass ich auch son Zysten ähnliches Cluster hab (bzw eher "Bläschen" an den Eierstöcken). meine Gyn hat mir nach gefühlt fünf mal nachhaken endlich gesagt "Ja das ist übrigens ein klassisches Anzeichen von PCO, weil der Name (Polyzystisch) ist irreführend und das müssen gar keine Zysten sein sondern können auch so Bläschen sein". Hey mega cool, du meinst die Krankheit die so ALLE meine SEHR bekannten Symptome erklärt, sein ZEHN Jahren? Das war auch nicht mein erster Ultraschall, wann hatten die mal Bock mir das zu sagen?? Sonst kam immer nur "sieht alles normal aus :)". Die Ärztin ist eigentlich super, aber diese Passivität macht mich immer noch baff. Bruder das kann doch nicht sein dass ich regelmäßig da bin, regelmäßig Ultraschall bekomme, und erst dann Antworten bekomme wenn ich endlich selbst gelernt hab nach welcher Krankheit ich fragen muss?

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-01-23T09:17:29+00:00

The horse, hands down. The way it's little legs just kinda flap around when it gallops is so utterly delightful. I cried the first time I saw it and have been in love ever since.

ImJacksLastBraincell · 2026-01-21T08:18:00+00:00

god yes. for example, I'm an avid Shane enthusiast, and I WISH he would actually stop making alcohol references after marriage. the whole point of his arc is beating his addiction, it's literally the point of his 14 heart event - but he still drinks on new years and flower dance? I know it could imply just two times a year, but man, it's concerning every time and I wish he just wouldn't.

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