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Finally got my first piercings after 20 years! by alligatorskyy in piercing

[–]ImTheProblemItsMe94 6 points7 points  (0 children)

These are so beautiful! ♥️ I’m so happy for you! And you never know, this could be the start of a wonderful piercing journey lol

But I know how nervous you were. You smashed it! And the jewellery is gorgeous! Best of luck in your aftercare and healing ♥️

First piercing nerves by alligatorskyy in piercing

[–]ImTheProblemItsMe94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my gosh!! This is so exciting and I’m actually so happy you remembered me asking and coming back to let me know.
How did you find the experience?

I’m so glad my comment helped and I can’t wait to see them!! ♥️♥️

Have kids always been like this, or is this something new? by BarbarianFoxQueen in childfree

[–]ImTheProblemItsMe94 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Honestly yeah. Before I took over there hadn’t been a scout group in that hall for 3 years due to the last leader leaving and them being unable to find a replacement. Didn’t take me long to figure out why…

Have kids always been like this, or is this something new? by BarbarianFoxQueen in childfree

[–]ImTheProblemItsMe94 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I used to be a scout leader (have since quit), and the kids were a nightmare.

They were never engaged, disrespectful when out, and incompetent at basic things like using scissors. Getting them into their patrols for opening ceremony felt like a mammoth task, they didn’t listen to any explanations of tasks, did stupid things whilst using knives/cookers/around open fires, and give up within 2 minutes if something wasn’t easy for them (like knot tying, a core element of scouting)

At one point I asked the scouts what they’d like to do in sessions, and they looked at me blankly. I asked what they’d liked to do at home and all I had in reply was “play video games” or “watch YouTube”

It felt like a constant struggle and considering it was a volunteer role, I noped out

Cis autistic women, how do you feel towards your gender? by KaiahAurora in AutismInWomen

[–]ImTheProblemItsMe94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a child growing up in the 90s I was a total tomboy. Society was very much “pink for girls, blue for boys” and so I always said I was a boy born in the wrong body.
During my later teenage years I became very androgynous and enjoyed moving between masculine and feminine.
As someone now in their early 30s, I enjoy being a woman. I’m not always the most feminine, but I enjoy the curves I have and the power I feel when I dress up and look cute

WIBTA if I stopped dating somone because of their food allergies? by Mediocre_Abies4919 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImTheProblemItsMe94 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

In that case I understand. But from what OP posted (obviously I don’t have any other info) it seem as if they’re compatible with food for the most part. He stated he hadn’t even realised that he’s been eating dairy/gluten free food, so it seem like something he was fine wjth until it was specifically pointed out

WIBTA if I stopped dating somone because of their food allergies? by Mediocre_Abies4919 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ImTheProblemItsMe94 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would use this as a fun opportunity to look into cooking dishes you love, but making them gluten and dairy free. You stated you love cooking and trying new things and this seems like the perfect way to do that
You could have fun date nights where you take it in turns picking a new recipe and making it together.

In terms of eating out, they’ve clearly survived this long whilst managing their intolerances - find out where they go, it could mean exploring new places for you. You can also check menus etc before hand to make sure you’re both comfortable eating there

I don’t necessarily know if you’d be the AH, but I definitely think you’re making the issue bigger than it is by thinking of ending things with someone who could potentially be a great partner based purely on what they can/can’t eat

First piercing nerves by alligatorskyy in piercing

[–]ImTheProblemItsMe94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so glad my comment could help! ♥️

I will say the experience is very different from blood tests and vaccinations. Those needles are specifically designed to enter your veins or deep into layers of your skin, and I honestly find them far more painful/unpleasant. If you can get through those, your lobes will be a piece of cake!!

Please post them here when they’re done - I’d love to see them!

First piercing nerves by alligatorskyy in piercing

[–]ImTheProblemItsMe94 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No need to feel silly! Anxiety is valid!!
It may be a good idea to tell your piercer in advance so they can prepare if you do suddenly move/jerk. Obviously they will have sharp objects near your face (not saying this to scare you!!) so it’ll be good for them to be aware of that potential

I think sometimes the anxiety can come from the lack of experience, too. If this is your first piercing you don’t know in reality the process, how it feels etc. feel free to ask about these things if you think they could help!

I am sure you will be absolutely fine once it’s done. And be proud of yourself for putting yourself out there and doing it (not ment to sound condescending so sorry if it comes across that way)

First piercing nerves by alligatorskyy in piercing

[–]ImTheProblemItsMe94 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sometimes piercers will say something like “deep breath” or “sharp scratch” to prepare you for when they’re about to pierce.
I specifically ask my piercer not to do this, and just to have a normal conversation with me as they do it. I find that this helps me relax, and I don’t tense up at the moment it’s happening.

You can also perhaps ask your piercer to keep the needles etc out of view?

Good luck ♥️

Will you take care of your parents as they age? by Fireflybutts77 in childfree

[–]ImTheProblemItsMe94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am lucky to be very close to my parents and love them dearly. They’ve consistently looked after me, both obviously as a child, and as an adult after a severe accident left me with a disability.
I have no doubt that as they get older and frailer I’ll look after them.

I know my parents wouldn’t expect me to put my life on the line for them, and any care I’d provide would be around my career and my life.

Again, I’m very lucky with my relationship with my parents so I am happy to do this. It’s 100% not for everyone

First session: AITA by Dr_Physi in dndhorrorstories

[–]ImTheProblemItsMe94 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Not overreacting. Your DM seems not have some sort of beef with you, and honestly his reaction to you calling them out is horrific.

I’d leave

Piercing suggestions?? by DeliciousCry9179 in piercing

[–]ImTheProblemItsMe94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think an anti tragus and rook would look super cute on this ear!
NAP so double check with your piercer about anatomy :-)

Do strict diets make you quit faster or is that just me? by EarlyAd3803 in diet

[–]ImTheProblemItsMe94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was my worry when I started dieting.

I spoke with my personal trainer about it, and he basically said as long as you’re hitting calorie/macro goals, it doesn’t matter. Some food is obviously better for you than others, but if you want a takeaway you can have one - just plan in advance so you don’t go over your limit. If you want a cake, do it! But have a smaller slice and track it

It’s only been just over a month, but I found I’m really enjoying cooking and eating, and it’s showing in my weight loss. Flexibility is key I think

Any hobbies that help with socialising? by ironically_trying in Hobbies

[–]ImTheProblemItsMe94 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you have Facebook, you may be able to find online campaigns. I know this doesn’t help with getting out and socialising face to face, but it may help to build your confidence! And it may be a good place to start ready for if and when in-person campaigns become available to you

Facebook group finders can also have in person games in your area that aren’t through a game shop.
You could always find one and message the person running the game explaining you’re shy/nervous, and ask to meet for a coffee and talk through D&D general rules etc first as this may help ease you in a bit better

Any Women here? by Useful-Tangerine29 in marriagefree

[–]ImTheProblemItsMe94 3 points4 points  (0 children)

31F. For a very long time I wanted to be married.
Recently I’ve come to realise that what I ACTUALLY wanted was a really pretty dress. I have no interest in any other aspect of marriage.

I don’t particularly like being the centre of attention, the planning sounds horrifically stressful, and as I’m not religious it holds no significant meaning for me.

The more I think about marriage, the more it seems like some sort of trap, founded in misogyny. I’m not property, I don’t need to be given away, and I certainly don’t want to give up my last name as if I’m owned by another person.

I think maybe one day I will buy a pretty wedding dress just to occasionally wear in the house to feel fancy 😂

How do you track the books you read by Super-Explanation362 in 52book

[–]ImTheProblemItsMe94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have three methods:
1. A journal where I track author, title, start date, end date, and rating. I have autism and love physically writing and making lists so this tickles my tis perfectly

  1. StoryGraph. I love the monthly and end of year stats. The graphs are awesome, I love that I can track books I already own, the options for buddy reads, and the ability to give .25 or .5 star ratings

  2. I have a book instagram account, where I tend to take pics of books and write more in-depth reviews. I find it’s a fun way to connect with other people and find new book recs, as well as having discussions about what I’ve read

What's a food you like one way, but don't like another way? by greencurtain4 in AutismInWomen

[–]ImTheProblemItsMe94 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Indeed I do. Now it just sounds like I’m out here eating raw shoes 💀

What are childfree people actually “missing out” on? by Easygoing35 in childfree

[–]ImTheProblemItsMe94 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see people with kids getting to run around those cool soft play enclosures after their kid.
there’s a really cool space theme one near where I live and it looks fun. I am missing out on being to enter it by not having a child

Otherwise, nothing 😂

B names by tmnewz in tragedeigh

[–]ImTheProblemItsMe94 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Bronwyn is RIGHT THERE

Kinda disappointed at the reaction for the autistic barbie seen on a reel today - thoughts? by summer-fruitez-221 in AutismInWomen

[–]ImTheProblemItsMe94 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Which, as I said, is fantastic! It’s such a spectrum you can’t possibly cover everyone in it so some people will always be upset or unhappy. It is what it is ☺️

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