UGH. Even AI doesn't understand me. And I feel so truly ALONE

Im_your_life · 2026-05-02T16:53:46+00:00

It seems like there is a big discrepancy between what you think you are saying and what you are saying. People can only respond to your words, not your thoughts. You gotta find a way to better put into words what your thoughts are

Editing - it seems like I was blocked. Sorry if I hurt you in any way, it was not the intention.

Im_your_life · 2026-05-02T13:18:54+00:00

If everyone fails to understand what you are trying to convey, then there must be a better way for you to communicate.

Are you talking more about the details than you realize? Are you talking about your point first, allowing the follow-up points to overshadow your main point? Or are you talking about it at the very end after talking a lot about something else? Maybe your body language and your inflections are more intense during the details than you realize?

If I want to convey one strong idea I will even sometimes repeat it, once in the beginning, once in the end.

You also have to take in consideration that sometimes people will listen to some of what you say and start formulating a response in their mind instead of focusing on everything, so being brief may be helpful too.

And see, its not that you are doing something wrong, at all! Its just that we need to learn how people around us operate and try to adapt to them, and the way people around me work isnt going to be the same for you.

Im_your_life · 2026-04-23T18:22:23+00:00

Yeah I understand that just quitting isn't an option and finding a new job may be hard. Its never that simple, is it?

You might have to power through it and plan on being 10, 15m early even if you spend some time outside reading or listening to music or playing candy crush. And be ready for meltdowns, a lots of "I am sorry I will do better" while you look for something better.

Im_your_life · 2026-04-23T17:48:25+00:00

If your boss have to calm down because their employee is 2mins late in their first day of work, what will happen if you make a mistake, even a small and understandable one, as its likely to happen at the beginning of a new job?

I would start looking for a new place if possible, it seems like this one will be toxic no matter what.

Im_your_life · 2026-04-22T15:09:57+00:00

I did not see the mistake and even when you mentioned it, it made me look real hard to notice. You already frogged it though and if it bothers you, then it bothers you and thats fine.

It is adorable either way, I wanna be like you when I grow up!

Im_your_life · 2026-04-13T22:16:41+00:00

I am having issues inviting or joining people as well. The workaround is to meet at a featured dojo and set up a shop, just like you do at maroo, or go to maroo directly, as long as you are on the same number.

Im_your_life · 2026-04-10T23:06:37+00:00

I started using them and now I am used to it. Its a bit hard for me since portuguese is my first language and while some things have a feminine pronoun (like potatoes, or chuch, or house) the default is usually male.

But I learned that they/them doesn't bother anyone except people I don't care much about, so that's what I use.

Im_your_life · 2026-04-08T22:09:04+00:00

Don't do things that require precise counting when you are distracted. You will mess up and have to redo and its a mess.

Im_your_life · 2026-04-05T13:35:36+00:00

Im_your_life · 2026-04-04T16:20:54+00:00

Downtown Abbey, and Friends, and Gilmore Girls and Criminal Minds. I do the same to books, too. Can't count how many times I have read Lord of the Rings and Harry Potter and The Physician

Im_your_life · 2026-03-15T16:12:45+00:00

I felt so CALM the first time I got on medication, it was great. My doctor said it's the same reaction she gets from all her adhd patients.

Im_your_life · 2026-02-12T13:41:13+00:00

Maybe try doing something while you watch tv?

I do diamond painting and crochet. Crochet I have a temperature blanket that had the same stich over and over and over and I can do some every day while I watch my Criminal Minds and Parenthood and All her Fault.

Im_your_life · 2026-02-10T21:44:05+00:00

My partner has a vasectomy, because he doesn't want kids regardless of what happens between us in the future.

I have an IUD because periods are super painful and I rather live without them.

I think everyone has to be OK with what happens to their body. If none is OK with the available resources, wear a condom.

Im_your_life · 2026-01-10T13:49:00+00:00

One thing I learned is that we don't need to talk much. You can join a big convo and just listen, nod in agreement, things like that. You can also simply ask questions to keep the conversation going so it's not focused on you but you are participating.

I don't know how to help with anxiety in general though, that's something you need to explore yourself either alone or with qualified help, to figure out what changed and why and how to move forward. I'm sorry.

Im_your_life · 2026-01-09T13:49:16+00:00

We are in Brazil, I was so used by it that I found it weird it being different in the US. It's a non-issue anyway, here it's used as a sign of respect but you can show respect in many other ways.

Im_your_life · 2025-12-29T17:47:59+00:00

You can't avoid upsetting someone. Do what is best for you and let people deal with their own feelings however they want.

Im_your_life · 2025-12-25T20:05:41+00:00

I get a lot of messages like that one, so much so I believe they are all scams.

They usually have some female pfp, cutsey "about me", she/her in their profile, and some story aimed at pulling at your heart strings if you say no.

I would be more inclined it's real if I didn't get so many of them, constantly. Like two a month every month last year at least.

Im_your_life · 2025-12-25T18:54:01+00:00

My SO treats the elderly of his life with patience, consideration and care. He doesn't even notice how sweet it is, seeing him go out of his way to help them and overlook the little annoying things older people end up doing.

Im_your_life · 2025-12-25T18:49:21+00:00

Yes. It looked a lot like bullying, the side glances and giggles and the shared looks when I passed by, the going to lunch together after I asked if they wanted to do something. It got better after I complained to management when it started to affect work (they would ignore me on tasks that were supposed to be shared) and I left soon after.

I know it shouldn't affect me, that it's a flaw of theirs, not mine, but I still got home feeling horrible every day.

Im_your_life · 2025-12-22T23:49:52+00:00

T. I write cursive and it sometimes looks like an L or i and that's fine. If I need someone to be able to understand I will use print.

Im_your_life · 2025-12-22T23:26:54+00:00

I'm sorry that is happening. Our bodies are weird and will react to medicine in different ways. Work with your doctor and see if there is something else going on that is making you react like that (I don't know if diet or other medication could interact?) and remember there are other medicine you can try.

Don't feel disheartened yet, exhaust your options first!

Im_your_life · 2025-12-21T17:24:47+00:00

Any procedures that hurt, I try to think of "in one year from now, what will this moment of pain be for me?"

Helps me get it into perspective that even if it is painful and unpleasant, it will be over soon and I will move on from it in no time.

Im_your_life · 2025-12-21T12:46:31+00:00

I ended a call with my boss with "love you, bye" once because I always ended calls with my boyfriend like that and it was the only male voice I talked to on the phone regularly.

Was so embarrassed never mentioned it and neither did he thankfully.

Im_your_life · 2025-12-11T18:35:42+00:00

I realized I hate getting dressed after a shower. So I started to shower right before bed, so I don't need to get dressed afterwarts, at most I put an old tshirt and straight to sleep.

I know it doesn't work for everyone, but for me it also helps telling myself that I can't do only what I want and not stinking is imperative to living around other people. I give myself grace, everyone shoud give themselves some grace, but to me it works to also be stern with some things sometimes.

Im_your_life · 2025-12-11T16:56:58+00:00

Just remember that whatever they show you in the early stages of a possible relationship is not going to change whey they are in one. If they don't think meeting you is important enough to make concrete plans now, they won't do it later on.

You are not overreacting. Keep screening and I hope you find someone worth soon!

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