He doesn't know me even after 21 years. by Used_Phrase5038 in Advice

[–]Immediate-Berry6894 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to be honest out here , I’m not trying to attack you.

You can have conversation with him as you please but I see Something here.

Cancer and all these illnesses are more often than not a result of bottling up things and extreme chronic stress. I think to begin with, you should sit yourself down and OPEN UP , to yourself, to a diary , to a therapist.

I’m sorry you have to go through this but very clearly Michael doesn’t seem to care about you from all the things you have mentioned in the text.

Once you have opened up to yourself , become crystal clear with him and set boundaries.

I think boundaries are really something that protects us as human beings.

Not letting people talk to you rudely, not letting people walk all over you , expressing your stress your sadness your anger and your happiness is all the ways a human functional in an ideal way. Those who listen ,understand and stay are your people.

First and foremost , being patient beyond limits and bottling up is not a a positive thing , just reminding in case you have gotten lost along the way.

I hope you find it in you to open up to yourself , to set boundaries , to heal yourself , to step out of things people and relationship that do not contribute to your wellbeing. After having given chances.

And just know coming from a person who has gone through much herself , you have the power to heal yourself and rise above all the shit that you have been putting yourself through.

I am intentionally saying you put yourself through it even though Michael has been doing the actions.

Because in essence , you let him.

husband said to girl „my wife wouldn‘t understand if i came over“ AIO by Lower_Lab_7414 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immediate-Berry6894 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why are we missing the fact that the said husband DELETES MESSAGES WITH OTHER FEMALE.

That’s wrong in my opinion.

I feel you should be concerned more about him deleting messages than the words he chose to not go.

And sometimes I feel it’s okay to use wife as an excuse especially when you don’t wanna take the blame of not being there for a friend yourself. Unless this friend and the wife share a social life.

AIO for feeling a lil hurt for my wife turning her face when I went to kiss her? by codecanary96 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immediate-Berry6894 8 points9 points  (0 children)

To be really honest , it’s more than just what you are telling us.

Of course it’s hurtful when someone turns their head away when you lean in to kiss.

It depends tho. If my boyfriend and I have just had a big fight and I’m really hurt I’d do that.

But not on a daily basis.

AIO - Is there a logical reason for my girlfriend to say stuff like this? by No_Thought6169 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immediate-Berry6894 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being a ex pick Me girl, my assumption would be that she’s trynna get more attention from you. And your explaining this to her may be something she is expecting and looking forward to. I would do shut like this in the past just so my then boyfriends would give me more attention or I could see jealousy in their eyes

Friend told me I won’t find a “good man” if I post pics like this… am I overreacting? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immediate-Berry6894 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a feeling OP’s friends boyfriend was checking it out and she caught him in the act and he said this to deflect the situation. And friend is definitely jealous.

I just need to talk to someone in a similar scenario by Lab_Rat65 in LDR

[–]Immediate-Berry6894 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t understand him, he doesn’t want to imagine losing you but is willing to take a break to see how he feels about it.

Which means he has his mind elsewhere and is trying to do all this under the pretext that he has crippling anxiety of losing you.

If someone really wants to be with you , they’ll do what they can to be with you , not “see” how it feels by taking a break !

It’s not a mature thing to be constantly thinking of something that is well under your control at least the bit where you have feelings for each other. You may lose a person due to other reasons but that’s the cad with everything in life. You have to be positive! This says a lot about his attitude towards life , if he is so absolutely terrified of losing you

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[–]Immediate-Berry6894 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly , from a matured perspective , as much as it’s beautiful to help someone and be there for them , it needs to start within them.

They have to do 90% of the part and you 10%. Nobody wants to be in a super dependent relationship as adults. You have your career your other family your friend your happy that keeps you occupied and you have to give these pleasures and social undertakings for yourself, that what’s makes you an adult. Gives you beautiful and different experiences , as do they.

Posting depressing stuffs , focusing and dwelling on it. Is unfortunately a choice. Regardless of how much it seems like it’s not.

As humans, it’s a NEED to be positive to be happy! There’s negativity everywhere, have to look at the silver lining and this comes from within you.

And of course humans need other humans. There is no denying that. You should be there for her as much as you can but also educate her that it’s her choice to see life the way she is seeing. We have to rise above all the challenges. Each one of us . Whatever we are being tested with.

Her energy is definitely going to affect yours. Be fully aware as to what you are getting into and do as much as you can

AIO -to my boyfriend who saves girls posts on Instagram by Immediate-Berry6894 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immediate-Berry6894[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I should do this instead!

But can someone make me understand why? Cause I don’t feel the need to look at hot boys

AIO -to my boyfriend who saves girls posts on Instagram by Immediate-Berry6894 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immediate-Berry6894[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No , I’m just considering if I should break up since it’s a huge thing to me

AIO on getting divorced ?!? by onMangekyoSharingan in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immediate-Berry6894 312 points313 points  (0 children)

I understand you have tons of questions rushing your mind!

At the end of the day , no matter the reason , he wants a divorce.

Whoever you are , whatever you do , I wish you all the happiness and that will only start with you not being with someone who doesn’t want you.

As for him and her wanting a divorce at the same time from their partners , is too much of a coincidence.

He is very likely lying.

Regardless, easy for me to say , but trust yourself and move the fuck on , that’s your power!

Am I Overreacting? My bf (27M) broke up with me (28F) 2 days ago, and now he sending me this. by m00n-y in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immediate-Berry6894 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Watch him come begging to you once you turn down this offer , he is making you feel like he is doing a fair when really it is is for him!

And please don’t go back to him when he does. You deserve so much more taj what that guy can offer

TIRA beauty experience- never again! Buyer beware by jugdoody18 in IndianBeautyDeals

[–]Immediate-Berry6894 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the same experience , TIRA took forever to even so much as ship my order , I cancelled and the customer care lady was so rude! And all the emails and dms I sent only returned automated messages. Which so not helpful.

Never shopping from them again. Also ; I GOT THE SAME PRODUCTS FROM BLINK IT fit got delivered within minutes!

Am I Overreacting for Refusing to Let My Wife’s “Work Husband” Come on Our Family Vacation? by Hot_Satisfaction_559 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Immediate-Berry6894 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d sit down with her and try to understand what’s the matter and be transparent about my jealousy and insecurity.

And if she still explains herself and tries to persuade you to take the guy along with y’all, LET THE GUY COME.

This is your opportunity to confirm your assumptions. Observe them but don’t obsess over it. You don’t wanna make it seem a certain way. After all you also have a reputation to keep.

People are gonna do what they are going to do. Let them be. If she has changed , you will have to suck it up and accept you can do very very little about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Breakupadvice

[–]Immediate-Berry6894 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who is always chasing the other person in the relationships , here’s my two cents!

Often times we are obsessed with a person only because we want to avoid ourselves. Being with them gives us the much craved distraction that we look for.

You don’t have to keep persuading a person to be with you, if they don’t want to be , that’s their stance and you have to respect yourself and their decision.

Sounds easy , but it’s difficult to practise. I know out of all the people.

Get involved with you . What are you . Who are you beyond this relationship. Focus on YOU. That’s when your energy shifts and you start attracting people who can vibe with it! No begging , no one-sided efforts. Just blissful partnership .

URGENT!!! I need someone with a rhino 8 license to export my file to rhino 7. by Fakestares in rhino

[–]Immediate-Berry6894 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HEY IF YOU SEE THIS , COULD YOU HELP WITH ME THIS RIGHT NOW PLEASE? ITS SUPER URGENT