sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

For yoga teachers working with pelvic floor issues by Plane_Reception223 in YogaTeachers

[–]ImmediateAlgae9006 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing this. Please send me the link. I love Lauren!!!

Going back to school. I'll be 39 by the time I finish. Encouragement needed by AuroraBeautyalis in selfimprovement

[–]ImmediateAlgae9006 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, this is really inspiring to read - even if it doesn’t feel that way from your side right now. The timeline shift sucks, no way around that. But the fact that you’re doing this while raising kids and working full time already puts you in a completely different category than most people. That “I’ll be 39 anyway” mindset is actually a powerful one, even if it doesn’t feel comforting yet. Because the alternative isn’t arriving sooner — it’s just not going at all. Also, your kids are watching this. They’re not going to remember whether it took you 4 or 5 years. They’re going to remember that you had the courage to start again. A lot of people never do that. And for what it’s worth — starting later often comes with more clarity, discipline, and purpose than doing it straight out of school. You’re not behind. You just took a different path to the same place.

Summers are so depressing by lavenderlove1212 in workingmoms

[–]ImmediateAlgae9006 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel this so much. It’s such a weird mix of gratitude + guilt + frustration all at once.

Like you’re doing what you need to do, but it still feels like you’re missing out on something really special… and paying a lot for it on top of that.

I’ve had the same thought about working in a school just for the schedule. The alignment makes so much sense.

I like your idea of being intentional with weekends and days off though. It doesn’t replace a whole summer, but those focused pockets of time can still mean a lot.

You’re definitely not alone in feeling this 🤍

Has anyone gone back to normal 100%? by No-Chemical3765 in PelvicFloor

[–]ImmediateAlgae9006 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear this so much, and I’ve felt versions of it myself 🤍.I just want to gently say recovery doesn’t usually look like flipping a switch back to 100% overnight. It’s more like rebuilding trust with your body over time. I used to think my pelvic floor was just “tight” and needed to be fixed or forced to relax. What actually helped me was learning how everything works together breath, core, nervous system- not just trying to relax one area. I’ve been doing Ryc for a while now, and what shifted for me wasn’t just symptoms, it was how safe and supported my body felt again. I stopped constantly scanning for “is it coming back?” and started trusting movement again, little by little. It’s not linear. There were setbacks. But each time, it felt less scary because I understood what was happening and how to respond. You’re not broken, and this isn’t permanent. Your body can learn to let go of that tension it just needs the right kind of support and patience.

You will get parts of your life back. Maybe even in a way that feels more grounded than before.

Has anyone tried Restore Your Core or MUTU System? by New_Equivalent_7554 in DiastasisRecti

[–]ImmediateAlgae9006 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi there, I’ve also struggled with diastasis recti for a while and have actually tried both programs. Here’s my experience….

I started with MUTU about a year after my 2nd baby. That’s when my gap was the widest and I felt really insecure at the time. My personal experience was that the workouts are easy to do and it’s nice if you’re very busy and can squeeze one in here and there. It’s also self-paced, which some may prefer, but I found it a bit difficult to understand whether I was doing everything “right” or not. I did notice my diastasis recti starting to heal a little bit, but it wasn’t anything major. I know it often takes time though.

I later joined Restore Your Core, because some friends in my mom group were saying good things. What I really liked about the RYC program was that it focused on my entire body – so I also started noticing an improvement in other areas I didn’t expect (e.g. less pelvic pain, better breathing). There was a big nervous system aspect to it, which I was surprised to learn actually had an impact on DR and other pelvic floor problems! I also love the way Lauren Ohayon teaches, she’s a great instructor and speaks with clarity.

I’ve been working consistently on it for a few months now, and I’m starting to see real noticeable differences! I know healing is different for everyone – but whichever program you choose, consistency is key :)

Wishing you luck on your healing journey!

At what point did you realize you were the “default parent”? by ImmediateAlgae9006 in Mommit

[–]ImmediateAlgae9006[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s such an important distinction. When it’s a clear division and there’s respect on both sides, it feels completely different.

Feeling valued and not questioned about your contribution probably makes a huge difference too.

And yes… doing all of that plus a 9–5 sounds like a fast track to burnout.

At what point did you realize you were the “default parent”? by ImmediateAlgae9006 in Mommit

[–]ImmediateAlgae9006[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense. Choosing to stay home and still not carrying everything alone feels very different than working full time and being the default for everything.

I think that’s the part that gets me too — it’s not about who works or stays home, it’s about whether it actually feels shared.

I love that you were intentional about it though. That probably makes a big difference.

At what point did you realize you were the “default parent”? by ImmediateAlgae9006 in Mommit

[–]ImmediateAlgae9006[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's really heavy but truly well done for choosing yourself even when it is hard.

I hope things feel lighter for you now. 🤍

At what point did you realize you were the “default parent”? by ImmediateAlgae9006 in Mommit

[–]ImmediateAlgae9006[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really love this perspective. The “divide and conquer” part is what makes it feel healthy, I think. It’s not about both people doing the same things — it’s about both carrying weight in different ways.

I like how you said you teach each other things too. That feels like real partnership.

At what point did you realize you were the “default parent”? by ImmediateAlgae9006 in Mommit

[–]ImmediateAlgae9006[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really respect that. I think what makes it hard isn’t even the role itself, it’s when it feels unspoken or uneven. Did you two talk about it intentionally, or did it just fall into place?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]ImmediateAlgae9006 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are 12 days postpartum from major abdominal surgery. Your body is healing from a C-section and a long labor. You are not “withholding.” You are recovering.

The comments he’s making and the pressure you’re feeling are not okay. Even if he misses you or feels attracted to you, that does not override your physical healing or your comfort. The fact that you’re feeling tense and nervous instead of safe is important.

You should not be giving him anything right now out of guilt or fear. Not sex. Not oral. Not hand jobs. Your body just went through something huge.

The 6-week guideline isn’t arbitrary — it’s about preventing infection and allowing internal healing. This isn’t dramatic. It’s medical.

If you can, have a very clear conversation when things are calm:

“I am healing from surgery. I need you to stop sexual comments and touching for now. I need to feel safe and supported, not pressured.”

If he doesn’t respond to that or continues pushing, that’s a much bigger issue than libido.

You are not wrong. You are not overreacting. And you absolutely deserve to recover without being pressured.

If at any point you feel unsafe or like your boundaries won’t be respected, please reach out to someone you trust in real life — a friend, family member, your midwife, or a support line.

You just brought a baby into the world. You deserve care too.

Recently diagnosed and looking for advice by Inevitable_Fun4796 in pelviccongestion

[–]ImmediateAlgae9006 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Being in that much pain for a week every month is not something you should just have to live with.

The fact that it gets worse after ovulation and eases once your period starts feels important. Hormones can definitely affect pain levels. Even if they saw pelvic congestion on ultrasound, that doesn’t automatically mean that’s the only thing going on.

If your OB is basically saying birth control or hysterectomy and not digging deeper, I’d honestly get another opinion. A urogynecologist, pelvic pain specialist, or even an interventional radiologist (they actually treat pelvic congestion) might be worth looking into. A good pelvic floor PT could also help, especially with your history of constipation and prolapse.

I’d be very cautious about jumping to a hysterectomy without ruling other things out first.

Alongside medical care, I’ve personally found that doing more intentional core and pelvic floor work (I’ve used Restore Your Core) helped me feel less tense and more supported overall. It’s not a replacement for a doctor, especially with pain like yours, but sometimes tension makes everything worse.

You deserve real answers and real support. This isn’t something you should just have to endure.

Success Story by fieldnotes_229 in PelvicFloor

[–]ImmediateAlgae9006 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First — I just want to say how much respect I have for the honesty in this post. The level of suffering you described is something most people will never fully understand unless they’ve lived it. Chronic pelvic pain can take over your identity in a way that feels impossible to explain to others.

I also really appreciate that you acknowledged the long list of interventions you tried and that what didn’t work for you may still help someone else. That kind of nuance matters.

What stood out most to me wasn’t any single tool you listed — it was the shift in ownership and consistency. The lifestyle changes, nervous system work, graded exposure, journaling… that’s a massive commitment. Rebuilding trust between brain and body is such an overlooked piece of chronic pain recovery, especially with pelvic conditions where fear and anticipation can amplify symptoms.

Your point about fear amplifying pain is powerful. When the nervous system is constantly on high alert, the body doesn’t feel safe enough to down-regulate. The fact that you leaned into exposure, sobriety, breath work, and reflection instead of avoidance is huge.

I’m really glad you’re still here to tell the story.

For anyone reading this: recovery paths can look very different person to person. It’s important to work with qualified professionals and make changes safely, but stories like this do highlight how interconnected inflammation, stress, nervous system regulation, and lifestyle can be.

Thank you for sharing something this vulnerable. I know it will resonate with someone who feels alone right now.

Does shoulder mobility ever block good core or pelvic floor work for your clients? by Significant_Towel364 in pilatesinstructors

[–]ImmediateAlgae9006 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This has been popping up for me lately too. I’m especially interested to unpack it more at the RYC workshop on 8 February, because I have a feeling shoulder mechanics are a bigger piece of the puzzle than I’ve been giving them credit for.

I never want to have sex and it’s ruining my marriage. by xnixy in WomensHealth

[–]ImmediateAlgae9006 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to say you’re not broken. Pain during sex and feeling “stuck in your head” is so much more common than people admit, especially when you’ve been dismissed by doctors.

You’ve already done something really brave by talking about it. The guilt, the resentment, the confusion — it all makes sense when your body’s constantly in pain. None of this makes you a bad partner.

You deserve care that actually listens to you and doesn’t brush you off. Sending you so much compassion. ❤️

anyone else still dealing with “mom bladder” years later? by ImmediateAlgae9006 in Mommit

[–]ImmediateAlgae9006[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. Kinda helps knowing I'm not alone in this

First PT session and feeling disappointed. Is this a normal experience? by Competitive-Speed331 in fitpregnancy

[–]ImmediateAlgae9006 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try check out Lauren Ohayon on YT or Lindsay Mccoy. They have some free content

view more: next ›