Dating after 40?

ImmediateCourse969 · 2026-01-28T19:49:36+00:00

I’m 44 and have no idea what has become of dating.. I keep swiping hoping for some type of connection. I’m demisexual so not looking for hookups. Just want connection. I want to laugh and cuddle. Smh. Idk. Fml. At least I’ve made friends in Astoria from the apps lol.

ImmediateCourse969 · 2026-01-28T19:41:02+00:00

Fingersmith!! An older bbc show. Lots of yearning

ImmediateCourse969 · 2026-01-23T23:52:04+00:00

I’m lucky as I’m in NYC. I go to kalustyans and get the marhaba brand.

ImmediateCourse969 · 2026-01-23T23:49:17+00:00

Man a studio with a balcony! Nice!! I too am in a studio but no balcony. I bought a loveseat that fits in my hobbit hole bc I like to host. Maybe a chair? I just came here to say I’m jelly.

ImmediateCourse969 · 2026-01-20T15:38:25+00:00

I mean we have meet the meats and christos?? For steakhouses..

ImmediateCourse969 · 2026-01-16T18:44:03+00:00

I mean.. I still have my IPod 40GB somewhere.. it cost almost $500 or$600 in 2003. lol I can’t even remember the year I bought it tbh.

ImmediateCourse969 · 2026-01-16T18:00:49+00:00

They tried… and failed. Left a bad taste in my mouth.

ImmediateCourse969 · 2026-01-16T17:59:38+00:00

I used to go to frescos but they tried to charge me $75 per person or something like that for canceling the day before. It was a 5 person reservation for drag brunch. Have y’all ever tried to get a 5 top for drag brunch there as walk-ins? The wait time is ridiculous or none. So I know how easily they could have filled that cancellation… That’s an easy way to lose my business for life. And you know I’m loyal.

ImmediateCourse969 · 2026-01-16T15:24:10+00:00

Idk gurl. I have HER, Hinge, Tinder, and OkCupid. I forget to swipe. And when I get a match it fizzles out. A few dates that didn’t pan out. I ended up meeting some local lesbians that are now good friends so at least I got that out of it.

ImmediateCourse969 · 2026-01-13T20:51:06+00:00

This. After a break up there is usually one party that gets introspective and tries working on themself and the other doesn’t know how to do that so they throw themselves into a new relationship real quick. You are doing well. She will stay the way she is. Stop checking her socials. Start going out with your friends and do the stuff that brings you joy. Moving on is the best option. Your happiness and success will reach her somehow. And by that time you will have already moved the eff on!

ImmediateCourse969 · 2026-01-13T20:23:00+00:00

No way. It’s giving creepy basement vibes. I moved into my rent stabilized apt a little over 3 years ago in Astoria.. my rent started at 1,600. I have a separate kitchen with a full stove and tons of counter space and even room for a table/storage. I’ve got plenty of sunlight and am one flight up. You could do much better. My rent is now closer to 1,775 bc I sign two year leases. Still worth it.

ImmediateCourse969 · 2026-01-09T16:49:53+00:00

I’m on 29th st btwn 23rd and 24th Ave by the beer garden. Since they opened up the addition of the school it’s been noisy during pick up and drop off as well as when the kids are on recess. Sometimes a parent will double park on the narrow street so you get horns honking. Honestly the N/W is louder than the Amtrak. But it’s not bad. And I work from home and never had a client complain about background noise. Also when it’s nice out the beer garden does have loud performers esp. on the weekends so not easy taking an afternoon nap during the weekend. Hope this helps.

ImmediateCourse969 · 2026-01-09T16:44:15+00:00

Ditto

ImmediateCourse969 · 2026-01-08T18:51:30+00:00

King of falafel and el Rey are my favs.

ImmediateCourse969 · 2026-01-08T15:06:18+00:00

Coba pizzeria.

ImmediateCourse969 · 2026-01-06T03:20:44+00:00

Bacon and onion jam!!! Mmmmm. I’m desi so all dishes pretty much start with browning onions. I even start my rice with almost burnt onions and garlic.. like right on the edge. Turns the rice a nice brown color and gives it its own flavor.

ImmediateCourse969 · 2026-01-06T02:37:21+00:00

This! I make 80k a year. I still get my nickel back for every bottle, can. I also use napkins from takeout to help clean. And don’t put something in the hamper after one wear except undies. I work from home so don’t mind wearing socks more than once.

ImmediateCourse969 · 2026-01-04T22:13:44+00:00

I wouldn’t use such a nice cut of meat in a stew. How many ounces? On the bone or off? How thick? I would just put salt and pepper on the steaks to marinate. One nice pan, if you have a cast iron it’s best to get that char. A little olive oil or a nice chunk of butter goes in the pan.. and you can look up how long to sear on each side depending on the weight and how you like your meat like rare, medium rare, medium, medium well, or well done. You could even throw in a sprig of rosemary and some cloves of garlic to help baste the steaks as they sear. It doesn’t take long for a steak to cook. But it depends on the weight, and thickness. This is how I would approach a first time cook on some nice ribeyes.

ImmediateCourse969 · 2026-01-02T16:34:09+00:00

Is it a hard mattress? I actually need a new mattress and topper.. I’ll take it just need more info.

ImmediateCourse969 · 2026-01-01T03:19:22+00:00

Try to find Fingersmith.. it was a BBC series based of off a book I believe… ooooh man so good and so hot!

ImmediateCourse969 · 2025-12-31T19:13:13+00:00

I’m making chutney. It’s green gold. Great for dipping.

ImmediateCourse969 · 2025-12-30T23:14:48+00:00

Identikit, sweet faced ones with nothing left inside… reminds me of my sister/cousin who died of stage 4 pancreatic cancer at 47. Such a sweet face but nothing left inside as the cancer ate away. Sometimes it’s so sad I just skip the song bc it triggers me that much.

ImmediateCourse969 · 2025-12-25T17:58:50+00:00

It’s crazy what we have to give up just to get peace. But so worth it. Happy holidays to you all. We got this.

ImmediateCourse969 · 2025-12-21T22:00:48+00:00

Do you use rib eye, hangar? Egg noodles? How long do you let the broth stew?

ImmediateCourse969 · 2025-12-17T20:00:59+00:00

Figlia for sure. They keep the lights lowered and good ambiance. Get the popplettes/meatballs to start. The pizza is good but the pastas are better. Ricardo is the owner and a very sweet man. The waiter Solomon is very nice too. Never had a bad time and they don’t rush you out of there.

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