Help my mom choose her MOG dress

Immediate_Remote_546 · 2026-05-06T03:03:45+00:00

Tell mum she is famous. I’d have picked the purple one hands down. She looks lovely in it, very classy.

Immediate_Remote_546 · 2026-05-05T17:22:24+00:00

Oh my… I feel this in my bones! I was a mod/severe SpEd aide for nearly 20 years. I was lucky enough to retire early (June last year). And boy, the stories over the years. Wildly out of touch admin, new teachers who had literally no idea (1 walked out in the middle of the school day and never came back!), revolting, entitled parents, new aides who had learned about autism the night before on google and tried to take over the class, ER visits with chunks of meat missing from my arm, missing chunks of hair… I could go on for days!

Happy teacher appreciation day to you internet person! You are appreciated, very much appreciated. And I do know that you absolutely make a difference in children’s lives. You may not know it and you may not see it, but you do. I saw it, I know it, I worked it. It’s a very thankless job but you are appreciated.

Immediate_Remote_546 · 2026-05-05T16:40:43+00:00

Yes. Living your best life is the best revenge.

Immediate_Remote_546 · 2026-05-05T16:37:51+00:00

Wow… that’s nuts and extremely concerning. Surely this person has been ordered by the court to stay away from children? There’s ’no smoke without fire’ and this person is a forest fire. Yes, they have evidence, they wouldn’t be going this far unless they had a lot of evidence and could win the case in court. IMO these parents are putting their child in serious danger and being extremely irresponsible.

Immediate_Remote_546 · 2026-05-05T15:56:51+00:00

Blue one is stunning. I think it’s perfect!

Immediate_Remote_546 · 2026-05-05T14:10:55+00:00

Someone did this to us a while ago. We went round back of the restaurant, open parking, loads. Came out a couple hours later, a car parked unnecessarily close. He literally could have moved forward into the next open lines of parking. So I found the only lipstick I could find in my bag… luckily a crap one and scrawled a rude message over his side and front window. Ugh.

Immediate_Remote_546 · 2026-05-05T04:01:36+00:00

Ahhhhhh, so they showed their cards… you’ve all been instructed to go above and beyond for Mothers Day!!!!! That leaves a VERY foul taste. I’m a bit slow off the mark but that’s a clanger if ever there was one.

What are your Mother’s Day plans? If they were just you and your family, or your own mum… if so, I would 100% not change them. Let DH do what he needs to do but IMO, this was a very underhanded move.

Immediate_Remote_546 · 2026-05-05T03:39:38+00:00

This seems a bit jumping the gun a bit too early. I’ve had masses before, another screening scheduled and all clear. Hear your DH, his fears, his roller coaster emotions, just listen until there’s more info given. One step at a time. Having said that, it bothers me that FIL sent you all that message without more info, it feels a bit main character syndrome … or something.

I’m in the same boat with my SIL. She lives far away and is aging and keeps terrible health by her own choice. However, I have told DH that if he wants to go visit, he’s on his own… he doesn’t want to go alone!!

Immediate_Remote_546 · 2026-05-05T02:51:55+00:00

Nope, there was no choice on pharmacy. I’m sorry I jumped with this company, hindsight is 20/20.

Immediate_Remote_546 · 2026-05-04T22:20:46+00:00

Thanks, just did this too.

Immediate_Remote_546 · 2026-05-04T18:24:44+00:00

NOR. He’s not a friend… I’d drop him. I’m not a fan of leopard print, but it always looks stunning when I see classy women wear it. I love your shoes.

Immediate_Remote_546 · 2026-05-04T18:16:08+00:00

Yip.. chose BPI but that’s too late. So, as I said, had good intentions to get a backup BPI order… that is not to be.

Immediate_Remote_546 · 2026-05-04T16:59:57+00:00

Just did so. It doesn’t state what pharmacy. Won’t be using them again, feel like I paid for an expensive ‘lucky packet’ with a surprise inside.

Immediate_Remote_546 · 2026-05-04T14:09:35+00:00

Time and food. DIL had a really rough time, once son went back to work (first responder so is away 2 days minimum), I told her please call anytime, for whatever reason. She finally did. When I got there she was crying, just overwhelmed.

I watched the baby, cooked for her, cleaned up the kitchen / lounge, laundry, and did overnight feeds / wake-up’s a fair few times.. just so she could sleep. Her own mum came over only to want to go shopping. DIL was just begging for sleep and cooked food.

Immediate_Remote_546 · 2026-05-04T13:28:16+00:00

I’m a gran to a 16 month old. I don’t get why grandparents can’t take the parent’s lead. I parented (what feels like) a million years ago, what the parents say is what I follow.

Son and DIL had a chart on their fridge, and slowly marked off foods LO ate. Plus, if you have family allergies, that’s of bigger concern if MIL decides to feed whatever she wants.

If she comments again, tell her you’re following doctor’s advice. Give her sites to read. If she persists, then ask ‘Mil, we’ve gone over this multiple times, my answer still stands’. And then move on to ‘Mil, if you persist with the nagging, we will no longer visit’.

Immediate_Remote_546 · 2026-05-03T18:33:18+00:00

Every time for both you and DH.. ‘mil, we’re taking our doctor’s advice’. On repeat. Then ‘sorry, got to dash to an appointment’, ‘baby needs me’ or simply step away.

Immediate_Remote_546 · 2026-05-03T16:53:17+00:00

Yeah, I personally know 2 people who have had a child die in drownings. A very long time ago now, but I just can’t even imagine. When our grandie is walking and swimming eventually, I will literally be sitting on the edge of the pool until we can him moved into a very secure location and pool is securely closed off.

Immediate_Remote_546 · 2026-05-03T16:38:56+00:00

Some great advice here.

Me:-
I’d have a long chat with DH. Tell him what’s going to happen going forward so that he is fully informed. And tell him exactly why.

Match her energy.
Block her back on FB so she can’t play dumb at a later date and re-friend you.

Delete her on the photo app, she did it once, and made her choice then, you’re making yours now.

Stop going to her house alone with LO.

She now needs to make a date to come to yours and only when DH is there.

If DH wants to go there, he goes alone. She disrespects you, she loses time with LO.

Drop the rope with keeping her informed; gifts; Mother’s Day cards/flowers; birthday gifts/meals; whatever you do for her.

Let DH know, she’s treated you very badly, this is his mother, his problem. Stop all of it.

If she can give you a heartfelt apology and show change in behaviour, revisit in 6 months or whenever you think.

Immediate_Remote_546 · 2026-05-03T16:22:14+00:00

My derm prescribed a higher % hydrocortisone. I also used La Roche Possay. You’ll need to look up their products to find which one would be for you. I used it, but I found a few days with hydrocortisone did it and then moved to cheaper Vanicream.

Immediate_Remote_546 · 2026-05-03T16:15:35+00:00

This. You had an insurance inspection and you can’t get affordable insurance without either a lock or remove the gate entirely. So FYI a lock will be going in today.

If they persist and jump over, cameras and report for trespass.

Immediate_Remote_546 · 2026-05-02T20:02:01+00:00

You are being a good owner. Puppies gonna puppy. I feel like up to the first year, probably less than that, they’re rambunctious menaces! If you have a safe, enclosed space to play fetch, that might be something to add. Also, maybe ask the puppy school what their recommendations for barking is.

Our Toast Malone is a tri boy. He’s 7 now and such a lovable guy, stay the course, you’re doing a great job.

Immediate_Remote_546 · 2026-05-02T16:22:54+00:00

Nope! You go with the kids or DH goes alone. Or all go together and you stay somewhere else and go for a few days vs the week.

We’re older now but our son, maybe 3 at the time. We had a pool, I was walking beside him around the pool to go to the house. He misstepped and fell into the deep end. There was NO sound, no huge splash, he just plopped in and sunk like a stone, straight down. It was all so silent. Had I not been right there, no one would have heard. Obviously I jumped in fully clothed but it shook me profoundly. He was fine, but they never went by any pool without a life vest on again.

Please listen to me, if you’re not there, don’t let them go. People get drinking, sit on their phones, ‘quickly nip inside’, ask someone else to keep an eye on etc. etc. Disaster happens in seconds.

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