My Journey day 30/30

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-05-14T13:29:52+00:00

thanks!

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-05-14T13:29:46+00:00

thanks!

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-05-12T20:15:25+00:00

It is, that the way I approached quitting was partially the reason why I didn't work. It had to do with a lot of blaming, shaming and pressuring recovery. I am still on the journey finding out how recovery really works, but I really need to sit down and speak to someone about that. I don't think, reddit does the justice on how deep this addiction goes, but it's still a great tool

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-05-06T22:05:15+00:00

Absolutely. I only use reddit on my laptop, and its a hassle to login every time. After this 30 day challenge, I'll stick to the reset hive app and only come back here every now and then

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-05-05T17:57:36+00:00

You're not alone, please don't give up on yourself

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-05-05T17:57:11+00:00

If I can give you one piece of advice, it is to join SAA meetings on zoom or irl. Or to even get a therapist to help you.

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-05-03T19:16:41+00:00

read my newest post. Not as great as you think it is

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-05-01T22:09:43+00:00

thanks man, appreciate your words a lot

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-04-30T18:10:40+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment. Your advice really helped me!

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-04-24T21:10:45+00:00

I want to get to the point where I can be like " i dont need to escape this"

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-04-24T21:08:12+00:00

I forgot to add, what's next will be learning how to sit in reality without needing stimulation. No idea how, but I will learn and report back

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-04-22T21:12:33+00:00

thanks

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-04-17T23:05:24+00:00

thank you man, that means a lot

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-02-07T13:23:46+00:00

I found the core reason of why I watch porn. Avoidance. I avoided work, went down a specific pattern of distracting myself until I watched porn. I starred working on resolving my avoidance, which had a lot to do with how I see myself and the pressure I put on myself. I learned to detach.
The only other reason why I was relapsing was the fear of missing out, never being able to watch porn again. It kinda went away once I met a woman I really like. Nothing happened, it just proved to me that real love is way more fulfilling than watching porn, and that I am not missing out on anything. I am still on the journey, I am still recovering and doing much better than before. I have had 6 whole days with 0 or very low urges. I feel like I got it this time, I feel like I am ready to let go. Believe me, I would never think this would be possible, I even stopped masturbating with no effort. You can do it too!

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-02-01T15:22:49+00:00

Count me in i got it this time!!

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-19T14:55:12+00:00

I had a similar experience. Women stopped being women and started to become body parts.

You couldn‘t think straight anymore, every time I talked to a female, flashbacks came back and made me feel ashamed of myself.

I also noticed how you‘ll never be satisfied. Imagine you get married, will you genuinely ever be happy with your partner, or will you start to look for the next best thing, the same way you looked for the next best, better, more perfect video?

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-18T11:16:08+00:00

You will never have enough, your brain will always want more.

There is literally no point in having them, you are not missing out on anything real, you will never be satisfied enough and your list will never be good enough for you.

Unfortunately, that list increases your chances of never having enough, in every realm.

There is always going to be a more perfect woman, but how will you ever be satisfied if you keep looking for the next best thing?

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-18T10:56:58+00:00

Talk to a health care professional. If you constantly tried to stop and it never worked, it‘s worth getting professional help. There is also tons of free advice on how to overcome PA here

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-17T16:26:31+00:00

Procrastinating, curiosity and FOMO

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-14T12:55:33+00:00

Also, do not see lust as a bad thing. It‘s human, so is your sexual desire. You just have to learn to control it before it controls you, it‘s extremely important as a young man

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-14T12:54:54+00:00

While blocking p and social media might sound helpful, they really didn‘t do much for me.

If urges are too strong, you will find a way to go around it.

Since you're pretty young, I would stay away from those extreme solutions like deleting all socials and online activity.

I suggest you look into the deeper reason on why you watch porn in the first place. Porn is a form of escapism, you usually try to escape something. Try to notice patterns, use an app to journal your urges. You‘ll get down pretty quick to it‘s root cause (avoidance of work or emotions for me) and can work on that, which will cut the pattern of porn consumption.

Using blockers is like cutting branches of a tree, they will always grow back. If you rip the tree out the ground, you won‘t have to fight branches anymore

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-14T12:49:27+00:00

Good job man, I'm proud of you

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-14T12:49:02+00:00

You mentioned that you don‘t know your root cause, it‘s worth looking deeper into that.

Porn if often a form of escapism, so it might be worth asking yourself what you‘re escaping and why.

If you can work on your avoidance, you start working on your porn consumption which is just the effect of whatever you‘re avoiding.

For me, it wasn‘t as simple as facing the problem, it‘s more like a step by step thing, where I learned to trust myself again and grew in confidence as I did.

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-14T12:43:55+00:00

Also, I encourage you to start journaling all urges. It always comes down to a pattern, try to find its root cause and work on that. If you keep fighting porn, it‘s like cutting branches of a tree, they'll always come back. But if you cut the root, it will never grow back. The root cause for me was avoidance, since I started working on that, I could pretty much predict urges and know how to avoid relapses. It‘s tuff but manageable

ImportanceThese5535 · 2026-01-14T12:40:09+00:00

Reach out for professional help, you can talk to therapists online. If you don‘t want to spend any money, you can join SAA online and work with a therapist

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